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Ekugbeh:
Op! There's a life for everyone

How does this answer my question though?

lilmax:
it goes from a girl to a woman.... a girl wants someone that treats her badly, a woman wants someone that treats her nicely

but in evolution from a girl to a woman, that's when most of them are being used, and at the end dump the lifestyle style and start getting serious at 25

do I want a girl? NO.... do I want a woman? NO

I want a lady who didn't pass through that phase of being used before having common sense

So are you saying that there are ladies that the redpill theory doesn't apply to? Have you had experiences with this kind of women?

Cc Dominique Mynd44 Lalasticlala

Over the years, I have internalized certain notions about women; about their nature, about their behavior and about what they want from a guy. A lot of these notions are the sort that you'd find within the rubric of redpill philosophy. For those who might be oblivious to what redpill philosophy is, it's essentially an alternative to the disney-isque narrative that society sells us. The philosophy proposes that women don't really want a guy that cares for them and treats them well, but that what they want is a guy that treats them like shit and exercises dominance over them. It proposes that women should be complimented rarely and that men should deprive them of attention, except in cases when they've done something for the man to deserve it. It also advocates selfishness on the part of a man and the prioritizing of a man's need over his woman.

Now the interesting thing about this amoral philosophy is that it works on a lot of women. Many men have presented testimonies of how they were able to make their women more attracted to them, more loyal to them and more committed to keeping them, just by applying this philosophy. On the other side of the divide, there have also been stories of men who were super nice to their women, who treated their women preciously and gave them all the attention and showed them all the care, but all this wasn't enough to inspire commitment or improve attraction, rather they were disrespected and in most cases cheated on.

Despite subscribing to this philosophy and even employing it successfully in my own relationships, I am still unsure about the validity of this theory as to whether it applies to every woman. When ladies are asked what they want in a man, no one says she wants a guy who treats her like shit. No one says she wants a guy who is tightfisted with his attention. They all say the same thing about wanting a guy who loves them, cares for them, and treats them as if they were special. If that's the case, then are all these women lying to themselves? Or are they confused about what they really want? Or are there some that are actually saying the truth?

I have spent a lot of time thinking about this whole redpill philosophy and I find myself being tilted to the position that it doesn't work for all women and the reason why it seems like it does is because it's only the men who were successful with employing it that come out to give testimonies. I also think that the reason why there are abounding stories of men who treated women well and got served the knife is because men who have bad relationships would be more vocal than those who have good relationships, and the fact that there are men who constantly shower their women with love and attention and still get cheated on, lied to and disrespected, doesn't mean there aren't men who do the same and inspire love, commitment, and respect from their women.

So ladies and gents of Nairaland, please rescue me from this conundrum. Does redpill philosophy apply to every woman? Are all women really the same? Are there women who all they want is a guy who would respect them, treat them well, shower them with attention and compliment them frequently? Guys please share your experiences about women who the redpill doesn't apply to if you have had these experiences.

Warning: Please if the only contribution you are going to make on this thread is to say things like: "All women want is money." "Make money and women will love you and commit to you" and other simplistic comments emphasizing money, then please don't comment.