₦airaland Forum

1, if she has been with you for 4 years and is reluctant it is most likely that she thinks she can do better and given what I have seen in Nigeria, women tend to be mostly concerned for their financial security so if you don’t have that much that may be it.

2, Maybe because you call yourself WomanRapa and she is looking for someone who doesn’t fit that particular description.

3. Waiting to hear from God is a good thing if she is for real. If she marries you then you know she heard form God so she cannot say it’s a mistake later down the line. If she ever tried to leave you can remind her is God is disobeying o o o

Too funny and too true, You missed out the pretentiousness that both men and women have. but I think we are the most confident black people is Diaspora because of these traits. I have lived in the UK my whole life and since the 90’s the Nigerian population has grown and guess what? Black people are doing better in schools and professionally. Our unmerited pride means that no one can tell us we are less and we believe it. Tell a Nigerian you are better than them then they will let you know that there is no way you are even on their level… love it

The main issue is that your partner is on maternity leave and you need to prove that her income alone can support the family so you will not have to relay on public funds. Your child is British since he was born here and your partner is obviously British or you would have no grounds for the application. You should go home with your partner and get married then apply. Make sure you can prove that you can live in the UK without using public funds.

I fully agree Ebony and persistence cheating should not be tolerated. I know a woman who turned a blind eye to her Husband going out every weekend with the boys and she knew she was cheating with many different women but because he kept coming home and he is wealthy she put up with it. Well he eventually left her for a much younger woman and is remarried. What I am saying is that you should try but at a point enough is enough.

I’m in the UK and my husband is in Nigeria waiting for a decision form the UKBA. It has been 45 working days since he handed his application in with no word. I am grateful for this thread as I was very worried about the time it has taken as everyone I spoke to said it would take a few weeks. I wonder why the time has increased and if it has something to do with the change of government. Either way they don’t seem to care about the emotional punishment they are putting families through with unnecessarily long waiting times. My Husband and I are both miserable and I have to work so I can’t just go flying out to Nigeria. I urge you all to complain or ask your partners to complain to their MPs about the increase in waiting times to help other families in future to avoid this cruel and unusual punishment that I am going through. There is no way that is takes this long to check the authenticity of documents and as long as our documents are real which they are then European Human right law means they have to let us be a family. I am just praying that it won’t be too long as I think I would have lost my mind by the time it gets to 70 working days. 70 working days seems to be the new time that a British institution can perform a basic task. It’s unacceptable and they should be ashamed of their performance. Just because they are in Nigeria doesn’t mean that standards should slip especially when families are being kept apart.

What God has put together, let no man set asunder are words read out at any religious wedding ceremony because there will always be those within and outside a marriage that will be tempted to set is asunder. Forgiveness is necessary in any long lasting relationship and forgiving infidelity must also be possible before you say I do, otherwise don’t bother. This is not to say that I think a man or a woman should put up with a partner that is constantly cheating as that partner will eventually leave you when they find someone outside they like more. However you have to be able to forgive cheating at least once. If your husband/ wife is a persistent cheat then they don’t love you or respect you or the vows they took. So plan your exit route as if you don’t they will leave you when you least expect it. By planning ahead you will hopeful have worked out a way to financially cope and whilst planning put it in prayers and trust that if the marriage can be saved God will intervene.