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I'm not surprised your pastor decision is confusing you judging by the way you narrated how your parent made you to come back home. OP, better get a hold of your life. When it's not as if you are a lady. Your parents are still pushing you here and there. You are still comfortably living under their roof and getting pushed around by your elders. When will that end?

You call yourself a graduate and you said you can handle a marital life with the 30k you are currently earning? Then what is stopping you from leaving your parent's house permanently, getting a place of your own and start making a matured grown man decisions for yourself. If you should later get married, is that when you will move out from their house (or you go carry your wife join them for that ur parent's house)?

Stop being a pushover. Take control of your life and know peace. If you don't change now and care is not taken, you might come back to NL again to ask for advise that "your parents are rejecting your new girlfriend after your pastor had already approved it or that your parents are against your new place of accommodation as it is far away from them".


Man up bro. Be taking their advice (your pastor and other elderly people you respect) like a suggestion (and not as a necessity), just like the way you will take advices on NL. If you should man up, It's only left for you to choose which way to follow but if you should remain as mummy's or daddy's boy, then they will keep trying to force things at you to follow at will.