Moneyfem:
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A 37 years old lady chatted me two weeks ago, let's call her Ada. Ada came to me and complained that her husband's best friend from childhood who works in the same office with her husband and earns the same amount of salary saved up money, bought his wife a car and they went to Maldives for her 40th birthday.
Ada said she suspected her husband was cheating on her and he must have been giving money to another woman; that is why he's always broke. She wanted me to post it on my wall so that people will "advise her" on action to take to catch her husband. Because I do not post Junks on my wall, I started asking her some questions.
We did a messenger call. After much questioning and running back-to-back analysis without prejudice, we discovered some things.
Read carefully.
Ada's husband's childhood friend's wife works with a travel agency while Ada sells beads, zips and other tailoring items.
Childhood friend has 2 children. Twin boys of 17 who just entered university. Ada has 5 kids aged 2, 5, 8, 11 and 13.
Childhood friend is the last child out of 3 children, but Ada's husband is the 2nd born but first son out of 6 children.
Childhood friend has no father and mother again, but Ada's husband has a mother but no father.
Mrs Childhood friend's parents are retired Judges, but Ada's parents are in the village.
Mrs Childhood friend has just a younger brother who is an Air force officer and married with 2 kids, Ada has 3 younger siblings who are still struggling.
So suppose Ada's husband earns 300k,
He would pay the school fees of 5 children of which two are toddlers, send money to his mother, sort out one or two bills for some siblings,
While Childhood friend would just pay for 2 children school fees, he has no younger siblings to cater for, his wife's parents are well taken care off, he has no parents to send money to.
Mrs Childhood friend with her knowledge with the travel agency she works with knows when to get good ticket prices, she knows when they get bonus, she knows those countries that offer Visa on Arival like Rwanda, Maldives, Uganda and the Rest. She has no younger siblings to care for so she can save up her salary or commission to grab some last minute flight deals.
But Ada is just zip and button seller; if she sells, she would send money to her siblings.
Both men work and earn the same, but their responsibilities are different... way way different.
By the time I highlighted these to her, she felt guilty. I made sure she saw these because she was the one answering the questions.
Sometimes, before you pressure yourself over someone's achievements, think of the responsibilities you have.
You might earn more than a person who has a flashy car and lives in a good apartment, but you have more responsibilities than that person.
Someone earning 40k might be living your dream life and traveling round the world, but you who is earning 150k would think your village people have tied your destiny.
People would wonder why you don't dress well.
They would mock you that you don't know how to save money or plan your life like them,
They will say upon all your money you can't afford iphone 13 or human hair or nice suits.
Check the bills you have to pay,
Check the things that gulp your money and praise yourself. It's not everyone that even have the luxury of saving.
Some of us as the money comes, if we don't spend it on ourself and eat chicken and fish, our phone will ring and one person is asking for 5k.
You'll be paid 50k and in 30 minutes you're seeing something that resembles 2k in your account.
Some of you are actually doing better than you know, but you're so busy looking at other peoples farms and counting their achievements that you can't see yours.
Comparison leads to unhappiness.
#Lifted You have already answered your own question, but what matter in life is being happy and contented let him or his wife avoid comparison |
Career › Re: Why People Who Earn Less Than You Achieve More Than You by xtassyadmin: 3:53pm On Oct 11, 2021
