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thorpido:
On phone or via email.

ok i sent you a request

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thorpido:
Whatever it is,you won't be the first person to have the experience.it has happened and you just have to move on with your life.
Would you like to talk offline?

Yea thats true. What do you mean by offline? Im relatively new to the forum.

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tearoses:
Maybe if you explain this in more detail, people will be able to advise you on what to do
Clearly whatever it is seems to have a great impact on you and this needs to be addressed and put to bed, so that you can enjoy the rest of your life
Whatever you did cannot be the worst that anyone has ever done
So you may actually be too hard on yourself
One thing I know is that todays news always becomes stale tommorow and everyone moves on.
I am sure that the people gossiping are alredy gossiping about someone else.

You may be right but I wouldnt expose myself more than I have already. Talking about it with strangers is even too much for me but I really don't know where else to turn. Maybe one day I'll look back on it and smile but for now I just need strength to face the next day

Anyway thanks for your words, you're probably right about the gossiping

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@onegig I dont know what was said exactly but a lot of people stopped associating with me because of it so I know there was something. I know I should just forget it and take it as a lesson but it's really very painful

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It was over a long time ago so I don't need to say anything. I'm just disappointed in myself I didn't think this would be a problem for me but I was stressed at the time which made me make bad decisions. The gossip surrounding it was really too much

tacbaugh:
@Yezzir:

Hey there,

Most important thing is identifying the problem and now that you admit that there's something wrong somewhere, then you can as well admit that the problem is half solved.

Now how about give the house. Little "fill-in" of what's wrong? Is it family troubles, academics, finances, unemployment, relationship or marriage?

I think we'll have a better understanding of how to go about tackling your issues if we know where and what exactly is wrong.

You know the funny part?.... The solution might be just as simple as anything, bro. Cheers.

I have ruined my reputation by being too weak to reject someone who was behaving inappropriately towards me and now I don't know what to do. I feel like it will haunt me all my life

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