₦airaland Forum

10thTenthMan:
Why ? I'll give you some. Those who ''fight'' with my opinions here will say ''He has come again''.

1. DO NOT MAKE THE MISTAKE OF THINKING WOMEN ARE THE ANGELS AND SWEET LITTLE PRINCESSES WHO CANNOT KILL A FLY. THE WOMAN YOU WILL GET MARRIED TO WILL CHANGE SOME OR A LOT OF HER TRUE SELF TO FIT INTO YOUR TASTE AND PROJECTED EXPECTATIONS YOU HAVE OF HER. SHE WILL READ YOU AND CREATE THE BEST VERSION OF HERSELF THAT YOU LIKE AND WANT. BECAUSE (FOR NOW) SHE DESIRES MARRIAGE WITH YOU AND CAN PROUDLY SHOW OFF TO THE SOCIETY THAT SHE HAS ACHIEVED THE “MILESTONE”. (Her mum will be happy, family will be happy, she will be praised. She has a man to protect,provide and support her, Her friends will be envious, etc etc). SHE WILL CREATE A WELL CURATED VERSION OF HERSELF ESPECIALLY IF SHE REALIZES THAT YOU ARE A PRIZE AND SHE IS MARRYING UP. AND ESPECIALLY, IF YOU DID NOT OBSERVE HER OR GATGER INFORMATION ABOUT HER TRUE CHARACTER FROM AFAR AND LONG ENOUGH, YOU WONT KNOW HER TRUE SELF. THEREFORE TEST TO SEE IF THERE IS HUGE GAP BETWEEN WHO SHE TRULLY IS AND THE VERSION OF HERSELF THAT SHE HAS CREATED FOR YOU AND THAT SHE SHOWS YOU. IF THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WHAT SHE TRULLY IS AND WHAT SHE SHOWS YOU IS MUCH, THEN BE CAREFUL.

2. MARRIAGE IS FIRSTLY FOR DUTY AND EXPECTATIONS. MARRIAGE IS NOT PRIMARILY A MEANS FOR AUTOPILOT HAPPINESS AND “LIVING HAPPILY EVER AFTER” NONSENSE. THOSE WHO INSTITUTED IT KNOW THIS. MARRIAGE IS FIRST A DUTY. A ROLE WITH TASKS AND RESPONSIBILITIES. YOU DO THEM WHETHER HAPPY OR SAD. YOU ARE THEREFORE TO CONSCIOUSLY MAKE ATTEMPTS TO WEAVE IN AND INCORPORATE THE SPICE, HAPPINESS, CONNECTION, JOY, LAUGHTER AND TO SUSTAIN YOUR MASCULINITY, RESPECT AND LEADERSHIP. YOU SEE THE SEX, IT WILL WANE. YOU SEE THE DESIRE, IT WILL DROP. YOU SEE THE PRESSURES, THEY WILL COME. FAMILY, RELATIVES, YOUR FREEDOM, THE SOCIETY, ETC. THE WOMAN YOU LOVE SO MUCH SOME DAYS YOU WILL FIGHT AND QUARREL AND ARGUE AND SOME DAYS YOU WILL JUST SAY “TO HELL WITH YOU” FOR A FEW MINUTES, HOURS OR DAYS. USUALLY WHEN THE DUTY IS OVER, ESPECIALLY WHEN THE KIDS ARE ALL BIG ENOUGH TO NOT NEED MUCH ATTENTION, THE DISSATISFACTION BECOMES MORE AND MORE, ADDING FUEL TO THE MIDLIFE CRISES.

3. WOMEN DO NOT REMAIN THE SAME. BECAUSE MANY MEN FOOLISHLY THINK I MET HER THIS WAY AND SO SHE SHOULD BE THIS WAY.A ONCE NICE CHASTE WOMAN CAN BECOME A TERROR AFTER 5 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. SO KNOW HER VALUES AND THE MOTIVATION FOR MARRIAGE.

