makydebbie:
Open a diary no one gives a fvck about your opinion dear one minute man.

You don't care about my opinion but you commented in response to it, insulted me because of it and even offered an advice.

You are a big joke.

xendra:
absolutely no need for you to have a girlfriend

please just stay single forever, girls do not deserve your kind (duchebags) for boyfriends.

Jodha:


He's obviously a one minute man...he just said it...

You girls can't help but show your disgust at the fact that there are men who don't make women their priority. You can't handle the fact that there are few men who don't put you at the center of their lives like most men do.

See this one calling me a douchebag because I said I don't need a girlfriend. The other one is convinced I'm a one minute man because I said I'm not a sex freak.
So a man that isn't obsessed with sex must be a one minute man? Well I hate to break it to you but there are better, more satisfying things in life than your pussy.

Society has fed me bullshit for too long through media and movies. I've been single for years now and I've never experienced so much freedom and peace in my life. My life is so stress free and I don't have to deal with all the problems my friends in relationship deal with. Most of my time is devoted to my work and self development.

I've come to realize that it is women who need relationships, not men and yet it's them that are the architects of majority of the problems that come with relationships.

SenecaTheYonger:
same here, except she's financially independent and STD free - I don't even care if she's not good looking. These fine girls are mostly financial and health baggage damn!!!!

The bolded is so true.

I'm not a novice on this subject. I have had some experience with women in the past. But through these experiences and deep thinking I've come to realize that having a girlfriend is pointless and comes with a lot of baggage that I'd rather not deal with.

In my opinion there are only three benefits of having a girlfriend.
1. For Sex
2. For social clout( If she is good looking)
3. For companionship.

Let me break each down and tell you why I don't give a fuçk about any of those benefits.

1. Sex: I'm not a sex freak, in fact my libido is very low. And even if I want to have sex with a lady, I prefer one night stands with strangers where I don't have to keep up contact with them after the sex. I'm very promiscuous and so I can't even do the whole one guy - one woman nonsense. But bear in mind that sex with women is very low on my priority list. I could go weeks without sex and not be overwhelmed with konji.

2. Social clout: Women who are so hot that being their boyfriend gives you social cred are often so high maintenance that the cred they give you pales in comparison to the financial expenses you will make in maintaining their lifestyle. Then there is the constant attention they are going to get from other men and the fact that you'd have to literally "work" to make sure she is getting everything she needs from you so she won't give in to the attention. I'd honestly rather invest my money, time and energy in making money than invest it in sustaining a relationship with a hot woman who will still cheat on me anyway.

3. Companionship: I honestly do not yearn for the companionship of a woman or anyone at all. I'm very okay being by myself and even if I want to hang out with people, experience has thought me that male friends are actually better to hang out with because not only do they have your back everytime, you don't have to deal with the burden of trying to please the. constantly. Also women tend to be very shallow and quality time that involves intellectual discussions is almost never possible with them, especially the attractive ones. In fact the more intellectual the conversation goes, the less interesting you become to the typical attractive Nigerian girl. These ones just want to have fun and talk about shallow nonsense.

If you think there is any benefit in having a girlfriend in Nigeria other than these three that I've done my best to deconstruct a d argue against, please change my view.

twhy111:
When you have the cash, I mean lots of it, ladies are gonna give you all the light weather green, blue abi black without hiding it.

At the sight of money, they already started a relationship with you in their minds. When you have the cash, I mean lots of it, ladies are gonna give you all the light weather green, blue abi black without hiding it.

At the sight of money, they already started a relationship with you in their minds.

Everything isn't always about money bro. A woman can like a guy for other qualities besides money. What if a girl finds a guy physically attractive and just wants to have sex with him?

vickydankal:
It is really subtle, especially if a lady is a church person like me. I gave my husband green, blue, brown even white light before he could understand.

Attack him
Appreciate him
Laugh at his jokes that are not funny
For the spiritual ones. Tell him I'm praying for him
Find an opportunity to talk/greet to him
Second his comment in meetings etc

The bolded is exactly how most men are. We find it hard to determine whether these gestures you mentioned are hints of attraction or just the case of a girl being nice and friendly.

Zangazanga:
Take them to a traffic light and kiss them when it turns green.

Dry.

Before you ladies respond to this, I'll like to say that most of you are simply cowards. Why waste time making subtle gestures towards a guy you like in hopes that he will read your gestures as greenlights when you can simply just walk up to him and tell him you like him? A lot of us would appreciate you more if you did this. Most guys can't even interpret your green lights and most of you in attempt to show these green lights end up giving mixed signals.

What's the point of giving green lights even? You fear rejection but yet you expect men to overcome their own fear of rejection and approach you?

Why would you have a crush on a guy but expect him to be the one to text or call you first? Why don't you be the first to text or call?

So in leiu or all this, please tell us guys how you indicate that you are attracted to is and explain how you expect us to proceed. How do you show your greenlights? What are those subtle behaviors we guys should look out for?