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Brian is Nigerian believe it or not - its in the The Sun newspaper here in London, plus my Nigerian friend told me. His parents are full Nigerians.

sorry Euphoria, if i sounded as if i was angry. its cool

I agree with u free.  Just remember, people only say bad things about another to make themselves feel better (its a proven fact). I am secure enough within myself, not to resort to putting down Nigerians, in order to feel better about myself (even when there is a lot to say). I feel good already.   Me and sum of my Nigerian friends checked out this thread at university 2day, and sum of them started cussing off certain members. Way to go at making people feel proud 2 be Nigerian!! congratulations .

Back to the topic:

To the original poster ,i have some more advice since me and my friends discussed this topic. If your mum has these views about Ghanaians, then it seems she is pretty set in her ways. And if she financially takes care of you, then u probably have to do what she says. Maybe you should look for a Nigerian man that has the 'emotional and material resources' .

@ Euphoria, i didn't say that all[/b]l white people commit these crimes, i said they are statistically more [b]prone to this type of behaviour based on facts and statistics that i have seen and studied. In the other thread most people are are claiming that every single Ghanaian is jealous of a Nigerian that we are all sneaky or ugly (now thats generalising). Re - read my post - the first one especially and the one in brackets. So how do i contradict myself? I never once said all white people. Looking at it from a statistical point of view., facts are blacks are more prone to gun violence (hence operation Trident to deal with gun voilence in ethnic communities and not white) and some whites to the sort of crimes commited in the example. Furthermore, why would they bother to do a programme on it, if it was not the least bit true 

By saying politically correct, i mean people who rhetorically say[b]'anyone can commit these crimes'[/b], which is true to an extent, but looking at it from a deeper perspective there is a pattern. By stating facts i am not being prejudice or racist in any way, some black people are so quick to pull the race card on another black person, especially when mentioning anything with the word 'White' in it.  next time i'll keep my mouth 

@michelin89 i was being sarcastic because i can't stand it when black people look down on one another. what gives them the right? it makes me physically sick. Nigerians are certainly not better than me because iam Ghanaian nor am i better than them and iam certainly am not jealous of Nigerians instead iam supportive. It strikes me odd that, from what i've seen, most Nigerian members welcome white people on this forum better than their own sisters and brothers from America, the carribean and Non- nigerians (for example the white woman who was dating a Nigerian man, most people were encouraging her but when its about dating someone from the same continent as you, these bogus stereotypes arise). My original advice to you was follow your heart - not all parents are right (parents make mistakes too) however you should still respect her, since she is your mother. Anyway good luck with your dillema and don't surround yourself with negative behaviour which is against loving your own rpeople. Take care Bleep

@ Euphoria, im interested in what you wanted to say in response to my post?

@ michlen89, I did focus on the original question, however superman and others brought up the same bull about Ghanaians. This forum is so anti - ghanaian and iam not coming back again to this forum. I think you all ready have your answer - Ghanians are bad therefore stop dating him.

@Superman you seem like an intelligent man however, i do not totally agree with you.
I'm not saying that there is no beef, because there is. Infact, My Grandfather and Grandma hate Nigerians not because they are jealous of them (they have done pretty well from theirselves) but because they have had loads of bad experiences with Nigerians, so they paint all Nigerians with one brush - which i do not do. However my parents are sort of liberal, so they don't really care who i marry (maybe except for white LOL). You say that Africa cannot do without Nigeria ? I think it can- you make it sound like its doing extremely well ( like on the level of the western countries)-  Remember its not about the size of the country (without all the corruption, Nigeria has the potential but that is what is stopping Nigeria and other Afrrican countries from rising) Lets be real for a second. Fact remains, Nigeria is still classed as a third world country like Ghana is and the only way Africa can rise - is if African countries help one another.  Ghana's living standard is slightly better. How do i know this? From my development studies class, it was part of my coursework to research this aspect (and guess what? my lecturer is a Nigerian man). Yes its true that the English discriminate against the Irish, scottish, Eastern Europeans - but do you see them creating threads about it and taking it to the extreme? which makes us look even more ridiculous. They also marry one another too, its not as tribalistic as how Ghanaians and Nigerians (and other African countries) act towards one another.In fact we are more racist towards one another, which makes racists look like angels and saints.

I also think its wrong to belittle other African countries and make it sound like Nigeria is better than the rest (its kind of an understatement in reality). There is nothing wrong with being proud of who you are but when you start thinking your better than the rest - thats when i have a problem. There is a difference between being proud and being too proud, to the point that it is arrogant. All i am saying, is that i do not discriminate against Nigerians (and have no problem with them nor do my African or Carribean friends) Life is just too short and these attitudes are not helping us as a people to survive. The hostility is there, but i choose not to  participate in the tribalistic mentality that some Africans have. i also used the examples of my family and friends, to show that Nigerian/Ghanaian relationships can work, do work, to provide examples to the original poster.

