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Jibril659:
make money first, they'll find you

Lol

Am I?

Who will be my val?

wkkwl:
The little things equal one big clue
We don’t realize that the act of forcing ourselves to trust our men in little things means so much to them, but it does. It’s not a big deal to us, so we don’t get that it’s a big deal to them. We don’t get that our responses to these little choices to trust or not trust—or, at least, act like we do!—are interpreted as signs of our overall trust and respect for them as men.

A man might think of it like this: If she doesn’t trust me in something as small as finding my way along a road, why would she trust me in something important, like being a good breadwinner or a good father? If she doesn’t respect me in this small thing, she probably doesn’t really respect me at all.

The next time your husband stubbornly drives in circles, ask yourself what is more important—being on time to the party or his feeling trusted. No contest.

3. Respect in communication
Women hold an incredible power in the way we communicate with our men (both husbands and sons) to build them up or to tear them down, to encourage or to exasperate. Some things just push a man’s buttons. This goes beyond what we say—such as questioning a man’s judgment or his abilities—and into how we say it (and where we say it, which is the subject of the next section).

The disconnect
In my interviews, a large number of men said something like this: When my wife says something disrespectful, I often think, I can’t believe she doesn’t know how that makes me feel! I had to reassure these men over and over that their wives probably didn’t mean to disrespect them and were likely just clueless.

Let me give you several common examples of how a man might hear something negative where the woman never intended it.

True talk

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sweetestjane:
OK. I am new to this forum, please give me some time to acclimatise.

As you wish dear

ellechrystal:
Fine Darl, how r you?

Am great. Were you from?

ellechrystal:
frigin liar, damn. yesterday?? and I ve herd this dry joke before, maybe 5years ago ot thereabout,
try something else.

hey dear how Re you

Jodha:
You never see dollar before? If you don c you go know...

And about how I knew she was igbo... Mere looking at her face... I know...

lol true talk sha but I never see dollar before

MarkGeraldo:
Wat gave u the mind to ask her such question

mind your biz bro

Jodha:
I have two things to say..
1. That olosho is from igbo(nah igbo girl)... I don c am finish...
2. That dollars looks fake(or is it just me?)
Thatz all

how you take know

AfroSisi:
Congratulations on your new job

Yea that's true her own style of hustling

TrapQueen77:


Who?

Btw, the trampoline really looks good..

hmm you like the body right

Stupedinluv:

you like it

sweetestjane:
I have no problem with that, but why?

So we can get to know each other better

tessiebee:
Lagos

that's good. can we chat on Facebook

sweetestjane:
yeah

Can we chat on Facebook

myfantasies:
Ok

Am freeborn Weexy and you

myfantasies:
Don't stress urself for an ordinary person like me

Can we chat on Facebook

tessiebee:
Lagos

nice location am in Benin

myfantasies:
Don't stress urself for an ordinary person like me

stop that you are special tell me wats going on

sweetestjane:
its on my profile

nice location

sweetestjane:
I am fine, tnks.

You welcome were you chatting from!!

tessiebee:
am fyn and you?

am fyn were are chatting from??

tessiebee:
thanks

you Welcome
How are you

myfantasies:
Bros u won't understand

hmnm why not not make me understand

tessiebee:
hello.......have been a guest on nairaland since early last year but I decided to be a member today...............who's gonna be my friend ?

Hey Tessie bee you welcome to NL with love

myfantasies:
So dis is wat someone will see early Friday morning wen dey open Nairaland

I give up

Not so fast

ellechrystal:
frigin liar, damn. yesterday?? and I ve herd this dry joke before, maybe 5years ago ot thereabout,
try something else.

Ah just kidding dear just wanted to know what you'll do

[quote author=sweetestjane post=53169989][/quote]Hey how you doing dis morning

ellechrystal:
friging dry joke,.. mtchewwww , mnext please.

Not a joke oo its true that's what happen yesterday

joliyp:
i fell in love wit a man that has vision and purpose for his life......so i invested in him to harvest he loves me crazi

That's a good one dear I like your courage

sweetestjane:
ok

Sometimes I wonder if love should be blame

Smhart1:
At least love is not stupidity

Sometimes I wonder if its love we should blame