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Sibtygarr:
After all the bashing and endless list of all shades of bad ladies

I have a question for the redpill

I want to marry,
I need kids,
I want wife material,
I want good mother for my children

How can I identify this woman?

What are the qualities?

This question are what guys with broken heart and failed relationships needs.

A challenge to the redpill

The redpills don’t want to get married… And rightfully so based on different reasons. However, if you decide to settle down, here are a few advices:
1. Get on your purpose. Perhaps this is the most important advice of them all. There’s almost nothing more attractive to a woman than a man who is on his purpose. Grind, go to the gym, get a hobby and be disciplined. These keep the kind of woman you’d like to have in the feminine frame.
2. Character trumps looks: A hot and extremely beautiful girl comes with a lot of baggage. This is what you are not told until you get into it. If you get a really beautiful girl, you will have more headaches than you’d normally have when you settle for a moderately decent girl. You’ll fight with insecurities, jealousy, attitude issues and high maintenance problems. Look for character and personality. Looks should come last when settling down with a woman because it fades away with time and use.
3. Lead: Lots of men these days are so feminine and they can’t lead. This has made women very masculine and difficult to deal with. Women aren’t hardwired to lead. So, learn to be a leader and master of yourself before you decide to get a woman to settle with. Women’s love and respect go hand in hand. A woman can’t love who she doesn’t respect.

Redpill is about understanding the nature of women in general. While there are exceptions (due to upbringing and societal pressures), there are general guides. You understand them, and you won’t have problems with women.

Resultant outcome of years of turning valuable men down all in the name of ‘not settling’.

The die is cast now. No mans land!

Amuochicha:
I hate men

Hehe. Of course that’s what your mates at 40 and are single always say.

Tajbol4splend:
Hang on, if I slept with another woman, I ain't cheated?

Nope! In lay man’s terms, cheating is when I don’t give you what is duly yours not when I give others and give you too. So when we both do business and we were supposed to split the profit 50-50, and I give you your own 50% and share MY OWN 50% amongst other people, did I cheat you? Absolutely NOT!

Cheating only occurs when there’s a withdrawal of attention, resources and affection - Something most women do when they finally decide to look outside their marriage. Men don’t do that.

bepositive11:
Stop normalising men cheating. I recently watched this interview where a black man said that if his wife should cheat, he will need to go for therapy. So why put women through that pain?

When you cheat on your woman, you hurt her emotionally. You make her feel insecure and less than enough. And by cheating as a man, you're putting your woman at risk of contracting STDs -- how is that deeply loving her? By cheating, you risk having more children than you can take care of. If your argument of men cheating is to "spread their seeds" or men's polygamous nature to procreate, why wear condoms? Stop with that nonsense.

If you want to have sex outside marriage, don't cheat. Talk to your spouse about it and open up your marriage.

It’s the demand for equality that’s the problem in our world. No one is normalizing cheating. Men and women are wired differently. Stop thinking like a woman. Having sex and cheating are entirely different things. Cheating involves emotions, attention and resources. Sex for men is devoid of that - especially married men.

King Solomon had how many wives and concubines again? You can’t go against nature. Men are made to spread their seed. A man can have many children in one year while a woman can only give birth once in a year. The biology is entirely different.

Having children all over the place without being able to take care of them is irresponsible. Condoms are made for that purpose. But don’t disregard the innate nature of a man to have sex.

Lastly, how many women will emotionally agree to be in a marriage where the husband discloses that he will have sex outside? The only way that can happen is if the husband is respected and adored for his influence and power (not loved) - something rare these days. Be smart!

Males are the only species that require orgasm to reproduce. So satisfaction in sex for a woman is irrelevant and unnecessary.

testimony1089:
Like seriously, it's disheartening the way people now see unfaithfulness as normal thing. Sometimes I wonder if anything is wrong with me because of the way my friends attack me for being like this and still believe in faithful relationship because they believe it's not possible and my last relationship almost made me believe them. It's just a natural thing for me but believe me, it's tiring because cheating has been normalised. I'm really scared of ending up lik this because I can't settle for less...