4. DO YOUR DUTIES, KEEP YOUR BOUNDARIES OF LEADERSHIP, RESPECT AND LOYALTY. LOVE HER, BUT CHASE YOUR GOALS AND DO NOT SEEK HER VALIDATION. CHASE YOUR DREAMS, THEN GIVE HER TIME, THEN CHASE YOUR DREAMS, THEN GIVE HER TIME, THEN CHASE YOUR DREAMS. THERE ARE THINGS YOU CANNOT TOTALLY CONTROL. BUT YOU SEE DISRESPECT, DISLOYALTY AND SO ON. DO NOT LET THOSE SLIDE.

5. FINALLY, YOU CANNOT STOP A PERSON WHO WANTS TO CHEAT. THEY WILL ALWAYS FIND A REASON TO. EVERYBODY HAS THE MOUTH TO SAY '' Hi honey, I think ill cheat o, because you make me feel this way'' or ''You don't make feel this way, so I want a separation (divorce/breakup) so can I sleep with A or B''. BUT THEY HARDLY EVER DO. WHY DO THEY NOT BREAKUP OR DIVORCE OR SEPARATE BEFORE CHEATING WHEN THEY CAN? BECAUSE THEY WANT TO CHEAT. That is why it is called “CHEATING”. THE BIOLOGY OF HUMANS ALLOWS AND SUPPORTS MULTIPLE SEXUAL PARTNERS. IF HER SELF CONTROL IS WEAK,DONT EXPECT FAITHFULNESS.

KNOW THESE AND KNOW PEACE.

you are blessed bruh.
Marriage experience didn't teach you this and I know that for sure. You are just a man who has experienced life and also watch nature unfold their characters through humans.
Not all elders can spit This facts

Jman06:
This is rubbish!

Men must avoid this senseless advice. Bible says men should love their wives as Christ loves the church and women should submit to their husbands, not the other way round!

I only pity low self esteemed girls who would go and marry a man who is barely "managing" them! You and your children go suffer! The way marriage is done in this part of the world requires that a lady leaves her family and go into the man's family. The man must be madly in love with you as a lady in order to protect your interests and help you find your feet in your new family, otherwise you'll be turned into a slave before you know it.

Those who have ears should hear me!

this one na woman in a man's body lol 😂

Omo na this kind girl I dey fin now, I go even support her financially,

Samantha125:
Haibo!!! So you expect him to have stayed in SA and be our problem? Next thing he'd have resorted to selling white powder for survival and when we speak, you guys were immediately gonna jump into conclusions by singing your favorite song.

We also have our own issues, so if you can't find yourself a legit employment in SA, take you belongings and the little dignity you have left and go back home because there's no place like home.

As for you op, don't mind this person, you did the right thing.

you dey always talk out of point i swear

Mrkc:
After over one year in SA without anything to show for it, I have finally decided to come back to Nigeria.

With no job, house or anything tangible to fall back to but i am just determined to start all over again because i believe no matter how far you have gone on the wrong part it is never too late to start again.

In my late thirties, no qualifications, no family, no flourishing or tangible business but determined to learn anything that can at least substain me.

this the same South Africa way boys dey get am clear, one guy way just locate there not up to 1year don tear one sport car

Porksupplyib:
Read the story again. There was no transfer.
It was simply a system glitch. The money showing on his account is not there.

okay boss, I didn't read it though, then how is the man a good man, there's no way the man would have withdraw the money nah

CRUISEBABE:
Why?
Make she no marry

hey girl how are you doing

MatrixCircle:
Cry
You cannot feel like crying .

Stop wooing women, go and start wooing money
When the money comes women will start wooing you.

Women are like honey bees and Money is like the nectar of flowers. The bees will fly to that nectar to suck out of with with various styles of dance.

