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OK...this morning I was jejely sleeping on my own o...
one of my neighbours and his girfriend started fighting as USUAL...and as usual I minded my business, but the type of blows(punch or whatever) and slap I was hearing from their apartment nearly gave me a heart attack...My Church mind was like (if u no go separate da fight and person die there...dia blood de ur head o), as the good guy i started a mission that nearly sent me to go and join my ancestors rather early.

I came out of my apartment ...dashed around to see if I can get a back up but didn't see anyone...(everybody seem to be minding their business as usual) ...
So I said well...(all die na die) I knocked the first time no one opened , I tried to knock the second time ,but as I was about hitting the door I noticed it wasn't locked, so quietly opened it,lo and behold the guy was pinning his half naked girlfriend on the ground with both of them holding knives with one hand and using the other hand to prevent each other's knives from stabbing them....like hollywood movie,immediately they saw me,girl tried to escape through the door and ran straight towards me still holding a kitchen knife in her hands,with the speed of light the guy ran after her so as to stop her from escaping ....it was at this exact moment that mumuness(or maybe my village people)decided to remember me. As they were scampering towards me with knives, instead of me to close the door and run away...I opened the door and ran inside....

He overtook the girl and locked the door ,that was when i noticed i was standing inbetween two mad knife wielding couple...they started starring at me(I was like oh my God!! ...I quickly started recalling incidents of couple killing and hiding dead bodies of peacemakers that came to separate fight) I had two options shout for epp(Lol) or turn to Jet Li and defend myself..but on a second thought I ruled out shouting for epp( as girl wey de chop beating since morning no shout,na me go come shout? and perhaps shout what exactly ?that I'm being raped or beaten when neither of those have even started ( atleast for the moment).

I quickly scanned the apartment to see if i can find an escape,but everywhere is under lock and key, So I started begging them in a loud voice(so as to alert other tenants before these guys will kill an innocent man)to pls calm down and drop their knives first...the moment that nearly chilled the blood in my veins is when the guy uttered the first word to me and asked me "what are you doing in my apartment?are you stupid? oh you came inside so that you can get the full gist and gossip about us abi, you even saw my girl naked!!....I just froze there staring at him like zombie, i thought of grabbing the knife from him but the worst part is that he's huge and muscular,even without the knife ,he can kill me with blows, its not my fault thou(I'm one of those people that can eat full pot of food but it won't show in our body).

So he tried grabbing the girl who was now standing behind me after much struggling he managed to take away the kitchen knife from her,by then the remainder of her nightgown was torn which left her with only white pant and no bra( yes I saw the colour, I tried not to look but with dangerous weapons around me I opened my eyes wide o)....instead of a naked girl to go and grab clothes and wear,she grabbed me from behind so I can shield her from him. that was when I knew what the problem was (jealousy and obsession) he was obsessed with her ,he can't stand other guys looking at her not to talk of toasting and worst of all seeing her naked...with bloodshot eyes he was pointing at me(us) and started stammering before I knew it he slumped on his knees and burst into tears o(I ve never been this scared and confused in my life ) he was cying like someone that was beaten by SARS , I was just busy apologizing for what I don't know ,pleading for my Life,but what shocked me was that the girl that was hitherto hiding behind me, went and tied towel and knelt beside him,hugged him and was wiping his tears, then stylishly managed to free the key and the knives from him took the knives to their kitchen and passed me the key to open the door and leave.....I rushed to their door and was trying the keys, none of them was opening the door(in my mind I was like" its like my village pople re not done with me yet o) . I was muttering silent prayers telling God to help me, and for him not to change his mind and rush me. finally the door opened and i quickly ran out of the compound forgetting I'm even living there too.

My brothers and Sisters....imagine if these guys mistakenly stabbed and killed me, is this not how they will reconcile and dispose my bodyPlease be careful with the kind of issues you involve your self in .

Biologically speaking ...Sex is natural sex is fun

Consider our closest DNA relatives, the African great apes, especially bonobos and chimps. We are all social, group-living creatures that thrive from community and cooperation. Female bonobos have multiple male partners and the sperm sort out who wins the genetic lottery of having their genetic material passed along to conception. When no one is the father, everyone is the father; the community as a whole cares for its young. There is no requirement for “paternity certainty” in their genetic makeup,

Can you imagine a world where we genuinely felt responsible for each other? We used to have that, and we messed it up somehow along the way. This is all to say that sex enables bonding not only between individual people, but also between communities. Some primitive human tribes don’t have words for “jealousy” or “monogamy” or “marriage.” These are concepts that do not exist. Sex is so natural and so fun that everyone should be having it with everybody all the time! (Don’t forget the condoms !)

