Deborah Jolaosho was in JSS2 when a family friend took advantage of her vulnerability to rape her. Now pregnant and abandoned by the alleged rapist, she tells MOTUNRAYO ABODERIN her story

There was no sign of an impending danger when Rachel Jolaosho sent her slightly mentally challenged daughter, Deborah, to go and get a drum from a family friend’s house in Meiran, a community along the border between Lagos and Ogun States. To her, it was a routine errand to task her daughter’s understanding of her world.

But danger was actually lurking because Taju Adejumo, a friend of the Jolaoshos who was to give the drum to Deborah, was not as virtuous as he seemed. He allegedly preyed on the girl’s mental weakness, taking her to a room in his house before tying the 15-year-old girl’s hands and legs and raping her. He reportedly told her not to tell anyone and that if she did, death would visit her in seven days.

Deborah who is now seven months pregnant showed signs of being pregnant and when her mother noticed changes in her appearance and failing health, she queried her and realised that her daughter had been abused by the alleged sex offender. Deborah says her life has been sent on a path she did not prepare to tread.

“I’m going through pains. My back is hurting. I can’t sleep well and I don’t have appetite for food. I don’t have friends any longer and I rarely go out of the house. It feels as if my world has come to an end. Every day, I blame myself for allowing this to happen. Probably if I had fought him, I wouldn’t be pregnant. I’ve brought shame to my family,” she says.

Her nightmare is also multiplied by the alleged constant verbal attack from Adejumo’s wife whenever they meet on the street.

“Any time I step out of our house, Adejumo’s wife rains curses on me. She has said terrible things to me. I try to move around the community so that I can ease my pains and take time off my sorrow but Adejumo’s wife is always waiting for me, she doesn’t allow me to go out again, I feel really bad,” Deborah says.

Adejumo, who accepted his crime against the teenager, no longer wants to be associated with Deborah. The Jolaosho’s say the alleged rapist has abandoned Deborah, a position that is attested to by the victim. She says Adejumo treats her like filth.

“When I see him on the street now, he walks past me without saying a word. He hasn’t even offered to pay for my hospital bills. My parents have spent so much money on my antenatal care but he simply walks away from his responsibility after raping and impregnating me. Earlier, when my parents found out about the pregnancy and confronted him, he made promises that he would pay for my hospital bills and take care of the child after I give birth,” she states.

Deborah, who dreamt of becoming a nurse before the incident, says her dreams had been put on hold. “I like studying and I had a lot of dreams before I was raped. My focus has always been to excel in school but Adejumo has robbed me of my joy as a girl. I was a member of the Red Cross club in my school, Meiran Community Junior High School, Lagos. I was also a member of the choir in my church. But with my present position, I can’t take part in the activities of these groups any longer. I feel bad each time I see my friends playing, knowing that I cannot join them in the task. I don’t know how they feel about me now.”

But Deborah has not given up on a better future. She expresses determination to overcome her plight and move on with life. She also has plans for her baby.

“I’m determined to complete my studies. It may not be easy, but I will try my best. I hope to give my child the best in life. I can’t allow the baby to suffer,” she says.

She is not alone in her grief; the family have been grossly upset by Adejumo’s act. Deborah’s mother says the incident casts shadows on her ability as a mother.

She says, “I cried for hours the day I found out my daughter was raped. And to compound the problem, the man who did it was a friend of the family, I respected him before he showed the other side of himself. Sometimes I confided in him about some personal issues. I never thought he could do such a terrible thing.

“I cry each time I look at my daughter now. I can imagine the pain she is facing. No mother would ever wish this sort of life for her 15-year-old daughter. She is still young. Her body isn’t prepared for this. She doesn’t eat much. I’m always begging her to eat. This is not the type of life I dreamt for my daughter.”

When asked what she wanted from the alleged rapist, Deborah’s mother answers, “Adejumo has to pay us back the total money we have spent on Deborah’s antenatal. He must take responsibility for his action. He must also take care of my child’s education.”

Although, Adejumo, who claimed to have been embarrassed by his action, promised the Jolaosho family that he would take of Deborah, but according to the family, Adejumo has since shied away from his responsibility.

