Felabrity:
Certificate that will be returned.

- Oby Ezekwesili

Agbados quoting me are in severe pains

Na u dey severe pain like this

Chreze:


@Claremont gave you a clear answer (with understanding of the situation).

My wife and I are both AS and our son is AA. It’s gonna be a long read and I hope you like one cos your question was short and direct.

I believe marriage is a long term thing and as such should be planned with someone you can live with for long (not ideally someone that is AA). My wife and I met in the first months of our 100level and we connected. Dated for YEARS and got married. We knew we were both AS and had friends who advised not settling together. We got married and left Nigeria cos we had plans and family will disturb for kids. Worked and saved lot of money. Moved back to Nigeria to settle (raise family) and invest (start business). My wife got pregnant and we were fine. Had spoken to a doctor that told me we could do our fetus check opposite LUTH, but it was quite expensive (in his words), inside me I smiled cos I was looking at a hospital in Saint Denis where they had a successful blood procedure for a child. So the hospital opposite LUTH can’t kill me with bill. Visited the sickle sell foundation opposite LUTH Booked appointment for January, December we went on vacation to Paris, my wife was going to visit the Eiffel Tower and do shopping, while, me secretly want to go see the hospital in Saint Denis. The week we stayed at Saint Denis, one morning I woke up and walked to the hospital gate. Stood for some mins, smiled and went back home.

We came back January, had the sample taken and weeks later or so, we got our result “our son is AA”.

Some parts I skipped so as not to make the story long, one night my wife said she wasn’t feeling too good (as with some other nights- I believe normal preg stuff), but I had an appointment the next morning, and since it was just me and my wife living, I took her to our family clinic for bed rest for 1day, so that she can have nurses watch her while I go out with peace of mind. When I came back, was very stressed and one of the doctors (in lagos island) called me to his office that he needed to speak with me. Dude started by saying “no vex o, I have something I want to ask you”. I knew we were about to start that conversation. “Did you know your wife was AS, I said yes, then why continue, cos you know it might not be easy for you guys, as in do you know the implications? Why did you proceed. “

Here is my answer to everyone, life is hard and challenging. Having the right partner is everything. I don’t want to have an AA wife but hate being married. I want to love my wife and love my child(ren). I want to have a happy home. I can’t base the progress of my relationship on genetics. What if she’s AA and has all the bad character with it.

To all, there are lot of solutions, Even in Nigeria. The Sickle center opposite LUTH is a very good one, I can attest to it as a witness (tho there is one skoi-skoi doctor there that asked me why I was in the hospital and didn’t go to work), but the place is nice and you will be a proud Nigerian if you visit the center. When you get pregnant, you and your partner can go there before 2 months to book appointment and have the child checked out. I am blessed to have had ours come out as AA, a difficult decision would be if “it had gone the other way”. But be positive about life. There are people who are AA but have sickness grow in them that they can’t deal with. Life is challenging.

Just read and learn about everything. Speak on things you know about (especially conversations like this). At the end of the day we all want to be happy. Just do what makes you happy and believe in God. Pray and let your faith do the work.

Avoid NEGATIVITY and NEGATIVE people. Weeks ago I noticed I was becoming kind of depressed. Work was fine. After deep investigation/experiment, I realized BBC and SKY TV were the cause, the negative news and constant show of people suffering in Syria and Africa ( the constant emotional plea for fund) got me to that point. I was watching the Syria and turkey earthquake and water rolled down my eyes. Everything was taking me to a place I didn’t like. I had to stop watching live tv and news for some time. Only watched comedy shows and stand up comedy till I got my head out .

My wife wants 2 kids. I am fine with just one. If I am unable to convince her and we ever decide to go for one more, We will go back to Nigeria after two months of pregnancy and do the same process all over, opposite LUTH. Yes they do the fetus test here in the UK and yes it’s free. But I respect the experience and show of concern at the Center opposite LUTH and will be more than happy to contribute to the growth of Nigeria in that little way.

Love who love you and be happy. Life is too short.

Stay blessed

Thanks to you and everyone who has given their own piece of advice on this.

I will weigh my options and know what to do.

Hello, please I need advice. I met my boyfriend(African-British) a few months ago and we plan to get married later this year. Unfortunately, I found out we are both of AS genotype. I'm optimistic about not having kids with sickle cell but since it can't be ruled out, I want to ask if the UK government provides adequate and free health programs for such or if the sickle cell treatment issue is the same here as it is in Nigeria

Pieces of Advice will be appreciated. Thanks

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