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Justnation:
Suicide is an act of cowardice and a ticket to hell fire.

Face the problem squarely, leave the toxic relationship and return to your parents like the prodigal son.

Pick up your life and move on, the Sun will always shine tomorrow.

Premiumbuy:
Premium Be Unto You
I'm a violence type of person. I don't like people taking me for granted, but now I'm realizing that, " the energy we spend trying to "win" often costs us peace of mind, relationships, and even time we can't get back."

Sandyrice:
Hello sir/ma

Sirkingsnado:
Good Day Everyone.

I hope some of you all might had forgotten me,
Actually am the guy that made a post title
About to wed a prostitute.

Some months back.

After the set and done she abort the baby.
Ever since then I promise to be by her side

She has stopped being a sex worker ever since then and do come and spend some months with me here in rano

Our relationship is being known by the both families although I didn't open up to any of my relatives how I meet her, only my friends and area people knows about her past


Had made up my mind to wife her.

Am not even planning on relocating again

I just engage her some weeks ago

Igbo boy going to marry a tiv girl

Wish me luck hommies.


Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/8314809/wed-prostitute

Ibkay32:
Doctors online, What’s the cause of having a big or pointed navel like this?

MONEY247:
It's a ticking time bomb. Y'all think it's a joke until it becomes no joke...
Hmmm
I just sit and watch how even here on nairaland, people keep promoting tribal bigotry and extremism from people who don't have experience of conflict or war or severe rioting....I am not talking about endsars...

When you see conflict you will understand...
Seun On his part is slow and sluggish to fish papetrators of tribal discrimination propagandists and just seats and watch as his platform wrecks evil....

Keep thinking it's a joke till you start sleeping with two eyes open.... that time your land, house, children families would understand the brutality of conflict.....

Just so you know
I have been in a riot
I have been in gun conflict
I have seen jet throw bombs...

You gonna learn the hard way...

Keep doing your rubbish

essentialone1:
But some unmarried people are happier than married people

immortalcrown:
Socialzation is different from worldliness.

Socialization is a survival skill.

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! What about her too nice/kind to him when he was down on his luck?

Sandyrice:
Hello, can I do a remote job for you and earn? What kind of remote job do you have? I can fit in perfectly.

Merry100:
Most ladies who are genuinely in love find it hard to burden their partner financially, especially when they know he's going through tough times. But if a man has money and still makes no financial effort toward his partner, it can come across as a lack of love or emotional investment because most men who are truly in love naturally go out of their way to show it, including through giving.

At the same time, a woman who is truly in love will also give in her own way. She may buy her partner gifts or even support him financially during hard times; not out of obligation, but because she genuinely cares. Love is never just about receiving; it's about mutual effort and care.

It's actually a good thing he left her. He should find someone who genuinely loves him. At the same time, love shouldn't be one-sided. He needs to be kind and emotionally present too.

Many women are emotionally expressive, and once they're in love, it becomes quite visible. A relationship shouldn't just exist for the sake of it; it should have depth, meaning, and mutual care. It is important to put in effort to nurture the relationship. Often, it's the little things a man does that make a woman feel loved and secure.

When two people are truly in love, they tend to understand each other almost effortlessly. Even the standards they initially set can naturally soften over time. More often than not, it's external factors; like jealousy, gossip, or third parties; that create conflict between them, not the absence of love.

ofinglobal:
GMO or not, Nigeria’s real issue isn’t even farming. It’s that half of our food spoils before it gets to the market.

We’re busy debating seeds while tomatoes turn to soup inside buses.

Cold rooms are the real cheat code. Fix storage first.

And honestly, GMO is not the answer. We don’t need it. If we ever get to that level of desperation, maybe then. But for now, that shouldn't be our priority. Goverment should support farmers in preserving their farm produce

zanshi:
Wadoh you dey whine??

My ex babe asked me for 500kpa to rent house told her i have mad expenses but will give you the money in bits till she it gets competed cos i had a bad experience previous year all in the name of renting house for babe, she got the money from someone else and started giving attitude till relationship packed up

This was a babe i asked you wan rent house how much you get she talk say she no get anything but she dey expect ajo soonest.


You see this our generation ehh na money for hand back for ground.

Kalatium:
Unpopular Truth: No Woman Has the Power to Friendzone You — You Friendzoned Yourself

Let’s be real for a second, guys. The whole "friendzone" talk? It’s tired.

How many of you have said:

"She friendzoned me after all I did for her."
"She just wants to be friends, but I thought we had something."

Bro. She didn’t friendzone you. You friendzoned yourself.

Here’s how 👇


She Told You She’s Not Interested… But You Stayed

She told you:

"You’re like a brother to me"

"I’m not ready for a relationship"

"You’re so sweet, I don’t want to lose you as a friend"

And instead of saying “Cool, all the best” and moving on, what did you do?

