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Once your bride price is not paid today, your prospective in-law, that is, your daughter’s fiancé, may have to pay your bride price along with your daughter’s.

This situation can become a nightmare, especially if the young man’s income is only average.

This kind of tradition occurs in several tribes in Akwa Ibom State, in the South-South region of Nigeria.

Recently, a young lady discovered that her mother’s bride price had never been paid by her father, even though they had lived together as husband and wife for decades.

To rectify the situation and avoid cultural embarrassment, she paid her mother’s bride price so that her own fiancé would not be burdened with the responsibility of paying both bride prices.

This reportedly happened in one of the local government areas in Akwa Ibom State.

However, when a double bride price situation arises, it can become deeply awkward and emotionally complicated.

This may place financial and psychological pressure on the man involved, especially if he has an average income.

In some cases, this pressure can lead to resentment or strained relationships within the family.

In another instance, the man may neglect the marriage ritual out of frustration, causing the woman to return to singlehood.

Even when the man is kind-hearted and willing to proceed without complaint, there is still a possibility that, at some point in the future, he may bring up the sacrifices he made and the financial burden he carried during the marriage process.

Such reminders can create tension in the relationship and affect family harmony.

Beyond the financial aspect, these complications can also have a ripple effect on the emotional and psychological well-being of the couple and may indirectly affect the children as well.

Therefore, it becomes important for African men and women to ensure that cultural obligations regarding marital arrangements are properly fulfilled so as to avoid situations of double bride price and prevent future resentment.

Ultimately, the bride price that is not paid today often becomes a source of complication in the future

John Cena will never be 'ready' to have children

John Cena doesn't think he will ever be "personally ready" to be a dad.

The 'Blockers' actor - who is married to Shay Shariatzadeh - has a lot he wants to do with his own life and admitted he doesn't see having children in his future as a result.

Speaking on the 'Club Shay Shay' podcast, he said: “I have a certain curiosity about life, and I also know the investment that it takes.
“As somebody who’s driven, many times stubborn and selfish, I try to approach the world with kindness and curiosity ... but I don’t think I’m personally ready, nor will I ever be, to invest the time [needed] to be a great parent.
“I want to live life for all it is. I still have a lot to do.”

The 47-year-old star admitted he and Shay have had "open conversations" about raising a family but ultimately found themselves to be "on the same page".

John began the "uncomfortable" discussions very early in their relationship.
He said: "I opened with a few uncomfortable conversations.

“Those were first or second date questions with my now-wife. It’s great because we both got to lean into these uncomfortable moments, address this stuff and build a foundation.”

And as a result of the intense chats so early in their romance, "nothing is off the table" between the couple.

John said: “Nothing is too uncomfortable to be unapproachable. Starting off with a conversation about … what is the definition of our family … helped us forge a path together as a team.”

The WWE star admitted in 2022 he didn't feel "qualified" to be a parent and doesn't have the "passion" for fatherhood.

Appearing on 'The Drew Barrymore Show', he said when the host declared he'd be the "world's greatest father" because of his philanthropic efforts and his temperament: “I think just because you might be good at something, for me, is not a strong enough reason to do that.
“You have to have a passion for it. You have to have a fuel for it.”