I have a close friend whom I trust and in return trust me. Sometimes, I do visit him and he do visit me and in the process, we may pass night in each other place. We became addicted to this method of sleeping in each other's place and as a result; I sometimes prefer to go his place since he has more entertainment gadget more than I do plus he uses room and a parlour, while I use just a room and am not married. As usual, I visited him @ night after work and pass the night in his place. And now he wasn't around as he left home very early the next day, when I woke, his wife told me, he had gone to work, so, I just relax and have another round of sleep. When I woke up, she serve me food to eat after I had prepared myself for the day. I was shocked to receive her invitation to come help her to zip her gown from behind, since she was ready to goto her shop for normal business activity. I firstly pretend as if I did not hear what she said, & she repeated it. Then, I felt is it normal? Then, I took excuse that when I finish eating I'll come help her to zip her cloth. But, before that could happen, a lady (an apprentice) came in & help her out. Now my question is, let assume I wasn't eating or I had finish eating would I have help her out? Meanwhile, she's pregnant and my friend use to make a joke that he his not the father of her unborn baby (a joke I mean and he never mean that statement). Pls, help offer a suggestion or opinion as this scenario may make me to withdraw from going to my friends place as she may request me to help her zip her cloth on another occasion. No abuse pls. Just your candid opinion. Thank you!

hmmm. You yarb o my guy. you for just pretend say you wan zip up the thing, come say make you just help her rub the belle, from there say you wan help her touch her nip.ples and from there say you wan help her feel her hairy otuoke, if she no say no to all that, then carry go.

You have gotten too close for comfort..
It was a harmless request but can be misinterpreted by anyone.
Respect yourself and respect the family..
Stay away...for your good and your friend's!

Thank you @Adura_ngba, but did U read the entire post? I'm taking of a friend who trusted me with his family, moreso, she's pregnant, how I my suppose to do such a thing you're insinuating?

Reduce the way you go to his house. Moreover he is married now. You have your house so stop sleeping in his house for God sake. For the fact that he trust you does not mean you should not respect your self. Since you are sensing temptation, why not avoid it before it happens?

Proximity gives birth to attraction and in your own case,is possible that she might be attracted to you and if that is true, then expect more mischievous moves from her. Prevention they say is better than cure.

When cat sleep ,rat go bite hm tail.

Wey ya own wife?
Single people 'rolling' with married peeps is like a ticking time bomb!!!!!

This ya best friend is one of a kind!!!!
Looks like he likes threesomes!

Thank you so much @2goodbobo. U're right on point. I've already done that by not visiting as much as I do b4, I only visit when my friend is around. But, for the fact that am a Yoruba man, there is this culture or tradition that (eni tao ba fe, oun ni ile e n'jina) "it is whom we do not like that we will complain that his house is too far". Me & my friend are too close to say I'll not b visiting and I want to believe my friends wife requested me to help zip her cloth in good faith, I never wants to believe that she has an hidden agenda. If she does, that will b d last thing I will ever do, I only want to know if it is proper as I know her very well, she can make such request in the presence of her husband, and my friend will not see it as a negative thing. But, is it normal or proper, that's all I want to know as I cannot avoid to go to my friends place. Thank you.

Ok, noted.

Tell am to hellep you zip your 'front' too! Haba!!!

May i ask you this.......your friend uses a room and a parlour, so where do you sleep there? In d sitting room, i guess, when you have your own room and your bed to sleep on in your own house. Sincerely, you are not respecting your friend's privacy, even parents reduce d rate at which they visit their children when they get married, if one' s parent can do that, why is that so difficult for friends to do? Keep off, stay off, respect their privacy, remember they are married, too much familiarity breeds contempt.......stay away, before pple or even your friend start to doubt your friendship. D woman's request may be genuine and harmless but can as well be easily misinterpreted, especially, if a guest accidentally meet you while zipping d gown.
May God help us all.

Your friend doesn't know how to tell you to stay away. You never know, he is already thinking you are the father of the baby . But use your common sense haba. Visit when he is around and don't over stay/don't sleep there anymore. Or do it as oyinbo *phone calls*. Those days of awon boyz is long gone.

Your friend's wife is Nigerian... right?
*undecided*

So did you do the zip or you left her waiting till you get response from Nairaland?

A word they say is enough for the wise; use ur head. Visit him when his around and dont stay long. Bye the way dont u go to work? Or even if u dont work, cant u form activities,lyk very busy.

Mu che che che che che che

Lol... Op you jobless sha. Better go look for a job so you can get married too.

One more thing, give your friend and his wife breathing space!

Thank you for all your comments, I quite appreciate you all for your candid advice and I think I learn one or two things from all of your contributions, may God help us all. To those of you who do not read the post before commenting, to you I also want to thank, at least for taking your time to punch that keypad or keyboard. To answer most of above questions, I work, but, I owned my business and I only visit my place of work at my will. And I do sleep in the parlour with my friend while his wife take charge of the room. Moreover, the relationship between me and my friend is beyond guessing or projecting, we don't hide things from each other and if you guys read the first or second line of my post you we note I deed mention of trust. So, ladies and gentlemen, thank you once again. Your opinion will really go a long way as I will be debating on most of your post. I guess, I'll not have to vacate Lagos because of this issue to avoid story that touch. God bless Us. God bless Nairaland, God bless Nigeria!

Seriously.. if its a concern to you then you should avoid being alone with her.. Anyway it doesnt look good when married folks are alone with the opposite gender no matter what the conditions are.

@ poster. my guy, U are protesting a little too much, which makes me think you are getting ideas about ur friend's wife. her request could have been innocent, I mean it really is difficult to zip your own dress from behind. So what I suggest is u check Yourself and do what's necessary (minimise the number of your visits) or forget the zip incidence :-)

You are welcome poster!

If it feels wrong, it most likely is!

@op ask her husband the exact question you posted here? smh

Its NOT right.
OP,be careful,very careful.

ifyalways: Its NOT right.
OP,be careful,very careful.

Sharapp joor Its right. Let me zip your sokoto too

dayokanu:

Sharapp joor Its right. Let me zip your sokoto too

Sorrrry oh.Its 2013 and i dont do single men anymore.
Seeeee you when u get married . . .and stay married.

ifyalways: Sorrrry oh.Its 2013 and i dont do single men anymore.
Seeeee you when u get married . . .and stay married.

Im married to Blazay and we have stayed married for long

dayokanu:

Im married to Blazay and we have stayed married for long

Trouble dey sleep......

Op, seriously u need to give ur friend & his wife their well deserved privacy. You mentioned that you & ur friend sleep in the living room while his wife has the bedroom to herself. That's totally immature of both of you. You're simply stealing the couple's time. Grow up! Give them some space & work towards your own relationship that would possibly lead to marriage too. Three is a crowd please!