Can’t settle for less? Lmao! You ladies are funny. Have you ever asked what the ‘kind of man’ you want, wants from you? Y’all believe once you’re in a relationship, it’s a contract that shouldn’t be broken. You forget that YOU THE WOMEN have to work to keep the relationship. Men - especially the high value ones, don’t cheat. They exercise options. Sex to a man is different from sex to a woman.

Debra911:
You're very funny. One problem with we Nigerians is that we generalize everyone. See nobody says or does anything without no reason. I'm not that kind of chic. The first guy I dated had nothing,he had no job, in fact I spent more cos my family were giving me, i cant mention all I did for the guy, yet he cheated and he wasn't even my tribe. That was the first time I'll be in a relationship doing what a guy was meant to do for me,I wanted to be there through thick & thin, cos all I wanted was happiness and true love. So pls forget all these sermon, i'm talking from experience. Nobody is a saint these days. I used to love easily, in fact I fell in love with someone online, I've not even met him before but that one felt I fell for him cos he's staying overseas, I started giving him space. I'm from a comfortable home, the only time I became broke is during my nysc, i wanted to be independent, I didnt want to disturb my people. so a guy been rich or not, wasn't my problem, I wanted something genuine, irrespective of the fact that a lady loves to be spoilt with money, thats not my modus operandi. These relationship and marriage thing is overrated, Romance has gone wrong ,cheating is the other of the day, infact cheating is no longer a new thing, some brag with it cos they feel they're catching fun. I've got people asking me out but I'm still doing my proper check, if I'm not satisfied, I'll leave single, work towards my career, adopt a child of my own and train the child. Some humans are just created to spoil peoples joy &happiness, nobody deserves to be unhappy.

Lmao! Modern woman. You understand that single women in their 40’s with a lot of money are the most unhappy in the world now? Adopt a child? � Don’t worry, you definitely will understand pretty soon.

The reason why ‘decent’ people are single is because of the expectations. Women are earning more money nowadays and the effect of this is making them less feminine and less-marriageable. Men nowadays are refusing to deal with the feminists and independent women. The modern traditional relationships of the old are being wiped off and men aren’t having it.

There are certain truths that women need to understand about men in order to live peacefully:
1. Men really don’t care about your income. You make money, cool. You don’t, cool. Your ability to make money is solely your business and doesn’t add to a man.
2. Men don’t cheat, they have sex. Men sow their oats. Men can have sex all over the place and still love their wives deeply. Men don’t attach emotions to sex. On the other hand, once a woman had sex outside of her marriage, she has checked out of that marriage (that’s cheating). A man is polygamous in nature. He is built to spread his seeds as much as he can. More reason why prostitution is the oldest job in the world and is still profitable.
3. Men are naturally territorial. There’s an innate sense about men that makes them territorial about their property or women. Avoid crossing territories that men put up.
4. Men don’t need women to survive. They only need women to reproduce. Men built the world that we all live in. Sustainability depends on the men. A man will see through the natural end of his life span without a woman but a woman most likely can’t survive without a man.
5. Men are the only species that require orgasm to reproduce. Women don’t. So satisfaction, when it comes to sex depends solely on the man.
6. The purpose of a woman is ‘the man’. Biblically, Eve was created to be a ‘helpmate’ to Adam. So, without Adam, Eve will have no purpose on earth. So a woman is required to be a helpmate to a certain man.

Now these are facts and not opinions. Women who have blissful marriages and homes understand these truths and facts about men. So if your marriage as a woman isn’t working as it should, perhaps you need to start looking at it through a different lens.

What is wrong with this Davido sef?

5k pounds before was 1.2 million. The naira just became useless. Don't come here and flaunt nonsense.

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The SPAK National Science Competition is a TV show aimed at igniting interest in, and promoting, the study of science in secondary schools in Nigeria. Transmission of the show will begin in August this year.

Nogodye:
That public clown! Beautiful family he got.

Hmmn. Beautiful family indeed! Those that know him, know him.
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