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Congratulations to you and your family. Kisses to your baby .

Fiscus105:
You said it all, wen you married based on physical attraction(mostly), the marriage is heading for crash in no distance time, the most beautiful virgin lady on earth, would be tired you after continuous 4 months sex.
.....but, if both of you genuinely love each and ready to compromise for the marriage to work, 50 years, you continue loving each other.

I think OP should asked himself, his childhood friend, as he tired of him? Abi, it's only opposite relationship use to be tiring?

My marriage more than a decade, yet still love my wife as it were, in fact, the bond is increasing day by day.

Attraction 🧲 is beyond physical, for me , it is the story we share together, the happiness and the pains. Chances are, no any person would have gone through it like you like they did. This is what matters. Anyone going on looks should be ready to be disappointed. Big bellies , pot bellies, wrinkles, sickness and many more are bound to come because the body is always depreciating with time.

This however doesn't mean we should do nothing to make our look appealing to our partner as long as it is within our means, power and moral right to do. Hit the gym if you have to, maintain that healthy weight, wear that outfit just for them . In all it is beyond our looks.

Have you ever wonder why marriages with models and beauty queens and kings rarely last ? Their partners suddenly realized they needed more than the looks.

We have simply lost morals as Africans if we now condemn women's Chasity. Sleeping around is not been woke, it simply lack of discipline and direction.

If you find them unattractive after years with you, what makes you think they still find you attractive ? Marriage doesn't run on the wheels of looks but on commitment and responsibility. If you leave to find another, at some point , the whole initia gragra will dwindle. Will you keep leaving?

I always wished I knew God's Word in my teen years. Having a mentor can make a whole lot of difference

He should not have made this information public. Rather he should have been on his knees averting it. Publicizing it means you are spreading to the ears of the devil that you are already aware of his plan , so he intensify and wait for a vulnerable time. Social media is not for winning warfare. I am almost certain that after making this post, he didn't give it as much thought as he should and felt the online prayer suffice.

Secondly, if he was the one who said if Allah is God let me die suddenly then he has dug further a grave already dug for him by the devil. Allah is God. An Hausa christian calls God Allah. Beside, the Muslim are also reaching out to the same God christians cry out to, the difference is Christ .


Painful because it death was revealed so it can averted .

OgidiHerbals:
There's Herbs for Fibroids instead of surgery, because it can still regrow after surgery, while not use Herbs once and for all..

Those herbs don't ever work. The best is surgery or you leave it if it is not disturbing you. My step mom used those herbs , she has been taking them as long as I know myself. She still has firbroids. They started shrinking when she hit menopause

Mariangeles:
You will deliver safely.

Amen sis!

ufotty2001:
Can someone with fabroid give birth normally.. I mean virg*Ina birth

I bet they can if the fibroid is not obstructing the birth canal. I had my sons through CS, however I am planning to have my third naturally

Women with fibroids are giving birth. She can convincieve with it or go for the surgery before trying. I conceived with mine, had it removed same day my baby was delivered. I have two sons now and the third is already kicking in my womb. Last I checked, still have little fibroids though. My friend had hers removed first. She has a son now Make your choice and stand by it.

Nnamdipapa:
Because I am getting paid to open threads right?

Yeah right!


Go back and check where you used Nnamdipapa to quote another Nnamdipapa and you threw a rebuttal of what one of the other handles, the female actually, would have said. Besides, the writing style, tune, semantics, delivery obviously screams same person !

Why are you using alternate handles to keep a thread ? It is the same person behind each Moniker.

Nice discourse though!

This is what nairaland used to be.

Misery loves company. You seem to like those who agree with you and kick against oposing views.

You are not poor because you lack money. You are poor when you lack the mindset for wealth creation. All you have done on your posts is complain, condemn and criticize. Unless you rewire your mind, you will toil the same road your family did.

You write well, I'm sure you speak well , too. You are not empty, no one is. A poor man is one wo thinks he is nothing of value to exchange for the things he needs.
Look inside of you, discover what you can create , and keep pushing it. However if you do nothing and expects everything,you will get nothing.


I will tell you , get back to God through Jesus.

Discover your purpose, gifts and talents. These are usually pointers to your breakthrough but not many follow this path because they want short cut .

Start doing what you have discovered, give it your best. Give it time to grow,

Read books . I cant overemphasize on this.

Shun premarital sex, focus on the goal, create long and short term goals.

These will help, rather than coming here to complain everyday

papyjaypaul:
The world doesn't care about you and think about you as much as you think of yourself and for yourself.

Make out of that what you wish.

This crack me up! Unless you are valuable to others, no one cares!

Why not how to use your brain ?

ednut1:
fell from a stair case

Och! Sorry

ednut1:
Clavicle. Broke mine in the past and have a plate and screws in it 😩

Sorry to hear about your pains. Do you mind sharing what happened?

Insightful, thank you for sharing. Surprisingly, chrsians are the ones who complain about Christianity. Sambarry, if you are tired asyiu said, stop clicking on the headlines and waiting for likes to justify your opinion.

This is commendable. Life is lived once, spend it in love.

Love this, creating a profile Soon!

Why is there one 'r' for the word 'kurrent' on the presentation board

😂 if you want to get more confused indulge kobojunkie.

SAMBARRY:
of course

But will you also encourage your sons to be a faarjeen as they are looking for farjeens

Because hypocrisy is also immorality

Sure, my boys are already learning the importance of keeping chaste. It's a foundation I have sworn to built in them.

DaddyCoool:
That's also left for the woman to answer.
After he's been defiled so many times by the vilest of women, and who knows how many vd's, and possibly will continue to be defiled even after marriage...

Not always true. There are men who haven't defiled themselves and won't even after marriage. There are men who did however stopped after marriage. My mentor, a man had never had sex before he got married.

SAMBARRY:
yinmu celibacy Is not a reflection of good character let's start with that

A woman can have sexual restraint but not anger restraint

A woman van have sexual restraint and be ignorant or undomesticated

You can find a woman who is chaste , domesticated, sophisticated, and have good character. However, I can't say same for a woman who is sleeping around. If you prefer a woman who have slept with almost every man she has known, by all means go for her. They are every where. However, stop trying to justify lack of sexual restrian. I personally wouldn't encourage my sons to marry a woman of easy virtue

oluwaseyi0:
God why?

So many of these people pray to you daily some even pay tithe

I didn't know God was driving the bus

DaddyCoool:
I ask "WHAT ABOUT HIM??". How many ladies "defiled" him and he "defiled"? Or is "defile" only a one-way thing??

What about him? That's left for the man to answer, however, the focus is on the woman.

soccerlite:
In SA & an area in ss nigeria, they celebrate virgins, has it contributed to increase morals?

Like the guy up said, it's a good thing but not needed

We don't even know if the guy is virgin

Moreover we don't know the level of godliness too

Are you saying you would rather marry a woman who sleeps around than a chaste one? You would not be happy to know you are the first man sleeping with your woman? I suspect you are a woman and you are just trying to downplay a woman who value her body

SAMBARRY:
yinmu. Have you checked whether the anus is closed or open

You think say na only vagina them dey fvck?

Mr iyawo faarjin shey your wife get good character because faarjinity without good cha equals to zero

The question of character is not what is been discussed. You people quickly bring character when Chasity is been discussed. Well if you want to play that card I will play it too. It takes discipline, and self restraint to abstain from popular culture such as casual sex. Are you arguing that a woman who sleeps around has better character than the one who kept chaste?;

Ibst:
Worth celebrating, but not needed

Is needed. We stop celebrating it that's why we are loosing morals in our society