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sunna4u:
Ok, now We know who to blame.

By this, is it necessary for each tribe/region to have thier media outlets?

Ofcourse, more than necessary.

Beautiful.
Kudos Zimbabwe, this is examplary, I expect other African nations to learn from Zimbabwe and develop back bone against USA.

Alot still needs to be done to a black man's mindset

Women are incapable of raising good kids single handedly.

Your marriage worked in Nigeria and produced children but immediately you found yourself abroad and earned foreign currency your husband became abusive and unbearable.

Men l hope you all are seeing the pattern and learning from it.

For where, there is nothing drastic or brutal in your decision, you cannot even make decision talk less of a brutal one. Do you even have balls to make decision when it concerns a woman.

A woman you haven't been in talks for long, called and fed you, and you immediately started thinking of marrying her? My friend go get a life . She has not responded to your text and you're restless? Please go get a job.

If no one would tell you, I, zagorakis, would tell you that you are a SIMP and a danger to yourself and the society.

Congratulations. Beautiful moment

budaatum:
I am Nigerian. Both my parents are from the Orolu Kingdom of Ifon Osun, my hometown. I grew up in Lagos to my very early 20s, though my first 7 years were elsewhere. And I travel the world to educate myself instead of ignorantly thinking Nigeria is the world.

And yes, there are very lovely men in Nigeria. My wonderful amazing loving father who rests in peace was one. He didn't have to take care of my mother however, because she is a very powerful woman who can take care of herself, so they put their resources together to take care and bring up very powerful children like me who don't need to beg anyone for anything because we can get off our asses and sweat from our own brows for what we want.

So when you say what you think a Nigerian man means when he says "street", it is what Nigerian man you says, and not what every Nigerian man says. And nor does every Nigerian man or woman "go back to the dating pool, which comes with "whoring", because some actually stay married all their lives without whoring.

In my hometown we say, n'kan ti ẹyẹ ba gbe jẹ ni gbe fo. Translated is, 'what the bird swallows is what it flies with'. It means, you do what you are taught. If you are taught to "go back to the dating pool, which comes with "whoring", then that's what you will do. And if you are taught to respect your partner and treat them with love and regard and respect, you'd do that.

Now yes, there are lots of "women out there doing very well for themselves and are still single craving and begging for a man". And unfortunately, this thread shows why. Lots of you are immature boys who are very not worth having, so doing well women stay single and would rather do without. We can after all extract the only thing of value some of you have and kick you out once we are pregnant, which is really what many doing well women settle for without adding you to their baggage.

If you do have value, and I don't mean in your pants or your wallet, but in your heart and in your brain, a sensible woman would never let you go, and would likely treat you like a king. But without value, be lucky if you are ordered for the night, here's money for taxi when I'm done with you, please get out!

Seriously, I feel for you boys. The world is changing fast around you but you want to live in 1826 instead of upping your game so you have value in 2026! It's sad!

Its funny how you think because you work and earn money you automatically are better than everyone and equal to men. No you are not rather that mindset will keep you single, bitter and lonely, it is not an advise.

Alot of Nigerian men and women home and abroad are well read and well travelled, yet quietly contributing meaningfully to their society unlike you gallivanting the corridors of social media with microphone announcing to the world how you are working and making money. Just so you know, people in Nigeria do not give a heck about you and your resources, your education and resources are inconsequential to men and women in Nigeria unless you are adding value, keep that in mind.

For the bolded. If you must stay married to avoid whoring, you must be giving your husband, if at all you have one his conjugal rights otherwise you will be flinged back to the street, else travel to France and get yourself a man to manipulate everyday if at all you can get a man.

budaatum:
I agree. Though. I don't need to go to a street since I have my own home and can go back to it.


Why will I "choose to stay in that marriage" when I am educated enough to provide for myself and feed myself and clothe myself and protect myself and [b]even go out there to get a man who respects me and treats me so well [/b]that conjugal is not a right but a thing we lovingly enjoy together anywhere in the world?

Is it that you think women must come from the street, or that there are no loving caring men in Nigeria?

