₦airaland Forum

muuhaa:
Wow. Will Nigeria ever get there in this life?
Our leader are just wicked.

The leaders are actually the reflection of the People ....have you ever thought what kind of thought goes on in the Mind of all this E-warrior always defending the Govt on this platform , Knowing fully Well things are not Going on well at all and it's Obvious .

I'm always reminding God why I need to be out of this country each time I see a post like this

Imagine is a country that just want to borrow $350m for implementation of budget n... God why did you make me a Nigerian for heaven sake .Why why why why .... I'm just tired of all this

thesicilian:
He'll still not win the 2027 presidential election

But you cannot have a good life like him till you die

Paut:
https://lifestyle.thecable.ng/nkechi-blessing-how-man-paid-me-n1m-weekly-to-quit-acting


1million naira × 4 = 4 million ×12 = 48 million
So the man will and is able to pay Nkechi Blessing 48mil a year just like that 😳😳
People get money 🤑🤠🤣

Ode it should be 4*52 weeks in a year

influenz:
My wife and I had some misunderstanding that resulted in heated arguments.

With the intervention of some elders, the issue was sort of resolved. However, weeks later, I observed that my wife changed the way she saved my number on her phone from "Hubby" to "Dele - Airtel" (not real name, but something like this - assuming I worked in Airtel).

I am thinking of parting ways with her, but children are involved.

If you are not struggling wey money dey just free her no part ways ....but make sure henceforth you enjoy your life to the fullest and do not care about a wife or something but make sure u provide what they need ....and don't forget to observe her from a distance ..

Nemesis0147:
your games keep cutting ke😂
You are not a serious person 😂😂😂😂

Honestly that's just an excuse I don't want to send any money

PuZZyNegro:
You're a gambler? 😄

Your problem long bro. You said you own a car, is the car still available with you?

Yes

I just think the way she is not wanting to come stay here means she doesn't love me ,though she still have sex anytime I go to Ibadan but I always tell her the economy is bad and I can't afford wedding now ,I'm 37yrs so I think I shud give her space and let her fend for the girl herself and feel what I have been going through all this while .. if am I right or wrong let me know .. I still do love her but I think she is taking advantage of the love . And she too dey listen to her people .

Kobojunkie:
1. We don hear! 🥱🥱🥱

2. You know what? Since the child is yours, and she has a job. Maybe she should instead send the child over to you so you can care for your own child yourself. That way, you can stop needing to send her money and save up for your wedding. At by having and caring for your child , you won't feel lonely, cook and clean for yourself alone; having your child with you everyday will help you overcome some if not all of your other complaints. 🥱🥱🥱🥱

My brother thank you so much .. this is what I tried to do 2 weeks ago when they came to visit me ife .. I said I need to change our daughter school closer to me but if you see the problem I encountered that day , she went straight to amotekun office that I want to take her daughter away from her ..though she is only 5 yrs old ..I said I want to take her to my mom in ilesa that way everything is free for me I will only pay school fee . I had to spend money I didn't plan for ..I left her alone and she went back so xe that day I have been having this thought to cut they off for sometimes ...that is why I came for advice here

Mryacks:
So let me get this, you are alone in Ife and tired for being alone as if you don't have a partner while sending money to them for upkeep right? As you pointed out, she was with you earlier but "frustration" got the better of you and sometimes you drank and over did by hitting her and that's when she had to leave...
Now that you are asking for them to return, she just want you to do the right thing traditionally so she can come back fully. I think that is fair ...just see how you can discuss with her family and do something small ok..

Yes you got it all right ....I will try and do what you said ...I collected the list already though . There was a time I told her if 500k can be enough for the wedding we should do small ..she told me it won't be enough ..you can see ..me that is managing the money I hustle to feed 3 of us ..

