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hassinho707:
You are the one who is clearly confused here.

Let me educate you.

No body is talking of a woman being or not being under the authority of a man here. You are the one who has come out with that one.

This is where I even support this matter. Take for example, a woman who got married before her NYSC and wants her husband's name on her NYSC certificate, and later, she's no longer with that her husband maybe do to divorce or death, and maybe she now happened to marry another man.

What name do you think should be on the NYSC certificate after marrying a another husband?

A woman can marry more than one husband in her life time, and do you think NYSC would have that time to be changing the names on her certificate? NO, but her father will always remain her father whether dead or alive.

Do you understand now?

Allahumo Barik

Magnoliaa:
I am convinced this thing is a mental illness at this point. And you guys are not just preaching for the sake of 'correcting' anything in women, if at all you wanted to and women were 'crooked'.

You guys love the sound of your own voices so much. Just like the woke people you point fingers at, you're just as guilty of a performance of morality. You nitpick on women's perceived or real flaws to feel better about yours. You don't actually care to be a good person or a better friend or lover, just spew a bunch on words online, condemn others, and you go about your day, feeling like a good person, and making no actual measured change, after having projected your own shortcomings to an 'object' apart of you.

THIS is literally a thread of a man calling out women's 'bad behaviour' but it actually is not enough for you. You're still saying that no one points out women's sins.

Nine out of ten times when this man trends, it is because he has said something derogatory about women.

Off the top of my head, these are times preachers (men) have gone viral online in the past weeks for preaching to women:

- Iren compared women to cellotapes

- One told women to confess righteousness, abi it is faithfulness out of their cheating husbands

- One told women to stop addressing their husbands as "baby." Because appaz, a pet name undermines his position as a head.

- Another was of a woman basically policing what women wear.

Kingsley Okonkwo and his wife are there too, with their feminism-tackling posts.


Is it today that these things started? From Eve to Jezebel to Vashti to witch trials, there has never been a time when you people haven't hammered on women being inherently bad.


Mind you, your kind of women have equally existed, if not more than the "bad women", but it'll never be enough. Until all women are robots only catering to a single purpose as you wish. But I know even a world of perfectly conditioned and programmed women will not still make y'all content. No, given your proclivity to "forcing" sexual expression out of women and affirming your virility as a man, you'd much rather there remain a sub group of unpartnered women to cater to your sexual whims.

And it's also funny when y'all see changed women.

There is no time a woman who was living a 'fast' or depraved life changes, and turns her lifestyle and beliefs around that you people will not be seething and throwing tantrums. For the way you rail against women living recklessly, one would think you'd glad about women who quit doing so, just exactly as you wanted, but no. You'll call her a hypocrite. Say a leopard doesn't change its spots. Says she'll forever be what she once was. One wonders what the point of your pontification is then if you still despise women who've turned new leaves.

There is no room for redemption in your worldview. Women are inherently bad and they must ultimately suffer, eternally for it. Even Jesus nor do pass una. He preached righteousness and salvation in equal dose, but you people will be parading yourselves as conservative followers of His, while solely focusing on a message that crucifies and kills the spirit.

You just want to take and take and punish and continue to have women suffering for never being moral enough. You'll actually extend more grace to a "repented rapist" than to a woman who used to be in the porn industry.


Shame on all of you.

This is nothing but the truth and it's so sad 😢

cococandy:
He should’ve asserted his masculine dominance by not giving birth to girls 🤣

Omooooo.😂😂😂. He should really have🤣🤣

cococandy:
Thank you

Sorry it was too long. There’s so much more to the conversation than what I even typed. I had to stop somewhere

I understand ma. These men think their money is what all women are surviving on. All of them take 100% responsibility of their home ONLINE but the reality is offline for everyone to see. Shior

cococandy:
Okay this is where the lies and propaganda have taken root and fueled a narrative that is so blatantly untrue it hurts to even try to debunk it. Pardon the long post.

The average child support per month in America is around $400/child. Obviously some people pay more and others pay less. I’ve seen people pay around $100 a month because they’re so low income & that’s what the judge decided they can afford. The upper end is around $700. There’s nowhere in America where this money is going to fund a champagne lifestyle. You ask why is it even paid. The reason why it’s paid out is to help support the custodial parent’s expenses on the kid. Should they get nothing at all? What men need to do is to stop complaining about it as if they’re being oppressed for taking care of their children. Or as if the moms are getting rich from it.

The custodial parent still ends up paying more than the one paying child support. So what are these dads complaining about? They are getting these measly amounts per month in addition to being the parent who’s responsible for everything else not financial. Depending on the age of the kid, you get to be the parent doing late nights, sick nights, game days, pick up and drop off, extra curricular activities, doctors and dentist appointments, laundry grocery planning, cleaning, cooking and of course everything else they need at home.

God forbid the kid needs braces, or likes to do basketball, ballet or piano lessons etc. you the custodial parent has to decide if giving your kid a well rounded childhood is something you can do outside of the basics like food and shelter. Most times these divorced dads don’t even want to hear about anything like that. There’s no way the parents who are paying between $400-$700 per child aren’t the ones getting off easy. What these men really want to is get divorced and walk away with zero responsibility.

Child care alone cost me $24,000 last year. Just daycare for my little one and afterschool program for my older one. This is normal. It’s not an exaggerated amount to pay in child care fees. If I were a single mom who obviously has to keep a job in order to live, would $700/month child support cut that? Do the math.

And before someone asks “why put the kids in daycare if you want custody?” Well because if I don’t, then I’ll need to be a stay home mom and the man would have to pay me alimony. The horror right? Such a gold digger that can’t go get a job. Why expect a man you’re not married to to still fund your life?. Women are getting the short end of this deal no matter how it’s twisted. We only hear about the rich dudes paying what seems to be ostentatious and just imagine that’s what all single moms are getting. That’s why I encourage more moms to leave the kids with the dads and pay them child support since they think it’s such a great deal.

If I were to get divorced tomorrow, I would gladly pay $3,000 a month. I have two kids. That’s $1,500 per kid. I’d gladly pay that if someone else would be made to supplement the rest of it. Heck I’d gladly pay $4,000 knowing very well that it costs more than that to raise a child in America per month. Their dad would have to cough up roughly the same amount of money to balance it out in addition to doing all the work involved in physically raising them while I get to be the cool parent who breezes in on weekends and holidays and gripe about how much I’m paying.




Different women want different things. Most women will say they want a balance between the two.

I don’t really understand the last question.

This ma'am. THIS👍

Dhejy7:
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Okay

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You're right. Thank you

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