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No the plan for her to visit Canada was made before her Son's illness which only happened this weekend. She had already made arrangements to leave him in the care of her Pastor's family who she is apparently quite close to and often visits. They have never spoken of marriage outright but my friend would not be involved with a woman unless the possibility of marriage exists. She has verbally accepted the opportunity to come and they have planned a rough date but no ticket was purchased yet.

Thanks for the offer however I think i will bow out here. Thanks for replying and if nothing else was accomplished i had a peek at an interesting cross section of Nigerians, or at least people who post on a forum that is apparently Nigerian. What surreal place the Internet is.

Thanks again for reading.

She did give him the name and address of the hospital. Also he has called and spoke to the doctor. He also has her address and instead of visiting her wanted her to come here in winter to see her reaction of a Canadian winter in case they ever decide to marry. She never asked for money and was quite happy to accept a plane ticket if offered.

Since digital camera's are cheap you say (no actual figures have been thrown around) i will strongly suggest he get some more evidence.

Thanks for reading.

Ever heard the term "love is blind"? Sometimes friends can see things much more clearly as they can be impartial. I care about my friend, his financial condition and his heart. He is older than i am and never really embraced computers or the Internet.

The cost to purchase a digital camera or web cam in Canada would be $50 - $100. I have checked for him and to courier (FedEx) a digital camera and or web cam to Nigeria from Canada costs close to $500 CAD. I have been lead to believe that if we mail it the package will never reach her.

Yes i only heard about the sick boy needing an operation in the hospital this morning so that is why my suspicions have increased.

Yes my friend has paid for her passport. She has emailed him the passport and police report so he has copies. However she apparently paid for her Canadian Visa with USD which is not possible in my mind.

Do you use USD for any local shopping?

Yes unfortunately Nigeria is known worldwide for the scams that emanate from it's borders. He has spoken to her many times so she is definitely a woman, the answer to the three questions that i posed would assist in knowing whether she is truthful or not.

Hello all

I am a Canadian man that has never been to Africa. The reason i am here is to post a concern of mine to people that may be in the position to comment and hopefully a kind soul will give me their opinion.

A friend of mine has grown acquainted with a Nigerian woman that lives in Ogbomosho, Oyo State via the Internet. They have been corresponding for well over a year and are quite fond of each other. In fact they plan to meet as this woman has already applied for and received a police report, medical and visa to visit Canada. I have seen her photo and am impressed with her physical beauty. This woman seems like a very loving woman as she is always sending him either emails or texts in order to stay in touch and to share each others daily struggles and blessings etc. She also has a son from a previous relationship that is five years old and is presently in the hospital. She identifies herself as a Christian woman that is quite connected to her local church and her pastor has also been corresponding with my friend. She seems to have a heart for God as they will often pray together over the phone or encourage each other with scripture.

My concern is that she may not be what she says she is. I find some of her story inconsistent and hard to believe at times and i fear the possibility that my friend may be deceived. Some things that trouble me are:

1) all her expenditures in Ogbomosho are made in US currency. According to the Internet the currency should be Naira, is it possible that many vendors prefer to accept US $? Even the hospital apparently accepts US dollars?

2) she has only given him two photographs so far. When he has requested additional pictures of her, her son and church friends she has replied that she needs to call a photographer and that not all people in Ogbomosho have digital cameras. Is it common to have a photographer take photographs for you in this region of Nigeria instead of just snapping your own?

3) when my friend has asked her to buy a digital camera, web cam or new mobile phone that will take pictures she always informs him that the cost of goods is very expensive in Nigeria. How much would a web cam or digital camera cost in Ogbomosho?

Well i guess that is about it for now. Since my friend has been providing some financial assistance to this woman i would like to know that is is being well spent.

Please advise.