Go and prosper. Legitimate way oo.

worst advice my bruh, the right time to get a girl is when you are broke, ask every successful man they tell you the same. Is very hard to find a good woman when you have money because all this girls will be acting the same to please you. Beside my boss not everyone will be Rich in this life, whether we like it or not that's just the fact

Apcnewrecruit:
Youths should say no to drugs. Rema gradually looking like a zombie. Such a young fine boy but white powder

nothing like white powder, is just maturity and the angle of the camera.
Cameras can make you look different sometimes

kart042000:
There are truly honest people, I once mistakenly transferred $5k into a wrong acct via email which looked very similar to mine. He returned it and he is also a Nigerian.
We need to do better as a people, politicians don’t fall from hell, they are Nigerians. With this mentality, most Nigerians deserve what they get because they will do worse if given the opportunity.

my bruh that's a lie, thief na thief anyway in the world, you know say majority of oyibo na thief, people way dey use money run steady, BTC fraud who start am, America and China. Do your research
Until do now China are still the best in the game

miketayo:
Lies. How were there able to get the source wallet. Crypto address is not like bank account

I have been in crypto business for long and I know this is not possible, is either they have been doing business before now, and the guy that transferred the crypto has his wallet address on his phone before.
There is no way you can transfer crypto and you did a mistake in the wallet address then the money will go to another person is not possible

tobenuel:
Let such amount enter my aza first, let me see if i will be able to return it.. test me pls

bruh is purely lies, how did they know the owner of the wallet , transfer of BTC or any other crypto is not a transfer that allows mistake, if you miss one alphabet in your address ur crypto is gone forever. So is either they have been doing business before now and the guy that transferred the crypto has his wallet before on his phone.

Samantha125:
Why do Nigerian lawyers wear those old fashioned wigs though?

what is old fashion or new fashion gats to do with human life right now.
Is that even a wig? You should be smarter than this ma'am

funshint:
The main point is you'll never hear a Yoruba disrespect his host or called their land "no man's land" or claim to be the one that "developed" it. Yorubas integrate and respects their hosts. They're grateful to the land of their host for whatever riches they are able to get there, not claiming to be better or denigrating their hosts.

bruh Lagos is a major city in Nigeria and is not like every other Yoruba state, you can never see an igbo man saying osun state or any other Yoruba state is a no man's land.
Lagos is like the New York of West Africa 🌍

MichaelSokoto:
Naira that the criminal party met at #165 to a dollar under GEJ!

Tufiiaaa!

Nigerians too like suffer head!

abeg o bruh make naira remain 1500 because of price of things no go change.

Kobojunkie:
That attempt at manipulation you call an explanation gets you nothing but an F in the smarts department.

then this shows that you don't understand what geh geh geh is trying to say, because many people here believes that ghe ghe is supporting the women, which is clearly lies,

Kobojunkie:
What is funny is that you actually think you are smart. 😩😩😩

even after my explanation you are still not getting it, well is fine. People are misinterpreting the topic ghe ghe didn't say they should not date broke boy.
If you understand the context of the message you won't be saying this, you won't even highlight that quote

RightToReject:
The subject of the thread misrepresented the guy's posit, same as the comments. In fact, it's either that you little people do not read or read but lack comprehension. The meat of the guy's message is "marry a man for who his not what he has or what you think he will have in future."

98% of Nigeria don't read to understand, This is fact. If want to pass a message to Nigerians do a proper video explaining in detail.
I just explain what geh geh means in full terms by quoting one guy

jojothaiv:
I'm glad many right thinking, logical, big and bold women of Nairaland are supporting GehGeh's motion today, I hope when he speaks against them they will not cry wolf.

98% people don't understand what geh geh is saying. Geh geh is say that, make girls no go dey date guy because of wetin the girl dey hope say the boy go become tomorrow, because that tomorrow fit no come.
so if you wan date boy date am for wetin the boy be now, without any hope of him becoming dangote tomorrow so that it will not lead to pressuring and frustrating the boy when her imaginary fantasy didn't come to pass.
Date a guy for who he is now without visioning one big man future for the boy head. When you accept the boy for who he is now without worrying about what the future can be then both of you will be happy in the relationship, if tomorrow things turn out well for you she will be over happy but if tomorrow things didn't go as planned she will still be happy because she has always accepted you for who you are.