You stayed.

You started texting her more.
You listened to her talk about other guys.
You were there every time she cried, ranted, or got bored.

All while hoping she would "see your worth someday."

That’s not loyalty. That’s self-inflicted pain. That’s emotional simp work.

You Have the Power to Say “No” Too

Here’s the cheat code:
You don’t have to accept her friendship.
You can reject the offer. Politely. Calmly. Respectfully.

Being her friend isn’t your punishment—it’s your choice.

And if you know you want more than friendship and she doesn’t, respect yourself enough to walk away.

Friendzone = Lost Time + Emotional Damage

Let’s break down what staying in the friendzone really costs you:

Your self-respect

Your time (months or even years wasted)

Your peace of mind

Your opportunities with women who actually like you

While you're giving her your attention, someone else is getting hers—and he didn’t have to send "good morning" texts for six months straight.

Hard Truth: She’s Not the Problem — You Are

A woman who says “I’m not interested” is being honest.
You staying around and secretly hoping she’ll change her mind is delusion.

And truth is, if she saw you as a man she wanted, there’d be no confusion. No mixed signals. No waiting game.

So stop blaming her for "friendzoning" you.
Start blaming yourself for volunteering for a role you don’t want.

Men Who Know Their Value Don’t Get Friendzoned

✅ A high-value man doesn’t settle for being an emotional support character.
✅ He doesn’t play therapist hoping for sex in return.
✅ He doesn’t hang around hoping she’ll "see the light."

He walks away the moment the terms don’t align with his vision.

Because peace of mind > potential that never materializes.

What Do You Think?

Have you ever put yourself in the friendzone and regretted it later?

Is it possible for a guy and girl to be just friends when one likes the other?

What’s the cleanest way to walk away from a friendship that’s not serving you?


Let’s talk 👇

chazon:
[u made the best decision of your life bro.
Manipulation is in different phases. That was phase 1.
But lucky u, u failed the test (in her books), but u passed in reality.
As long as you are in this bongo, chances of u meeting true love that’s not first (testing/manipulating) u to guess ur strength or size u up, is less than 5%.
Cos seems even the once working are tending to be same.
But there are 5% who will let u do the “take care of me” thing on ur own volition and strength and not gonna use it as yardstick to meansure ur love.

I met one like that during my NYSC in onitsha. She was next to an angel, but I was jus starting life with uncertainties, cudnt commit promise to a woman yet and perhaps I fail to fufil?

Exousiang01:
You are meeting women who are looking for a way out of poverty and they think a relationship is the express.
Unfortunately that's the average Nigerian girl.
They think a relationship is a full time job

jimmyolasun:
I have come to realize that if you are broke, your relationship won't last no matter how good a lady is.. except she is a long time girlfriend or a desperate one

armyofone:
Date working girls. Tell her you are not her parents and ask her if she has a job ?

Don't spend for anyone. Occasional gifts, yes. Lunch dates, yes. Every individual must be able to be self reliant.

Shawarmagirl:
OP, you have issue with commitment. If you don't learn how to spend on your woman while in a relationship, you'll never spend on your wife when you get married. The prove of love is given. For God so loved the world that He GAVE (commitment).

mariobalotelli09:
Women will continue to test you, manipulate you and bill you until you meet the one who is genuinely interested in you. The one intrested in you will be the one ready to see you successful and grow in all areas of your life. One in a while she may ask for something but she wouldn't pressure you and if you tell her you don't have it wouldn't be an issue. Stop chasing women and allow them chase you. If you check very well, there is a lady giving you green light just that maybe you don't fancy her.

Rearealki:
I am really concerned about this.
My last relationship ended like my first.
Billing!
Ok, so this lady called me that we should be in a relationship. I was excited about it and we started dating.
We haven't had sex we are both Christians.
This particular week she started testing me financially. First she said she is hungry, later she said her phone spoilt then she said she needs a new laptop.
What made us breakup was when she said she needed airtime. And as at then I didn't even have any available money except my savings I said I don't have
She then told me she deserves to be taken care of that she hasn't asked me directly of anything than this airtime. It shows I am stingy...and if it's happening like this this early we might have to cutoff. She said is it because we both work in same place and we earn same salary? ,she said I should take care of her
So I thought about her statements and I told her we should break up. That I am not ready.
I

This same scenario happened to me in my first relationship. I really loved my first love. But she pressured me financially. Which led me to all end it.

