For the married ones what do you call your spouse and what does your spouse call you? That sweet name he/she calls you that melts you and makes you feel so special. And for those not yet married, what would you call your spouse?

As for me, I think I'll call him Nkem (it means mine). By the way I'm not Igbo but I love that name. _{It could be Sweetie, or Handsome or Sunshine or Honey.}   

Anyway, I have so many sweet names I'll choose from.     

What about you?       

It'll be a variant of her name -- and I'm going to make sure we only use it in private. I'm also going to be the only person who calls her that.

Zahymaka:

It'll be a variant of her name -- and I'm going to make sure we only use it in private. I'm also going to be the only person who calls her that.

I agree wit this. My elder brother calls his wife "baby" and his kid {2yrs old} has picked it he now calls his mum "baby" as well.

Trust kids. That's why some men call their wives "mom".

Zahymaka:

Trust kids. That's why some men call their wives "mom".

thats wat ma uncle calls his wife and she calls him dad

i'll find a special name that wud be his in the entire world

honey!!!!

I call my boo 'oko mi' meaning my husband and he calls me his princess

I call my wife Mama, Mama T or just her name, Tola depending on the situation. She calls me Temi (My Own) at all times.

Our 5year old daugter has noticed this, so any time she wants to get something from me she calls me Temi and it makes me laugh when she does that - It means she understands the special attention the nickname draws). At some other times she calls my wife by her name Tola. We try to tell her to call us Mummy and Daddy but i guess its what she hears most of the time that she wants to call us expecially when we are all at home. I also noticed that she will only call us those names right in the house and never outside.

That's cool. Smart lil' girl.

Its all good.

@ Olu
Temi is in Yoruba what Nkem is in Igbo.

That's cool.

darly

wat ever u choose to call your spouse just be careful, the kids might just pick it up.

Zahymaka:

It'll be a variant of her name -- and I'm going to make sure we only use it in private. I'm also going to be the only person who calls her that.

Yes, that's how cults start too. Only teasing!

@Olu Abuja
You daughter must be very clever.

Such sweet stories. As for me, I'd call him "di m" Igbo for "my husband", "Onye mu" Igbo for "My someone" or "Nkem". Nkem is the front running. Do you mind babymine? I haven't met my husband yet so his personality would decide on what I'd call him. I'd make it something private though as opposed to his name or nickname. I think that'd make us both feel special & loved.

Oh I just thought of something. Abroad everyone goes by their "Christian" name, so I guess I'd call my hubby his Igbo/Yoruba/Hausa/Habesha/Swahili etc. name if we live abroad. Foreigners cannot really pronounce our names so I won't have to worry about someone trying to call him by that name. But then again, maybe I'll have to share the privilege w/ his mother. Gentlemen, what do you think? If I marry a Nigerian should I use his ethnic name - if we live abroad - or a sweetheart name? Which would you prefer? If I don't marry an African well, refer to my previous post.

I'll call him papii. your lordship sir, bhayette nkosi or better still ma masta

im loving the ''papii'' one

If I may ask, why papi?

papii cos i love ,respect him and admire him it's just an endearment.it does not take any thing away from me being his equal partner in our relationship

ikamefa:

or better still ma masta

That sounds slavish.

slavish or not na endearment

ikamefa:

papii because i love ,respect him and admire him it's just an endearment.it does not take any thing away from me being his equal partner in our relationship

What I meant was, are you latina/hispanic? What drew you to this name/word/endearment?

ikamefa:

I'll call him papii. your lordship sir, bhayette nkosi or better still ma masta

mochafella:

That sounds slavish.

ikamefa:

slavish or not na endearment

Er, I can't feel you on the "masta" part.

When I had one it was baby or babe.

@Sade
Oh are you divorced? Don't mean to pry.

thats just what ya doing

no
It was my ex boyfriend.

Rhodalyn:

thats just what ya doing

took the words right out of my mouth

OIC @ Sade & the ubiquitous Rhodalyn.

lol chinani what big english is that come down to my level

oh yeah!! babe i just searched for the meaning

''Being or seeming to be everywhere at the same time'', yeah!! man!! thats Rhodalyn for U

i know a man who calls his wife: baby
the wife calls him: babe