But let’s not focus on the “how did it happen?” and rather on the “how do we fix it?”
I ask you, reader, which makes more sense: Sex leads to orgasm (hopefully ), which causes a release of oxytocin that promotes a human bonding experience such that our instincts drive us to have sex even when we’re not trying to ( or able to ) get pregnant? Or: Sex is only for reproduction, so don’t have sex if you’re already pregnant or otherwise can’t become pregnant, don’t masturbate, and whatever you do, don’t have sex with someone of your same gender? I’m no anthropologist, but being a human and having known lots of humans over a not-so-short period of time (including hundreds of sexually active patients), I feel confident saying that “reserving” sex for “special occasions” like getting pregnant or
after you're married is absurd.
There are plenty of theories why our divorce rate is as high as it is. I'll tell you what I see all too often when I counsel married patients. When we are told that having sex is shameful, we fail to develop the skills to communicate with our partners about sex and all the complications that come with it. We also fail to engage in introspection, which would help us sort out complex feelings, urges, preferences, and proclivities. That makes it even harder to talk to our sexual partners (and it keeps us from asking questions from medical providers or other sources of guidance who could help). Unsurprisingly, this leads to sexual dissatisfaction and decreased bonding between partners. Huh. It’s almost as though biology WANTS us to have sex, regardless of what the local clergy say.

We need to teach our children what sex is—and what it isn't.
The sooner we acknowledge and accept that it is abstinence-only sex education, not pornography, that is a serious public health issue in our nation, the better. Sex education as we know it takes about five minutes to explain, because we only explain the biological aspect. Erection, vaginal lubrication, penis-in-vagina, ejaculation, ovulation, fertilization, implantation, pregnancy. But we know that's far from all there is to having sex, and if you don't teach it, the children are going to learn it for themselves. Kids typically figure out orgasms before they even know why private parts are private. Instead of shaming children for masturbating, we should calmly explain that it is a healthy part of being human (oxytocin release), but it is something to be done discretely in private. Treating sexuality as natural, not shameful, will hopefully help them avoid growing up with sexual anxieties that interfere with future interpersonal relationships. (On a related note: Sex education is incomplete, and unethical, if it does not include education surrounding
what active consent is and is not.)
For the love of the children and their future happiness as adults, do not shame their sexuality! Do not demonize having sex , which was exactly part of how they came to exist! Show them that sex can lead to having babies, but it also can be pleasurable for the sake of being pleasurable, that it can be a bonding experience between partners (of any gender), that it can feel good and also bring up confusing emotions, and most of all that it is OK to have it if and when they are ready. Then, one day, we may see a generation of adults who know what they want from sex and how to get it—consensually, married or unmarried, and with protection.


what do you think??

truthsayer009:
From this analysis, I realised OP has been having the below listed services for a Month plus with no charges.

1. Free sex anytime & any day.
2. Free laundry
3. Free house Cleaning and Mopping daily.
4. Free Chef that cooks him all kinds of Soups
5. Free emotional companion & big boobs to rest his head and relax after a hard days job


OP you better go and make a spare key and give to her + start planning tradtional marriage before Karma comes for you like a thief in the Night. E go shock you.

hahahaha...this No5 really broke my ribs

CuntMiner:
but guy, u are fuckinggg d girl na, so wetin be introvert for Dis, u can give her, I do give my girl too

I don't Bleep her..we have sex, which is mutual,we both enjoy it. I don't joke with my space at all, else I will lose my mind.

Jayslicky:
Romance section threads are no longer making front page, if it is buhari and atiku threads it would be on front page by now.
Cc. Rocktation, farano, Dominique, lalasticlala

I've gotten all the advice I needed, but I wish it would make FP so others in my shoes can read and learn too.

Fvcknames:
If she thinks you just have like 2 keys, you can give her one then tell her after some weeks that you've lost yours.Kinda risky though

and she's kinda temperamental.... although not to me yet.

blissgregory:
Follow ur intuition

its not telling me anything...that's why I'm sharing it

bamisepeters:
Are you guys in a relationship?

technically.. yes!! but me I'm still trying to see if I can do it.

bamisepeters:
Wait, you trust the food she cooks and you are happy she id helping you with chores. Why not just tell her not to do all those for you if you ain't committed.

There is something you are hiding, how did you guys started and what have you done together outside cooking and washing, or let me say what have you spoken about as regards relationship?



