virgo:


Why are you so upset? You are the ignoramus. I responded to a comment that actually highlighted a part of the Koran and said it was open to interpretation, not so? How do you explain the fact that not all Muslims are as violent as the ones in the North? INTERPRETATION.

You are more than dumb! Read properly before you begin to sound like a dunce.

My apologies. I over copied ur reply to the above comment. Sorry abt that.

virgo:

Mohammad practiced this deception himself. In the beginning when he was in a weak position he preached tolerance. However when he gained the upperhand militarily, he went for slaughter. This is where the conflict arise. Muslims who quote the peaceful passage are quoting from the early years. The later passages where brutal. "Slay them where ever you find them" Guess whose words are those?



The Koran like any religious books is open to interpretation right? You take the good, and leave what you/your culture does not agree with. Christians rarely follow archaic traditions in the old testament, right? Everywhere in West Africa, we have Muslims. Are there no Muslims in the Middle belt and down South? Are they no Muslims in Ghana, Burkina Faso, Senegal, Gambia and several other places in black Africa. The truth is the culture of Northern Nigeria is a savage one. They just happen to latch on to the part of their holy book that best suits their culture.

U are such a foolish ignoramus who knows nothing about Islam. Dumb!!!

jennykadry:

I am a nigerian woman woman and my advise is move on. That's cock and bull story, she was only keeping one of u as a backup if things went wrong

If you had not asked she wouldn't have said anything

I agree with u, One of us is definitely a backup, And i guess am 99.9% moving on.

googles:

Awww really touching now is it ? lol

all her story is cock and bull if she doesn't cut it off with the village guy. . . .if you still want her back tell her to cut it off with the guy

and link your FB accounts thru relationship requests since y'all find out about each others "hidden skeletons" on FB. At least dat way you are both

sure of wat you are getting into

Thanx googles. I'll have to think abt that.

Finally we talked on fon and she started crying, telling me how wrong she was and stuffs like that. She said she sent the other guy a message that she is in love with me cos he has been suspicious too.

I told her we wld talk again maybe and ended the call.
Finally she sent this:

Im really very sorry.
Didnt mean to hurt u.
I want u to knw I love u and you alone I love.
Please forgive me.

I havnt replied.

obowunmi:

Bros, get a life and stop stalking her.

Hmm really? Can u tell me how I have been stalking her?

After a little while, I called her but she didnt pick my call.

I then sent her a message asking her why she didnt tell me abt him all these while until I found out myself and why she had to build our rship on deceit?

Shortly after that she sent me the following txt msg:

Im really very sorry. I became this because of the luv I hav for u.
Its u I love. I never deceived u. Been looking for the best way to tell u before now.
**It was actually the skeleton in my cupboard.
I still love you and I dont want to leave you if u still want to have me.

**There was a time she had a problem loggin in to her fb account (she uses phone) so jokingly I askd her to giv me her password so that I can try it on my system and she said 'nooooo I have a skeleton in my cupboard which I dont want u to see'.  I just laughed over it and never thot any abt it.

Thanx guys for all ur comments and advise.

I called her today and told her all the things she has been doing on FB that I havnt been comfortable with. And finally I asked her whom the guy was. She didnt answer. I asked if she was there (i.e at the other end) but she still kept mute. Thinking she wasnt hearing me, I ended the call and called back. Initially she didnt pick my call. After the 3rd call she then said she was composing a text and wouldnt want to talk about it until I read the message. Her message was:

Just a way of hiding from d shame, though cowardly.
I knew him a long time ago in (*she called her home town). He was like a brother.
Until like 5 yrs ago he started to ask me out but I didnt like him until I had a problem with my ex.
I thot he could help me get over him. But it didnt work.
When I met u, I luved u & to me u meant the world. Didnt knw how to discharge him besides he lives in
(*called her home town). My story might not make sense. I just want to say Im sorry.
I dont deserve any of u.

* Her home town is smwhere in the south west and she schools in the north.

apocalypse:

I can bet the guy is in her school , fu cks her every other day and probably knows about you. Won ti fi ori e fagbon

oro be?

apocalypse:

@ Poster
I don't think you can tell when you are being lied to , the truth stares you in the eye and you are oblivious.
She's a lying to you and you are here whining. Don't think you should be worried bout her eating her cake and having it , you should be more concerned bout someone else eating your cake , if it truly is yours.
Hope you haven't invested financially , just count your losses and move on

Trust me I knw when sm1 lies. I was actually waiting for this day, when everythn will be very obvious. I told her when we started that she shouldnt give me any reason to doubt her faithfulness. Cos if she does it takes the grace of God for me to forget.
I havnt really invested financially, the only might loose now is the money I spent in calling her. Although I bought her sm wears and shoes and intend giving them to her when i go to naija in 2 months. But that cannot waste because I get plenty sisters and female cousins. At least the things go size one of them

Pweety4me:

@ZZZ no dey vex o! she's having a blast!

Yeah, I can imagine!

cold:

U neva c anytin.How old u say u b again

Me? 5 yrs.

Pweety4me:

Lol, she may feel that way. . .

