Successful people have cultivated the habit of never denying to themselves their true feelings and attitudes. They have no need for pretenses. Once you accept yourself completely you don't have to maintain a phony front, or feel insecure if people don't tune in to you and what you're doing. Visualize what you really want, not what someone else wants for you. Don't forfeit three-forth's of yourself to be like other people. First say to yourself what you would be and then do what you have to do.