Sounds like you're not Nigerian, where are you from originally if you don't mind? I am asking because you are trying to understand street in its literal meaning.
When a Nigerian says street in a relationship context, he is referring to going back to the dating pool, which comes with "whoring" and increased body count as a woman.
At the bolded, there are alot of women the world over who are doing very well for themselves and are still single craving and begging for a man. If getting a man to commit to a woman is as easy as you highlighted would they still be single with their resources.
The problem with your folks is that they don't value the man in their lives until they lose him.

Lastly, Nigerian men are lovely, and the best in the world, when it comes to taking care of our women, once you go Nigerian you can't go back.

budaatum:
You have obviously not read enough of our conversation to know why I'd marry him or not.

He offered a lot of promise then I found he was all air.

If you have made the wrong choice in a partner, you have to bear the consequences of your wrong choice, or you divorce him and go back to the street. But if you chose to stay in that marriage, and the man is trying in his fundamental roles as a man (providing, feeding, clothing, protection)you must be giving the man his conjugal rights (as far as Nigeria is concerned) otherwise you go to France, ofcourse, that as well comes with consequences.

budaatum:
I should introduce you to my grandchildren so you know how naive I might be.

Husband, if you work hard at making me want you, I definitely will exploit you by jumping on you every morning, but what makes you think I'd let you touch me if you have nothing to offer me?

Why would you chose to marry him in the first place if he has nothing to offer?

budaatum:
So, you need your wife to be obligated to have sex with you, and if she doesn't give you permission, it's okay for you to rape her by having sex with her without her permission, and you think that's a healthy desirable relationship?

Can you not imagine doing what you can do to make your wife actually want to have sex with you?

How do you enjoy sex with a wife that doesn't want you to gave sex with her? No, actually, ignore that, since I'm certain rapïsts must enjoy rapïng their wife!

You are just naive, and probably not married, otherwise you would understand that women would exploit this law to the fullest, a husband would Perpetually be working hard both outside and within the home to be able to consummate his marriage.

SixSeven:
.. Thank you, I repost my previous comment.

The bad rap single women have on this forum is for me a disgrace to men because that baby mama and baby daddy nonsense is a sign of failed family upbringing. While people can lose their loved ones or divorce due to irreconcilable differences, men who leave their wives or did not consult the elders before marrying into a family are a big disgrace to men. Give me a man that has 3 wives above useless sissies who are comfortable with their women mothering their kids alone abandoned.

You people copied the thing the government used against the Blacks in US and left your culture. Now you are telling us about single moms 🤡 Nonsense

In some cultures, the brother married off his late bro's wife because women were never treated like Street Vendors and abandoned. I blame women too because western influence has deceived them with one yeye independence and fake patriarchy that we are having more kids without dads because of some strong head women.

Where is the honor our women once had?

Who are the men getting them pregnant and leaving them?

Who are the families allowing their daughters wore about?

You can't just blame the women. Men are the biggest culprits because let's assume women are moomoo as many of you claim, who are the moomoo men planting their seeds in her 🤡 Weak men. Clowns.... It was a ticking time bomb, Nigerians copied street lifestyle of America and the 'independent' life of Europe, then abandoned their own traditions and culture about marriage, family and childbirth, here is the result....


For women, at what age will you wake up

https://www.tiktok.com/video/7553103102446931231?

Most single mothers "out of wedlock" have questionable characters. Having read through OP's story and assuming the story is real and the truth, could you not see the pattern of disgraceful characters from the said woman, which obviously was the reason for her failed previous relationships.
Although the men have some blame to take but the bulk of the shame and blame goes to the women.

AfahaAbia:
Thank you very much for your help. Actually it's in good condition the only issue I have it being a 2 door vehicle. I am feeling the car will be hard to sell when I want to later on

why would you want to resell it later? If it's your first car, why not keep it and own it? Keep it for your children.

The first question should be why was she in police custody? The police have done well by keeping her safe in custody, she should now come out and address us, how come she landed her self in police custody.

I rest my case.

I was reading eagerly to see the full detail of the concession agreement but nothing of such.
Folks, does anyone know the details of concession or what to expect going further.

Kaczynski:
They should keep going there


I don't want to see anyone near oil and gas.



I told a tech bro my base salary as a field engineer bro nearly faint

competitive mentality of average nigerian. the I better pass my neighbour mentality. Anyways hope you ll give back to your society from the huge salary.

theophorus:
When we Truly Love Nothing will ever make Us let Go of the one we claim to Love.

who truly loves and hide it from the partner?