Talk 2 her after her buffday yea

If sm1 is to be accussed of being a stalker, then it shld be her.
Called her now, just to ask how her bday is going. Was hearing a strange noise in the background and askd her where she was and she said she wasnt in her room (she is a student). I said its obvious u are not in ur room, where then are u? She said smwhere around the campus hanging out with a friend . I just said ok. And still keeping my cool!
But Meeehnnnn inreality I DEY VEX SERIOUSLY!

Pweety4me:

@OP Mr man it could be any the reasons people have stated above, look i would advise u to ask her after her buffday . . .and seriously don't be a stalker i don't like that personally

Yes & i don't like love messages or any romantic messages on my page because i don't want people in my business, people get all the wrong mesages & some guys don't even know me like that! and also i AM NOT TO BE OWNED BY ANYBODY!

Im not a stalker. My message on her wall doesnt show I own her. Im not like that.

Odunnu:

Have you made your sincere intentions known to ths girl? What was her response? I ask because you shouldnt assume she knows how serious you want her to be a part of your life.
. . .and coming to facebook,you dont judge people by whats there. Its like 'friends gisting hostel' we just 'act' a script.
Take it easy, long distance r'ship needs extra grace to excel.
Please,whatever you do, restrain from dealing with this today, tomorrow or next.Let it lie for a few days b4 you strike.

Yes I have made my intentions known to her. I did that so that she wld knw how serious I am. Her response was positive.
U said pple shldnt be judged by whats on facebook. I find that hard to believe. Comments are being read by pple known to us, so to a large extent what we say reflects who we are.
I'm sure I wont say anythn abt it 2day. But 2moro, Im not sure i wont mention it Thanx.

MzD@rkSkin:

@poster she may or may not have another man. If I were you, I'd confront her. Mention everything you have typed
above and express yourself to her clearly and bluntly. Now like Kokoye (??) said, she may not want her business out there.
I am like that too. I do not like ppl to know everything about me so some things I'd prefer to keep between myself and the other
involved, again she may be the same. Just ask her. You should not be afraid to talk to someone you claim to love/care for.
I wish you two the best, as for this "possessive character" be very sure to question her about him! Definitely! He may be a problem!

Thanx Mz, I would definitely ask her whom he is. I can tell when sm1 is lying so if she does I'll knw.

M M M:

bros just go ahead and spoil her day.

. Thanx for making me laugh!

cold:

@op you already know the truth but you want us to help you reinforce it;YES you're not the only one involved here.I can't even say she's cheating on u cuz this relationship lacks any serious foundation.It might even be that both of u are cheating on the other guy.
She's keeping both options open so when the main tyre deflates-she has a spare tyre to carry on
Ma guy our pple talk say the truth dey bitter but we must talk am.Goat no dey strangle eself wen elder dey around.Drop her like 'it's' hot.Nuff said

Although truth is bitter, I still prefer being told the truth. Thanx!

justwise:

@op,

Don't spoil her day, yes u have to ask her but not today.

But seriously, i don't think u can handle long distance rela/ship, its hard, its torture.

Yeah, I know. Its really hard. Especially when one tries to be committed just the way Im trying to be.

irisheve:

Long distance rship requires alot, u can confront her bt nt 2day mk sure u dont sound as if u re accusing her.

I intend asking her whom Im sharing her with?

kokoye:

^^^

You like her and want her but you dont trust her. She also may not be the type that wants her business out there.

Advice: It is OK to ask her and talk about it but you obviously cannot handle a long distance relationship.

Drop it.

Thanx for ur comment but she isnt the type that cares about having her business out there. I have been reading her posts.

Hello Nladers, pls I need your advise. Pls this may be a long story but kindly read.

I reside in the US. Just before I left Nigeria I met a girl whom I liked. When I arrived US, I kept communicating with with her and smhow I fell in love with her. She seemed like my kind of person. She told me she is in love with me too and we started our rship. She claimed she wasnt in any relationship when I met her. Our relationship is about 5 months old now. As expected we are friends on fb. But there's somthn I noticed, whenever I  post a romantic message on her wall she ensures she doesnt comment. I once asked her why and she gave me a flimsy excuse.
Today is her birthday, I posted a romantic birthday message on her wall and noticed that another guy too posted somthn similar on her wall and using possessive words. I also posted a birthday cake which was the only thing she commented on saying 'Thank you' without any affectionate words like 'dear, darling, swthrt, ' U knw what I mean?
Although she didnt comment on the other guys message too, I feel she did that delibrately so as not to give herself away or raise any suspicions (trying to eat her cake and still have it).
She posted her pix and the other guy commented that he wld like to hav the pix (he tagged her pix). Then the guys frnd commented ' (called his frnd's name) why wld you like to hav the pix when the original body is urs?' Although she has deleted the guys frnd's post, she didnt know I read it b4 it was deleted.
I feel betrayed and I feel like accusing her, but how do I go abt it? Shld I ask her 2day? Or I shld just keep cool and look for sm1 else?
BTW I was already thinkin of settling down with her as she seems to hav what I want.