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I have married the man of my dreams 5 months ago. I am South African and he is Yoruba and spends most of his time in Nigeria on business. I lost my job just a few months before our wedding - yet managed to continue sustaining myself through my savings until about 2 months ago and started a small business too. My hubby says we are having it hard and is complaining that his Nigerian clients are taking too long with payments and the financial system in SA is very time bound. I haven't seen my husband over 2 months now - he is not keen on me visiting Nigeria and does not even support my suggestion to work in Nigeria. I am very confused as I am doing my last semester in a master's degree - to secure a better income as a expat. I don't know what happens in our bank account- am kept in the dark and I find myself depressed some days and feeling anger and hatred towards him. He knows that we have spent all the money I had saved up and now he keeps sending me whatever amounts of money he feels I deserve whenever he wants to. I feel that my life is spiraling down and I don't know what to do anymore. He keeps telling me that the business is growing yet we seem to have more creditors. He says I'll never understand the business land scape in Nigeria so should just accept whatever he does. I feel trapped as my school work is now suffering as well as the business coz am always stressed, sick with depression and always under pressure. He has changed and I still love and trust him, yet I am scared of being played.