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nuelyoyo:
Engage ur woman in something productive before u marry her, I would prefer u make her learn a skill that is lucrative, like tailoring, than getting her a pay job. Skill acquisition is best for ladies who aren't so career driven, plus it is secured than a pay job that can be lost at anytime. I have a friend who trained his girlfriend to become fashion designer before he wifed her, this friend of mine runs a chemist shop. The guy started reaping the benefits before he even married her and he is still reaping the benefits, coz the situation of the economy affected his chemist business, but he feels less burden coz his wife contributes to the upkeep of the family.

Thank you sir...this is very insightful.

ElsonMorali:
If you have to bring such personal and mundane issues online for advice, then I'd say No!, you aren't ready for marriage yet.

Imagine if this was the first comment I read...so you are been judgemental based on sharing an issue with people I think are not emotionally connected to my story. I think your rapid conclusion is myopic.

Lalas247:
Tell her to get a job

Once you get married babies ! And they ain’t cheap cost a whole lot of money also she mostly likely won’t be able to work for a while during that time .. so I suggest u save .. tell her to get a job and work towards building a home together . Or some sort of business if it’s hard to get employment

Thanks o but not even thinking babies for now at all but the business part or job part is been considered strongly.

maclatunji:
Your problem is not the N100,000 you earn but your lack of money management skills. You should go and buy books on personal finance or google articles about it.

Thanks for the advice but I just felt based on the current inflationary rate of the country and the fact that marriage from what people say brings up more expenses than when you are on your own. I will consider what you said above anyway.

tayo60:
My advice, save some money and give it to your fiancée to start a small business so as to find something doing OR if she has certificate, help her look for a job. With that in place, you can then plan how to settle down. If she has something doing, she will help in supporting you at home. Don't plan marriage now when she is not doing anything or else the responsibility of keeping a home will be too much on you.

Thank you so much...I think this brings in another perspective I never considered.

Florblu:
Well........................

Let your fiancee start something first no matter how small.

If you think you are mentally mature to raise a home, why not start?

Do not despise small begining

Thanks so much!

Dear Nairalanders,
I beckon on you for help as this platform has always been a source of inspiration for me and a way to get the most honest advise particularly when people share issues bothering their mind and get other people's straight advice. Right now I am very confused as I recently got a job of close to a 100k salary after been out of a job for a while due to the economic recesssion that hit the country. I feel part of what made me lose my previous job was the fact that despite been comfortable beyond my standard I chose not to get married and rather play around while waiting for the money to accumulate to a very confident level. I have promised myself not to engage in any form of immoralities but I am still not convinced that a 100k salary is even enough to cater for a family and thus why should I be thinking of getting married. As for me this issue is from a moral perspective as I currently have a fiancee and the tenets of my religion strongly oppose having sex before marriage so she coming in as a girlfriend while I wait till am fully ready is out of the picture... the question now is should I go ahead and marry her now bearing in mind that she has nothing doing for now and that I will be the one solely responsible for the upkeep of the family.
I really hope I get the best advice here cos have been pondering over this issue for weeks now and am totally confused. Thank you all in advance.