Superman, you say that you agree that we need to 'wake up', but your attitude in your previous posts, is very contradicting. I could mention over a 100 things that Ghanaians may say about Nigerians (beyond 419 and eating people) and vice versa. but who cares? I don't. This 'beef' is like how it was (still is) between racists (racists of any colour). Its just Bull!.

I love all African people, i really do . This is why it cuts deep, when i hear us insulting each other, its hurtful to see. However i do respect your opinion.

P.s I don't judge how good a boyfriend will be, based on where he comes from. I've met Nigerian guys who have treated me nice and some that have treated me badly, same with guys i have been out with from Ghana, Seirra Leone, liberia, Zimbabwe and the carribean. Also your comments about Ghanaian guys being ugly , the ones i dated were fine and not at all ugly.  Name calling is really childish behaviour , i have not insulted you or any other Nigerian members on this forum, using names or the stereotypes of naija's you mentioned in your previous post.

Can't we all just get along seriously isn't anyone sick of these kind of threads?

@ IBEXY
Why do people like to be politically correct all the time? Its not a black Vs White thing its basic facts! Be real! I was watching a program (white presenter by the way) and they said that white males are more prone to paedophillia and these types of acts (i studied it in my sociology A-level class) whilst blacks are more prone to gun violence, mugging and all the other stereotypical stuff. This is no coincindence there have been many crimes like this in my area. I also did not say all, if you read the statement in bold. I also lived in Brixton up until 16 - so don't get me wrong, i know what your talking about.

All i can say is her mums menatality and many others who think like her, is the reason why Africa and black people all together will never rise up. How can white people take us seriously when we hate one another. I live in london , born and bred there and so is my Nigerian boyfriend - we have no problems, i think that its mainly the older generation that still have the problem. If you are going to talk about Nigerians Vs Ghanaians, you need to mention that some Carribeans actually detest Africans and so do some white, asians and oriental (chinese etc). To the original poster, go with who you love parents are not always right- if you listen to what people tell you and don't listen to your heart , you will be miserable. It seems that you really care for him too (wish you the best of luck).

@superman Ghana does have a better standard of living many nigerians i know have said this over and over again. However it is not about who is doing better, because at the end of the day we are all third world countries and are worth less than Europe, America and Asia (even though we have resources that are worth a lot, our greed and backstabbing mentality always causes our downfall) even the Carribean is richer than Africa and have a better standard of living (i went to jamaica and st lucia and it was beautiful however i still prefer Ghana). These counrtries (not so sure about the carribean because some islands discriminate against one another too e.g jamaica Vs Barbados) all stick together and as long as we are bickering about who is uglier, darker, prettier , or has the most money - the reality is Africa is still poor.

N.B The funny thing is as much as we fight amongst ourselves,  Europeans, Asians and orientals people all see us as one people.I for one will not take part into this tribalistic behaviour, it extremely ridiculous.

We are all one - Marcus Garvey, Malcolm X, Kwame Nkrumah, Martin Luther King would all be turning in their graves. Its such a sad sight to see. I'm Ghanaian and have Nigerian friends, Ghanaian, Carribean, Ugnada, Eiritrea, Somalia, ivory coast, Zimbababwe, Zambia and so on and we all treat each other as equals. This 'Ghana must go thing is really wearing thin' -why hold a grudge beacuse of something that happened a long time ago. in london there are many africans(from different countries) and carribeans that i know who date each other (my aunt happens to married to a jamaican man and one uncle is married to a nigerian woman and she has never been discriminated against by my family and my other uncle is married to a Zambian lady all have longlasting marriages). E.g my male friend from Jamaica is going out with my Ugandan friend, my ghanaian friend is going out with a liberian boy and previously dated a seirra leone guy - Its all in our heads and its ridiculous. Nowadays the younger generation (abroad) aren't really bothered (im 19 by the way), i find that the ones who live in the continent hold this rubbish tribal mentality like it has some value when all it does is divide and separate us.
Its time to wake up!

Read this:

http://www.ligali.org/article.php?id=575

A Nigerian Womans'  white husband killed (believed to be but it obvious who it was), his 2 beautiful children, nigerian wife and his wifes brother. I was so sad when i read this. I'm not trying to be rude some white men commit these crazy crimes  (not saying all because there are black men and women who commit the same crimes)- if its not paedophillia, it serial killers or rapists (especially in London) . Just a few weeks ago where i live this white man tried to set his house on fire with his family in it and there are millions of other stories like this one. Itj Just sickens me to see those kids lives thrown away, they looked so sweet and innocent. May peace be with their souls.

Thankyou darling. so when should i recieve my award then ?

Hi i'm new here, check the profile for info about me, if u wanna no more. I was bored so i thought i would create my first thread

To the ladies, What would be your perfect man ? and to the guys What would be your perfect woman?

The floor is now open

Eiya pa!
Hey Lauryn! Yeah i was born on a thursday and iam a twin (with a girl). we are identical (check my profile)

My name is Yaa, just joined the forum today! xxxx