₦airaland Forum

@olaak hahaha, no not Nigerian. We're both American.
@Jenny2007, Thanks, I'm also glad he's honest enough not to string me along. I do appreciate that. Your advice not to wait is good advice, but I think in my case I should focus on work and avoid pursuing any guys. Meanwhile, I'll wait and see how he's doing over the next year or so.
@4wardever hmmm, I think what makes a man ready for a relationship heading toward marriage (ie a courtship) is that he has a good job, emotional maturity, and at least some practical plans for his future.

I didn't sin. sheez.

Yes, I believe it is.
This was very helpful.

Thanks Killz. Your comment is very rational. It is similar to what my parents told me. Since he needs to be alone, I should certainly let him be that way, though I can be present in his life as a friendly ear. I suppose that if he stops contacting me completely that is when he has really become completely uninterested.

Thank you, Slim

Lol xynerise, of course the forum changed my word to 'intimate', but I mean we were not having %^*. Of course it was intimate in the romantic sense otherwise.

Fair point. Fair point.
But it was never a sexual relationship, so I doubt he was only interested in my 'kpekus';p.

Hi,
I am very upset - my boyfriend broke up with me after two months because he said he is not ready for a relationship. He thought he was, but then started to notice he's not over my predecessor's screwing him over. His soon-to-be-ex wife got pregnant by someone else while he was stationed overseas in Korea, where I am now teaching. He has now returned to the U.S. I will still be here for another six months.
He appears to have good self confidence, great interest in me, respect for me, and honesty. We remain in contact over the Internet, but I miss him and wonder if we can get back together later. It's only been about nine months since he discovered his soon-to-be-ex wife's infidelity, so I understand he is not ready. However, they were married not even two years and saw one another little in that time, so it's not as bad as if they were married many years and had children. I want him back, but I am prepared to wait. Is this a reasonable hope?
Thanks