IyaTola:
How the West is Using Killings in Benue to Destroy Nigeria’s Food Supply and Introduce GMO

Deep in the heart of Nigeria lies Benue State, often referred to as the “Food Basket of the Nation.” From yam to cassava, rice to vegetables, Benue has long been the agricultural backbone of the country. But what if the relentless killings in this region weren’t just random acts of violence or farmer-herder clashes? What if they are part of a deliberate, international plot?

Here's the theory:

Step 1: Destabilize the Food Basket
Over the past decade, Benue has witnessed escalating attacks on farmers and rural communities. Entire villages wiped out. Farmlands abandoned. Year after year, the attacks intensify—but strangely, no lasting solution is ever enforced. Why?

Sources suggest that these violent incursions may be orchestrated to systematically wipe out indigenous farming activity, making local food production impossible. If Benue cannot farm, Nigeria will starve—or at least experience severe food shortages.

Step 2: Create a Food Crisis
With Benue in chaos, food prices skyrocket across the nation. Yam becomes gold. Tomatoes become luxury. The masses cry out for relief. The government scrambles. Then—like a well-timed savior—the West steps in.

Western NGOs, biotech corporations, and donor agencies start offering “solutions”:

“We’ll donate seeds.”

“We have high-yield, pest-resistant crops.”

“Our GMO maize and rice can feed 10 times more.”

“We can help you rebuild your agriculture.”

But there's a catch: those seeds are genetically modified, and with them come strings attached.

Step 3: Hook Nigeria on GMOs
Accepting GMO seeds often means:

Dependency on foreign seed companies every planting season.

Loss of native seed sovereignty.

Introduction of patents, where farmers can be sued for saving seeds.

Erosion of local farming knowledge in favor of lab-created agriculture.

Soon, Nigeria becomes hooked on genetically modified food—just like much of the Global South.

Step 4: Control the Food, Control the Nation
If you control a nation’s food supply, you control its people, its policy, and its future. With Nigeria dependent on foreign biotech firms for seeds and food stability, the West gains unprecedented influence over the largest Black nation on earth.

Benue—once the proud heart of Nigeria’s food independence—is turned into a testing ground for lab crops.

Is it coincidence that Benue, of all places, continues to burn while the rest of the world pushes GMO agriculture on Africa? Or is there something deeper—a coordinated economic warfare disguised as humanitarian aid?

Stay woke. Follow the seeds. The truth is buried in the soil.

jadyclem:
Simply do a Google search of "European countries that has banned GMO" and come back to say it's a conspiracy theory.

Ignorant people tag every serious matter that's against their freedom and existence a conspiracy theory.

Is GMO adoption the solution to our food shortages? Oga wake from ur slumber jare!

jadyclem:
All your sources of GMO being safe all have one man as their sole sponsor - bill Gates.

Are we having food shortages because of poor yield and pests or because of insecurity, poor storage facilities, lack of modern farm equipment, poor irrigation practices and poor government support?

And is GMO adoption the solution to such problems?

Abeg wake up and smell the coffee

cjudy:
Them wan use bbn9ja distract the youth now from the APC calamity

Bluntemperor:
Foolish Statement - or is it Egbetokun that Sent them there?
Has this not been the Police 🚓 Characters in Nigeria Since Ages?
-Stop the hate,for its illusionist statements and tell us how the Police Institution In Nigeria Can Improve - for the People they are Serving!
1. There Should Be Training and Re-Training of Our Policemen Inside Out.
•We don't want a Situation where just Selected Few Policemen - but ALL SHOULD BE TRAINED AND CONTINUOUS Training- in Handling of the INNOCENT 😇 Masses.
2.ALL POLICEMEN IN NIGERIA SHOULD HAVE- CAMERAS 🤳 -ON THEM-
• TO RECORD EVERYTHING THEY ARE DOING AND THE CAMERAS SHOULD BE PUT ON- THROUGH OUT THE DAY,TO RECORD ⏺️ EVERYTHING POLICEMEN ARE DOING - INCLUDING THOSE ON THE HIGHWAYS.
THIS IS WHAT IS HAPPENING IN US,UK AND EUROPEAN COUNTRIES!

•ATTENTION PRESIDENT TINUBU:
PLEASE,SIR,LET THE ABOVE SUGGESTIONS COMES INTO EFFECT TO KNOW WHO AND WHAT OUR POLICEMEN ( INCLUDING SECRET POLICE )🚓 AND LET US EXPOSED THE BAD EGGS and Those Who Are Compromising Nigeria INTEGRITY.
3.All Security Personnel in Nigeria Should Have Webcam Cameras 🤳 - so those Patronising Terrorists Can Easily Be Arrested and dealt with!

Macphenson:
Why did they turn their faces? They should show us their ugly cursed faces so that we will know them.

Slytiger:
How is this different from the other guy that was sharing buckets to women in Abia State