I hope you understand it now sir?

Wizardslayer:
I have a question.

Why do Nigerian people like making stupid and desperate people go viral and popular?

very nonsense people, anybody can get broke and anybody can get Rich.

timilehin007:
Must be wizkid. I thought the said she outrightly mentioned Wizkid

you dey believe all this guys way post rubbish, even this one so na lie. she no talk anything like this

Omoawoke:
@diarisgod, first use like 10k go chop first… because hunger can cause problem and reduce mental health
Then use the remaining 10k to go buy data make you watch the complete video

beuh he has not provided it yet , you can join him, provide a video and get the 20k Asap in crypto or normal transfer I'm waiting

DiarisGodoo:
Not Naira Marley personally. His thugs. They weren't treating him well, never said they killed him

which thugs? Mohbad brought his friend to come and fight with his manager in marlians house, so the two people clashed. Did naira Marley sent them to mohbad's house or did naira Marley sent them to block him on the street ? The answer is BIG NO. So tell me which of mohbad's friend or brother confirm what mohbad said ? The answer is none

Glister:
Na just u and few people here sabi wetin sup..Most people here are duller than facebook users.Plus this happened weekend.Wonder how Nairaland carry stale news alot.

na you be the real Facebook user here

Omoawoke:
I’m supposed to stop responding to you because like I said, it’s not your fault. It is the educational system that has failed

A combination of ignorance + stubbornness + poor education is what is ruining our society… and you display these traits

Back to your video, where’s the complete video?

What you shared is a part of video that was cut… have you seen the entire video?

And I gave you the link to watch the entire video befor making a conclusion yet you decide not to watch it… how can we help your condition now?

Well, for the sake of others that may see this your video and think you making sense, he literally was on drugs in that video you posted and was suffering a mental illness.

Yes, mohbad had mental problems… and in that video, he was accusing every body of trying to kill him…. He accused even the people that were trying to hold him in that same video…he said everybody wanted to kill him… but your people cut off the part he mentioned naira Marley name alone and posted it for people like you to munch on… while the complete video showed him displaying madness and accusing everybody there of trying to kill him
From that place , they were able to hold him down and took him to hospital… from there he was taken to psychiatrist for treatment…
But we told you to watch the entire video and listen to the full details, you refused..

After he received the mental help and support he needed, same him went to Naira Marley to apologize that he didn’t know what he was saying as a result of the ice he took..

leave all this dumb guys,

DiarisGodoo:
But it was on video how they were slapping him around

guy provide the video where naira Marley dey slap am, I go credit you 20k right now I swear, drop the video here and DM me

dederocs:
This is a justice system serious about stopping crime.

Why is Nigeria filled with useless judiciary and politicians?

Evans that is supposed to be executed to serve as deterrence is being worshipped in jail.

wetin you dey talk guy , Ghana has been against Nigeria for a while now, it's not all about justice system' the question is," will they sentence their own citizen the same years?

Jman06:
Only the lowest level of men do such! Such men are simps who are ready to die just to have a piece of a woman's Vjay

guy Majority of women their vjay smells, my sister is a fashion designer, and when some girls bring there trousers for amendment, omo if you see some of them "agada " i mean the center of the trouser you go lose your appetite for sex

Gotocourt:
Guys, we need to start doing better. A dude told my girlfriend that he has a big dick as his toasting line. Omo nawaooo 💩

bruh girl dey talk am too, dem go tell you "I'm sweet o'"

Bendeco02:
Some old men don't respect themselves sha.

All of us like women but use your head while you chase them.

which one is all of us, speak for yourself bruh