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Sometimes it makes more sense to stay silent...

The girlfriend, the boyfriend, and the "true" owner of the house are all stupid...

Some people have their brains on top of their heads, so they keep washing "sense" away each time they shower..

How do you "understand" what you don't "understand"....she doesn't understand that there can never be true unity in Nigeria...

How can you " unify" 5% with 95%...how possible?

This is very good news... GEJ weakness needs to be "studied"

It is easy to say "we are one"....when you are still receiving state allocation and stealing it to make yourselves rich...

You will soon shout " we are divided" when reality sets in and you no longer have access to the funds that is now affecting your thinking capacity....

Useless people...

Happy birth day pretty

Don't let this beauty end with you...just get pregnant, so you can replicate you in 2 or 3...

"Small" man, with big trouble...

Careful how you let a girl sleepover at your place, she may have had health issues her people didn't know of,

She'll just come and die in your house and put you in trouble and in anger her "rich" people will tell the police what to say about you...

IMO...Boy is running so the police can investigate and know he didn't kill her

Am ready nau, just bring the bride

Leesah:
ok o m giving u a year o can't wait to see that cute baby of yours Nd hear them calling me Aunty #winks#

Leesah:
hahahahahahahahahaha zeze o lolzzzzz do and bring yours joh

I will o, soon, you know am still searching...

Mentcee:
May Jehovah bless you.

Amin

A lot of people can't relate...

nonut:
Modafocker, you had to chip in the last line.

Beggar with a choice...

Some people are not just serious....

Timbuktuo:
1. But they can demand from their children to recite the number of times they go to church in a given year, right Mr. Adult?

2. How can you say an adult asking refusing to answer a ridiculous question is "shoving a contrary opinion down his parent's throat?" You should reread the opening post so that you have an idea what you're arguing about.

3. An adult is an adult and should be treated as one. What if the OP has become an atheist, his father would travel to America and force him to attend church?

4. Lol. Nice cop out.

When My mum calls me sometimes close to bed time, she always asks "hope you pray before you sleep" and even when I don't, I still tell her "yes mummy".... Doesn't make me less a man

Adults always disagree but doesn't mean should disrespect one's parent, the relationship between parents and children is not a joke, shouldn't be treated like a joke either...

Why would you refuse to answer your dad a honest question? People just take " exposure western liberty " negatively...

You don't have to "fight" to be a "man"

You are wise to understand what am saying...

Odianose13:
You must be an Ohafia man to have thought this deep!

Timbuktuo:
Adult children are super free to rebel against their parents when they become overbearing and too controlling. If you were married and your parent came to dictate what school your children were to attend would you just accede to their demands? OP's father was totally out of line. And while OP could have tactfully and respectfully handled the matter, I fault him not. Person wey dey for another country with wife and children? Come on.

The father will think twice about trying such stunts in the future with OP or his siblings.

I want to believe you are an adult so I will take it for granted that you know that not all issues are treated the same way, no parents will condescend to interfere in their children's trivial issues like deciding what school the children should go...

But issues of faith and religion, parents don't joke with this, even if you have a contrary opinion, don't shove it down your parent's throat.

Don't try to justify your rebellion to your parents, if not clearly evil parents, no parents would wish evil on their children.... That said.

To each his own...

Truly, this is a foolish mindset, everyone should be responsible and faithful to every "contract"....

Dem don chop leave for Delta state...he's seeking greener pastures

Political prostitutes.... without any shame or integrity

Maybe in his family history, you won't live up to 20yrs except you are married....

So the only way to stay alive is to get married...

HML...

lozanni:
My guy, I guess you father is no more, like mine. There is not a single day I don't miss him, God bless his Soul.
Those who still have their Daddy with them, don't know, sometimes don't value, what they have.
I know the Western world social values is becoming entrenched in the Ops world view, but to cut contact with your father over religious issues is a no-no for me and I guess many others.

Amen.
You only know you love them when they are gone..God rest their souls...

Timbuktuo:
First of all, I think the father means well but is being unnecessarily controlling, and with a man with a family he should respect his son's autonomy. Even if OP has stopped attending church all the father should do is admonish not try to coerce.

You're right Op should be gentle with elders but truth is sometimes you need to be blunt elder or no, not necessarily disrespectful o.

Beverly1, you guys will be fine. Papa will understand that he was overreaching, and he'll be remorseful but you will have to reach out to him first in humility and also to show him you didn't mean to be disrespectful. If you call him according to a schedule, you can call him a few days before the scheduled date. He should get the message, however, he might not and you will still need to be firm.

One more thing Beverly, don't mention the incident and don't apologise for it, you calling earlier than normal should suffice. You should only apologise if he mentions it himself or he reports you to siblings or other relatives.

Good luck.

I don't support rebellion against parents except in matters of love, every other thing is a no for me, I can't rebel mumsy for anything... Although I can comfortably say this because she is very rational....

But also... Parents don't respect "ethical boundaries"... They love too much, protect too much and also react too much...

Don't ever cut communications with your dad, every call you receive from him is priceless

Beverly1:
Good for him he's young ..
So he's probably still strong to handle the separation for a while......I plan to unblock him when I have an answer for his question.

I understand this feeling... , if your father is old, please be careful not to hurt him, just follow him gently, you can even lie sometimes, just so you don't break his heart...

Elderly people sometimes do take things a little too seriously..
I would give anything to have my dad here to ask me any kind of questions in this world...

Ok

Nothing good comes easy, you cannot live...if you are not ready to die...

What is he going there for?
What if when he is given the opportunity to talk he doesn't remember his name or the country he represents... , I know his brain is dead..

Should have just stayed at home and be massaged by Abba Kyari...

God bless your marriage, and keep evil women away from you...

True