Kobojunkie:
1. So, you physically assaulted her, and rather than report you to the police to get you locked up, she decided instead to go back to her parents? OK! 😏

2. You had a child with her, but you don't want to be responsible for the upkeep/education, etc., of the child anymore because the child's mother is no longer staying with you, where she was at risk of being physically assaulted by you? 😏

3. Does the woman work? Does she have profitable skills? I mean, how does your child take care of herself while you figure your financial situation out? Does it need to stop breathing until then(this is not to be construed as advice of any sort)? 😏

4. I would think that the primary reason you have to send money is for the child, right? 😏

Firstly there is Notting like assault anymore it was a mistake that I regretted and I'm out of the devastation already ..I have begged and promise not to drink anymore.

She is working in Ibadan getting 22k per month

I'm managing with Unilever as a merchandiser .
I have been sending money to her since she left my house ..sometimes she comes visiting and I do go see them too but all this I'm fed up ..I am thinking she need to choose one ..I stop sending money to her for anything so I can save money for wedding ..or she move down here under my roof to help me out ..that way we both help each other

MaziObinnaokija:
I tink she's a sincere lady,a honest one foe that.Best bet now is to either go to ibadan and talkvto her sister with 2/4 members of yo family and settle tin/do mini introduction or you/5 members of yo fam travel to her village and do mini introduction pending wen you are financially ready.....


Lastly ,dnt forget to send NAIRALANDERS ELDERS COUNCIL invitation on yo BIG DAY with our special canopy

Thank you so much .. is it possible to travel to delta state for mini introduction? I already done small one with her Aunty in Ibadan after she gave birth .. I'm not just financially ok at the moment . And transportation to Delta state from osun state is not small ..well let me see if I can talk to her mom about this Mimi introduction that won't cost me much ...I really appreciate

Firebox123:
are you the father to the child

Do DNA first

Once you're the father of the child then I'll borrow you funds for the traditional wedding

Yes she looks exactly like me ...If possible to share pic I can do that ....I can't just afford to keep giving them money and also save for wedding it's not going to be possible.

She is not ready to come help me out at least get her a shop she can make money to sustain the house while I hustle for money for daughter school fee & Up keeps them I can definitely be able to save for wedding .The wedding is going to cost Notting less than 800k coz I already gotten the list and transportation to Delta state is taken much part of the Money

Good day people,

I'm an old nairalander but I just had to create this to stay annonymous.

I met a lady in 2019 in Ibadan after my youth service , we started dating ..she was actually living with her Aunty (mom sister ) in the same estate I was living ,but her mother and her biological siblings all live in delta state . She also speak fluent urhobo dialect. Fast forward to some few months later she got pregnant , please note this whole time I didn't know but she informed me when the pregnancy was obvious and her Aunty said she should go live with me since I'm responsible ..I told her to abort but she left for school . This time she is at final year in the collect of education . I was actually doing very well this time ..got a car and have a all it takes as a man . So out of pity I had to go move her loads from school into my house and took care of her and the baby . She delivered and ee have been staying together since then ..Now around 2023 my farm got flooded and I lost everything , so I had to move to ile-ife where I had built a 4 bedroom flat in order to settle down and avoid landlord issues in Ibadan ..she and my daughter later moved in with me in Ile -ife ..but I wouldn't deny I got drunk sometimes because my present situation and frustrated I had to hit her on few occasions ... So she moved out back to Ibadan to her Aunty ..Now I have been sending money to them everytime in Ibadan since 2023 December ..but I'm getting fed coz I'm lonely and it cost me alot sending money and I feel that I'm no gaining anything in return .. I cook , wash , hustle for money all by myself .she is there in Ibadan and not helping ... She is now insisting that we have to do a traditional wedding before she can come back to me and dropped drinking ..To God be the glory I have stopped the drinking attitude since last year 2024 .but I don't have the fund for traditional wedding...I told her if that is what she want then she need to take care of themselves over there in Ibadan while I hustle to save money here for the wedding ... Please am I thinking right ?

I can't afford to be sending money everytime and still expect me to save money for wedding ..without her coming here to help me .