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Intelligentdude:
Helo,Goodmorning.

The amount of money you have is more than enough to start running your company,all you need is an experience business developer/sales consultant.

The first coy I worked with is a Software company in Lekki,guess what,the CEO started the coy from his bedroom(one room)with a side stool.I bet you will be surprise if I tell you that an entry level java developer earns 150k excluding other allowance in the Coy today(the coy started in 2009).

It is not enough to have technical prowess,you should also be very sound in business development/Sales if you want to succeed in the software industry.

Software programmers(especially Java developers) are in high demand in Nigeria,I believe you should do more research of high paying software coys.

Guess you have heard of System Spec,Qrios,L5Lab,AppZone,Seamfix,Terragon(Digital marketing coy but programmers are well taken care of).Cheers

Food for thought: The best writers are usually not the best sellers.So it is not really about the complexity of your software but more about the selling of your software.

Thanks a lot for this....I guess I will work on the startup idea and get a business development personnel then.It is a risk I might just be willing to take. I have only heard of System spec , seamfix and terragon. I worked for a while in a top IT company in Nigeria but realized most staffs are on contract and most roles are routine check up and monitoring, barely adding any experience to the developer. Thanks a lot for this piece, guess I will explore my feasibility from here

I am currently doing my masters in the UK not to mention that I have gathered years of experience in Web development as a freelancer and Java Programming. I am just fed with looking for Job. Every one says I should not come back to Nigeria as the country is not rosy atm. I have applied for jobs here in the UK and have gone through most interviews to a very good state and they suddenly drop me at about the final stage. Even those that promised to give feedback on y they did never got back to me. I want to believe this is because they do not want to sponsor Visa. I currently have about 1500 pounds(maybe about 750k naira with current exchange rate) I have managed to save. I was thinking of going into tech startup once I am back but again, the money cannot do much. I was told most companies do not even employ in Nigeria atm due to economic crises. I really don't know what to do next with my life. Although I am still applying for Jobs here. What would you guys do?

lufemi:
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bardella1:
I understand yu OP
Buh did u ask her out..cos if u did,m sure u wuld av known u dnt lik her body shape
Or was it justa frnd tin dat turned to a relationship nd den commitment

Again is she stick thin or wat

bardella1:
nd op didn't reply me

so Sorry,to answer your question, I think the latter fits the scenario, she was a very wonderful friend and sentiments took over we have a great relationship until I was not just finding the sexual attractiveness, she is skinny but her parents are not.

firstking01:
See this one ...this is purely misplaced priority...are you marrying the girl or her shape...
Too Many Nonsense Threads Since Todae

You were not compelled to post, I believe their is enough hypocrisy i the word , they will say it doesnt matter and u later catch them cheating, I don't want to ever be in that league of people. I have sincerely learnt today from these people. Have a lovely evening

DragonReborn:
Hmmm. In your quest to show the shallowness of beauty, you made references to 'beautiful' people who had people with less beauty chosen over them. This may sound controversial, but the worth of something may not be equal to the value placed on it by its beholder. If I give my dog a pearl necklace to play with, it would gladly shit on it for a juicy bone. This does not mean pearls are worthless, it just means my dog couldn't appreciate its worth. OP's fiancee is no doubt a great catch and any man would be lucky to have her, but what sense is there in appreciating something because others find it precious? This is a man who knows physical attraction is vital and he doesn't want to cheat. He can get an intelligent woman he finds attractive, unless curvy intelligent women have gone extinct.
This is why many marriages fail, because people consider values other people appreciate; "don't be foolish he's a nice man, they're rare", "she's from a good family" etc. All those things are important, but above all, make sure you're satisfied with the person physically, emotionally and mentally.

This was exactly what I thought before the question was asked......But after hearing all these. I think I will do my best to sincerely discuss the issue with her in a way that she would not take offense and maybe we start visiting the gym together. I am just very happy that you were very real about the approach. This was a very practical approach, thanks

Oahray:
Na wa o. So there are humans that would see brains and instead choose beauty for long-term commitments? Beauty that's a fading illusion?

Op, have you ever wondered how intelligent, resourceful or sexually attractive she finds you? The truth might be a bit humbling.

If you aren't sure about someone, let her be. Stop acting like some flawless human searching for his equivalent.

Thanks a lot for this post, I think I am appreciating the perspective of asking her what she also thinks

skarlett:
choosing beauty over brains is like choosing Alomo over Vodka, Mr Ibu over Denzel Washington or edible catering over Tiwa Savage
The truth is most times the content is more important than the container because like everyone else has opined, outward beauty will fade with time and you'd be left with the husk

Appreciate the humor in the response and message is passed also! thanks

Adaezeagu:
What do men really want?
Always looking for complete package when they are not complete

Well, life is all about choices and healthy compromise ma'am. That I am not perfect does not deny me of thinking of what I want

chriskosherbal:
Hello my dear, beauty is good, but can also fade away with time, especially if such lady lacks good character, with time her beauty becomes ugly to you.
As for this not too curvy lady, according to you, but brilliant and responsible, I don't think she is that bad, my friend work on her, her diet should be changed, give her food that will produce more flesh, which can be converted to curves in the gym, let her work out and I promise she will look good.
Just try and invest on her.

Thanks a lot for this, I think I will act on this advice

lardeipo:
oju kokoro kii tan lara omo eniyan.

lool I rather seek help about my "Ojukokoro" than cheat on her atleast

nigeriancritic1:
"E ma t'ori ewa f'aya s'ile, iwa ni ewo... Iwa ni ewo oo j'are"_King Sunny Ade

Easy to say, but I believe this is part of the reason married people cheat also

I have an issue that I really want people to contribute, I have a girlfriend, she is a very responsible girl and extremely brilliant(She has lived almost all her life on scholarship and finished with a first class),a very good cook too and loved and respected by all my friends cos she is very good at making friends. I love everything about her values. BUT to tell you the honest truth, my ultimate problem is that she is not endowed at all , she is always willing to change and try about anything I want but I am not sure I can do anything about this. She is pretty tho but I am afraid I might cheat on her if she doesn't add a little bit of curves, I see some ladies and just wish she had a little of theirs. We are set to marry soon but I am becoming skeptical. I really do not want to break her and I really need to be helped on this! Should I go ahead with a lady I don't find sexually attractive just because she is responsible?