Dropping your key with her shouldn't be a problem if you could trust her food.

If you have not talked about relationship then she shouldn't have entered your kitchen or do chores for you as those things works with our emotion, and relationship can easily develop through that. You never even mention that you have someone you are dating, so share more light please

Please answer all the questions i asked as there is more to the situation than what you have said up there.

the thing is that most times we do cook together and we end up eating the same food together ...so I've not really given a thought to trusting her food or being scared to eat it cos we both do.

MissRaine69:
Heck No!
One month old relationships and she wants keys?
You need boundaries in a relationship it should be a case of her place, and your place until such a time you feel that maybe your situation could lead to something permanent. Trust is earned and demanded.
When you feel ready perhaps discuss it as it’s your space not hers.
Maybe a bit of space is needed at the moment to see if the fire you feel for her is indeed a genuine one or a paper fire which will soon burn out.
Finally ask yourself this why are you letting her feel so comfortable when you are not even sure where this is going?
Establish the perimeters of what your situation is first as it feels one person is a bit more invested in this than the other.

thanks a lot

Memberclub:
what's her age?

23+

bamisepeters:
Wait, you trust the food she cooks and you are happy she id helping you with chores. Why not just tell her not to do all those for you if you ain't committed.

There is something you are hiding, how did you guys started and what have you done together outside cooking and washing, or let me say what have you spoken about as regards relationship?



Dropping your key with her shouldn't be a problem if you could trust her food.

If you have not talked about relationship then she shouldn't have entered your kitchen or do chores for you as those things works with our emotion, and relationship can easily develop through that. You never even mention that you have someone you are dating, so share more light please

Please answer all the questions i asked as there is more to the situation than what you have said up there.

we haven't done anything extraordinary that's worth mentioning...what I said in the post is just the summary of our day to day lives .

Newboss:
Don't be nice with girls. If the case comes up again, just tell her no that you won't do that. If she ask why, tell her you don't want that. She'd respect you more for not being a doormat.

I wish I can be this Mean. lol

IamLucy:
Worst case scenario. You come home to an empty place with only a single blank yellow post-it on the door.

Lol...I doubt if she can do that.

Earthbound:
Only if you're committed to marrying and staying faithful to her. Otherwise get ready to take pictures of how she destroyed your apartment on just a hint of promiscuity.

Women re just difficult to understand atyms, why would she do that when we re not engaged or married .

Newboss:
Abi?

Stop playing that nice guy thing. Be straightforward with her

Yea I want to...but I'm looking for a nice way to do it,because so far ,I think she's a nice person .

waleyp:
Just Tell Her You Not Ready For Couples Life,She Can Be A DistracTIOn, Prevention Is Better Than Cure, No Come Here Later Come De Tell Us Say You Give Am BellE. And No Be Say Na She You Wan MarRY Or Na She?

I never de reason marriage now bros, I wan make the money first .

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
Lol. She's just rushing like that cos she's squatting with a friend. If your mind ain't in it, tell her No nicely.

Besides what stops u from telling her not to do home chores for u?

most times my busy work schedule don't allow me to do chores..so I appreciate the help n I can't turn it down

lilmax:
just a month? be very careful
this one na plan work, she's too fast

that's my thoughts too

EmekaBlue:
husband scarce na...she's only trying to book a space in life. Give her but when any misunderstanding or u get tired of her, change d key lock immediately.

I don't like the idea of living with her,or her coming to my place anytime she likes.

Valro:
Tell her you lost the spare, unless she has seen it already. But never make the mistake of letting her have that right. Taking it back will be war.

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She knows I have spares.

kenn4rill:
My guy, u are the one dating her so I believe for the few period u have known her u can tell ur self if she's worth giving ur keys to ur apartment or not. And I believe u already know where she lives.

squats with a room mate.

Jayslicky:
Abort mission!!! I repeat it again abort mission!!!, to avoid story of how all my properties was sold by my girlfriend.

Lol

iCauseTrouble:
Lol. So that she can come and be dropping her luggages bit by bit abi

I'm not interested in her moving in at all.

We've only known each other barely a month, but she acts and behaves like we've known for years, Cooks, cleans, etc acting like we are about getting married when I obviously didn't say anything about commitment to her ....

Now she wants to have a spare to my apartment so she wouldn't have to be calling Me for keys anymore...

Thing is I'm an introvert and I love having my space sometimes, how do I decline her request without making her feel untrusted or rejected?? or do you think I should give her??