This is the same West that want to teach us Africans morals.

motymop:
i have no prejudice, it just started facts, you obviously do not understand the dynamics of interacial maariages

if 2 people of different culture marry, they end up diluting the main culture, it is fact... the launguage spoken at home, will be the mother's language. it is fact.

there is also identity crisis of the children.

Good point. However, since it's about preserving the culture, we shouldn't then be outraged by their CULTURE of favouring/preserving their male pregnancies, the "prince syndrome" over the female pregnancies.

motymop:
No wonder all the Indians boys are all over Facebook showing their peepee because they are killing their female children.

What these people don't know is that they are creating an imbalance in society

In the future, many of these men won't be able to find women to marry because of the imbalance.

Some of these men will end up lonely or marrying women from other cultures who will then dilute their own identity

The bolded shows you also have your own prejudice; apparently you are guilty of a similar offense.

Focusmind:
India and their caste system

They so much adore the male child - some of the sex-selective abortions in India and even in Nigeria, have the woman as the principal approver of the act - for some women, once they notice that they would potentially birth a girl child, they would opt for abortion.

There is no difference between a male child and a female child - train your female child very well and see her take care of you more than the so-called male children. I love my daughter so much - she cares and could go at any length do things for me - But for my boys, you are on your own.

My daughter would notice my mood and stress and she would ask pertinent questions. If I am taking medications, she would be consistent in asking how my recovery have been. My sons would never ask me, neither would they show concern.

Girl child is bae

If you have them, cherish them.

There is a difference between a male and a female. For reference, refer to the article.
I rest my case.

Well deserved, he is patriotic.

Guys which app una dey use watch the match

Hmmmmm2024:
Who raped who...there is confusion in the story ...I can see and he raped them

Is the victim more than one ? Why are they using plural for the victim....

Some LGBTQ people identify with different pronouns, such as they/them, he/himself, him/her, it's a woke and messed up society.

All I know is that Nigerian graduates—I mean, those that passed through universities and universities passed through them(not cultists and time wasters)—are among the best in the world. Those stresses are part of the training.
I rest my case.

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Juoflife1:
If you have land, you can do a private cemetery business
Business plenty, na money no dey

Private cemetery? For nigeria? How would that work? Nigerians value their dead, would rather Bury in their living room.

GanagiBitrus:
If you come to my house & claim my TV belongs to you. I'll simply say I've misplaced the receipt.

The onus rests on you to prove the TV belongs to you by providing receipt with your name & serial number of the TV.

Abi You think you can claim ownership of my TV by providing any TV receipt without serial number?

You're just trying hard to sound intelligent but you're not. Serial number has never been the only determinant of ownership, besides, the onus is on you who cannot provide receipt of the said powerbank , to prove beyond any doubt that you're the real owner of the gadget and ofcourse you cannot. The main problem with Nigerians is that poverty and corruption has so dealt with people that no one believes in the courts/ judiciary to do the right thing.

If you find yourself in the USA/UK, steal someone 's gadgets and when they present their receipt of purchase in court, ask them for serial number without providing your own receipt

GanagiBitrus:
Receipt without Serial number of product is almost useless in proving ownership of the product.

Who has receipt of ownership without serial number has a good case over who cannot provide receipt of ownership at all.

GanagiBitrus:
Heartless people everywhere.
How will this OP be willing to help a stranded person next time?



Even if you track the man down, he can deny. How can you prove the PowerBank belongs to you without the powerbank serial number on your receipt?



Sure about this 28th Dec? That's a Sunday.

Op has receipt of purchase, let the criminal produce his.

Lalami3232:
I understand how sad and hurt you may feel but the truth be say, you go spend more time and money if you wan use police or other things take track am. So I go suggest say make you ignore am because the man na thief and most thieves are small. E go fit shock you sef say he don sell the power bank. Just overlook am bros but if you mistakenly meet am anywhere someday, don't disappoint me and the entire nairaland crew members. Scam dey pain ooooooo, I'm talking from experience

Please avoid this advise, it is this ignore it attitude that encourage bad behaviour in nigeria. If you have the means and time, chase this case and he ll have to refund every penny you spent.

UK should be deporting these stupid Nigerians constituting nuisance in the UK. Just imagine how quiet this environment was before these two idiotic fools started polluting it.