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Bridezilla's Crazy Email to Bridesmaids
Goes Viral. We Respond to Her Demands
(and Cc: Internet)
Love + Sex - Thursday, October 4, 2012
It's being called the most insane email a
bride has ever sent to her bridesmaids .
But if you've been in enough wedding
parties, you probably won't be too
shocked by the epic bridezilla missive
going viral this week.
The email, sent anonymously to Gawker ,
starts off by addressing the 10 "lovely"
bridesmaids tasked with being unpaid
interns for the worlds worst bridal boss . It
goes on to anticipate their failures as
friends and humans.
Thirty bridesmaids, one bride. It
happened.
And while it represents all that is wrong
with the wedding industry, it's also part of
a trend for brides to send an "opening
email" to bridesmaids with a list of
expectations (i.e. demands, dates,
overview of expected financial
expenditure, etc.) Brides on forums like
Wedding Bee and The Knot debate how to
present their demands to bridesmaids. Do
you send a group email? Do you create a
newsletter with updates? Do you outline
what the bridesmaid's job entails?
The cost of being a bridesmaid
Do we need to say this is not the best way
to get a bunch of people to do a you a
favor? It seems like we do. Here's a
response to the bridezilla email [ read in its
entirety here ] from the perspective of the
bridesmaid:
TO THE MOST DIFFICULT BRIDE EVER:
You wrote: "As you all know I picked 10
wonderful ladies to stand by my side,
share and make happen my special day to
Jake. Each of you individually have a
reason and a special place in my heart of
why I picked you to be a bridesmaid"
FIRSTLY, IT'S NOT AN HONOR TO BE A
BRIDESMAID, IT'S A FAVOR.
Everything you said is really nice, but the
fact that ten of us were chosen for the
honor makes us feel more like an army
than a select group of friends.
*****
You wrote: "You may have already knew
that my wonderful sister L- will be the
Maid of Honor, she's in charge under me.
Also my lovely mom will be a big help as
well. L- has a big role in throwing me a
bridal shower and bachelorette party, of
course all of you guys do but at the end of
the day shes the go to person and makes
it happen."
WE DON'T NEED A BRIDESMAIDS' MILITARY
RANKING. WE'RE GOOD.
Another thing that makes us feel less
special? Being told where we are in the
hierarchy of specialness.
*****
You wrote: "We have set our date for
Saturday, August 31, 2013 in Vail,
Colorado. That seems far away but it really
isn't, the earlier the planning the better."
YOUR PARTY ISN'T A SUMMER
BLOCKBUSTER MOVIE
For you, this wedding may feel like a
personal Oscars, the most significant event
of 2013, but for us it's just a night where
we drink and eat. It's really hard to get
excited about dinner a year from now.
*****
You wrote: "If you guys email anything I
would also like you to put L- in the CC. Not
all the bridesmaid need to be CC'd unless
its coming from me or L-, if it something
everyone needs to see then well do it."
YOU'RE NOT A CEO ADDRESSING NEW
HIRES
I know you feel like you're running an
enterprise, but we're not getting paid. In
fact, in your business plan we all "spend"
money, so you're going to have to work on
the incentives before you start micro-
managing.
*****
You wrote: "We set the date to August 31,
2013 if that's a problem we need to know
NOW. Also by the end of the week we will
be setting dates for the engagement party,
bridal show and bachelorette party."
MORE THAN 2 EMAILS ABOUT YOUR 2013
WEDDING IN THE SAME WEEK WILL FORCE
US TO FILE YOUR NAME UNDER SPAM.
Really August 31st? I think I'm doing
something on that date. Oh wait, I'm
going to the wedding you just gave us the
date for two sentences ago. We got it.
Also, your warning about further dates
suggests several more emails like this one,
which is already not going well. How
about you save this email as a draft and
send the whole shebang when you've got
all your dates together? Thanks.
*****
You wrote: "Our wedding party is really the
most important people at the wedding
besides my self and Jake so we want every
single one of our bridesmaid and grooms
at our parties… if you already know you
cant make one of the parties then we have
to find someone else, not to be harsh in
the slightest it would sadden me and of
course you'll still be invited to our
wedding, engagement ect."
IF YOU WANT OUR HELP, PLEASE DON'T
THREATEN US
...And you have to write, "not to be harsh,"
you're being harsh.
*****
You wrote: "The wedding as I stated will
be in Vail the engagement party will either
be in NY or CT and the bachelorette party
will be in Vegas, cliche yeaa but I've never
been…if you wont be able to afford a flight
then that means you cant make a party
which ultimately means I cant have you as
a bridesmaid."
WE'RE NOT RICH. DON'T TAKE THAT
PERSONALLY.
So that's three parties, in three different
states scattered throughout the country. I
was hoping to visit my family for the
holidays but I guess I'll be out of vacation
days and money. See you in 2014, aging
parents!
*****
You wrote: "I would like everyone to send
me any dates they are going away or
planning to go away after February so if
your going away in January I don't care. I
want any dates from February to the day
of our wedding in August, that way we
know not to plan something when your
away. But after this week the dates are set
in stone. "
JUST BECAUSE YOU PLAN YOUR PARTIES
TWO YEARS IN ADVANCE THAT DOESN'T
MEAN YOU OWN TIME
Just so you know, this is a totally
unreasonable request.
*****
You wrote: "Obviously we'll get the best
deals and were not gonna books flights for
$1000 … that's why were doing this in
advance."
PLEASE STOP USING THE WORD "DEALS"
IN REFERENCE TO YOUR WEDDING
Just because a flight is under $1,000 that
doesn't mean it's cheap. Those hotel
"packages" usually still average around
$250 a room, and those bridesmaids
dresses are usually three times the price
of the same exact dress not sold in official
bridal outlets. We already know we're
going to be forking over a ridiculous
amount of money, but please don't act like
you're helping us save.
*****
You wrote: "I need to know if everyone is
100% in by Wednesday…If you don't think
you'll be able to attend one party but can
make the rest of them I'm sorry but I'll
have to take you out as a bridesmaid and
put you as a guest…Really think about
everything I've said. This is really going to
be the most epic wedding ever so I hope
you girls can share this special day with
us!"
NOBODY'S EXCITED ABOUT YOUR PARTY
ANYMORE
So what you're saying is that the people
you don't like as much get to show up to
that one party and then leave, without
spending thousands of dollars and the
next year as your indentured servant?
How do we sign up for that?
Please let me know by Friday.
Best,
A Former Bridesmaid