Happy new month, Nairalanders.
I hope you are all doing great?
I'm sorry, I got banned by antispam bot hence the reason I couldn't update you all on my matter.
Just to inform you all that I've finally let go of the entire thing (although it wasn't easy) and I'm doing good now.

greatme2good:
I want to understand something please. Did this happen in Nigeria? Please I'm just curious.

What you read is the experience I had in my relationship and I'm forced to ask if people go through worst or is it just me?

ambivert27:
It's not a guy with benz this time around

At least, I'd have known a guy beat me to it. And that would have made me to step up my game.

This particular case just messed me up, big time.

Richy4:
I know it's difficult but it's just a fiancee... No heavy ring was attached to it... u can start all over again... and do not overlook any trace this time or look at things in a rosy spectacle.. .. if it walks like a duck..talks like a duck...swims like a duck... it is definitely a DUCK..

You're right, sir.
I learnt mine the hard way.

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missyojo:
Op,sorry for your predicament. Thank God you get to know on time before its too late. Pick the pieces of your life and move on, thou it's not easy as have been there before. Don't stay idle as you may want to start remembering how the whole process happened, keep your mind busy. With time you will get over it. Associate with positive minded people and I bet it, you will smile again. I wish you the very best and I pray you heal soon.
Happy easter!!
Cheers ��

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I'll bounce back, for real. Thanks for those words.

oweniwe:
5 5 5 years relationship...

You're not serious.

If she's my sister, I'll buy a crate of stout to celebrate her freedom

My brother, don't conclude yet. Did you know long I've asked for her permission to come see her people formally and she told me I'm rushing things with her not until last year that she finally agreed?
Trust me, money was never the problem.
She on her part, invested a lot in our relationship. Her major commitment made me overlook her excesses.

But how she got the heart to ditch me for her fellow woman now that we're about settling down, is what I can't tell.

SageMK:
Let her go. Don't chase after her.
Please don't be sad or depress.
This isn't a disappointment but a blessing.
Not only are you both not sexually compatible, she is an untrustworthy woman. Starting a family with someone like her is always a terrible idea. You'll be caged in hell!
I have to say though you brought this upon yourself.
Keeping her jailed for 5years was wrong likewise —
Forcing genuine love or loving blindly, its a foolish thing.
I hope you've learned your lesson.
Please don't visit brothels or give into alcohol or drugs!
You've hit a hard rock, at this point, you can easily get hooked on any of these. Stay far away or regret for life.
I recommend taking a break from relationships.
Give yourself time to heal.
Don't force things. Eat well.
If you choose to not move forward, well it's your choice.
Anyway, nothing stays the same.
If you deserve love, I'll come knocking at your door.

Bro, you just said it the way it is. Thanks

Ejike07:
guy relax, it's better u found out now and not when u may have had kids and this happens, how then will u feel? thank God almighty for revealing her true self to you earlier on. And pls stop being a sissy and take up yourself and get a better person. Many beautiful and we'll behaved ones are coming out and you are there pitying yourself. SMH

God bless you, bro.

PrinzCarter:
My frd let it go who nose dis nite u might meet Someone better

Bro, e no easy like that o.
I clocked 34 last month and you can imagine how depressed I am when I've thought of settling down with my woman only for her to do this to me?

FortifiedCity:
Let her go, and never make the mistake of taking her back

I wish I can let her go just like that. To be candid, that lady has shattered me.
Till this moment, she's refused to take my calls.

Oshin56:
Go to brothel you will see the one that's not homosexual

I don't visit brothels and I've never been there before.

FortifiedCity:
You knew she was a lesbian?

My brother, I was only acting civil so as not to cause a scene. See where it has landed me.
What do I tell my people now?

Happy Easter to you all.


What you are about to read now is my own personal experience and I'd so much appreciate whatever advise(s) you would give to me.


We've been together for the past five years and this is a lady that I promised my future with.
She got all the qualities I've ever wanted in a partner. We had a discussion on moving our relationship to the next level around December last year and as fate may have it, we came to a conclusion of meeting with her family after the Easter.

Two weeks ago, I got the biggest shock of my life that I'm yet to get over. She broke up with me for a lady that's way older than her and they've both relocated to another state.
Where do I start from now?
What should I do Nairalanders?
-Please note-
I knew this other side of her but I was blinded by love. I didn't see it as a threat not until it happened.