Deborah’s father, Peter, told our correspondent that Adejumo had shown no concern for his daughter’s condition and that after he paid for the scan which confirmed his daughter’s four-month pregnancy, Adejumo had not offered any form of support.

“The night Adejumo was released from the police cell; he threw a party in his house, celebrating being a free man again.

“Adejumo was a close friend. I took him like a brother. I have known him for five years. I wonder why he would do this to me. He has ruined my daughter’s life. Since December, he hasn’t offered to pay for my daughter’s hospital bills. He shows no concern about her health in any way,” he says.

Beyond Deborah’s pregnancy, there is fear of attack on the family. Jolaosho says when his family reported the matter to the police, the community criticised him for going too far.

“The whole community is now against my family. They queried us for taking the matter to the police. They said we should have covered up for Adejumo. The nurse who was treating my daughter all of a sudden refused to treat her again. We found out that members of the community were the ones that inspired her to quit. I’m always worried whenever my daughter goes out because these people can harm her. I can’t even go to my work place. On several occasions, I’ve had series of accidents,” he states.

When SUNDAY PUNCH contacted Adejumo, he claimed that the Jolaoshos lied against him.

“I have being fulfilling my responsibility. On several occasions, I’ve offered the family money but they refused to collect the money. On January 4, I offered the family N1, 000 but they did not collect it. And on January 22, I gave the father some money but he turned down my offer. I don’t know what they want me to do. I have tried my best,” he said.

Meanwhile, the police have taken the matter to the Ikeja High Court, Lagos, and hearing will start on Monday.


How can this world be so wicked that we allow men like this man to go unpunished by our legal system?

Eeyaa...poor gal....
As ƑƠ̴͡Ʀ †ђξ useless man,he wl rot in jail....#eranoko#

May God reward the men that r*ape (young and mentally challenged/disabled and any female) in their own coins. I am not forgetting that the world is now so crazy that some violate their fellow men so same goes for men(or women) that volate even young boys, mentally challenged/disabled and any male too. I read about a disabled man that was secreting raping a young female child and was like "wetin no go happen for this world sef".

“I have being fulfilling my responsibility. On several occasions, I’ve offered the family money but they refused to collect the money. On January 4, I offered the family N1, 000 but they did not collect it. And on January 22, I gave the father some money but he turned down my offer. I don’t know what they want me to do. I have tried my best,” he said.

May you die a slow painful death . . . May your blockkus whither and fall off mysteriously . . . may your generation continue to suffer for your offence for ever and ever . . . Amen!

This sad story has poverty written all over it. A crime has happened here and no one is willing to act to get justice. The girl made a critical mistake, she was raped and hid the crime until it was too late.

I agree that poverty is likely an issue here. The poor get no justice. However, I don't agree that it's too late. The bast*ard himself has admitted to the act. There is DNA evidence in her belly. It's only been 7 months sine the act? Why is it too late for justice?


Meanwhile smh at the mans wife for harassing the girl. Some people will die of ignorance, poverty and lack of education. Instead of taking it up with her p*edophile of a husband who will soon r*ape his own daughters, she's torturing the poor mentally challenged victim. Fool!

Ujujoan:
may your generation continue to suffer for your offence for ever and ever . . . Amen!

^^ Classic example of anger clouding common sense; so the devil's unfortunate children should suffer for their father's crime?

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When i read stories like this, i feel angry...and impotent. Angry that a devil in human clothing has committed an outrageous crime against someone who doesnt even know how to fight back; and impotent cos, knowing the country i live in, the bas!ard will prolly get away with it.

ileobatojo: I agree that poverty is likely an issue here. The poor get no justice. However, I don't agree that it's too late. The bast*ard himself has admitted to the act. There is DNA evidence in her belly. It's only been 7 months sine the act? Why is it too late for justice?


Meanwhile smh at the mans wife for harassing the girl. Some people will die of ignorance, poverty and lack of education. Instead of taking it up with her pedophile of a husband who will soon rape his own daughters, she's torturing the poor mentally challenged victim. Fool!

Shebi the wife sef go born daughters and live with this same animal

dayokanu:

Shebi the wife sef go born daughters and live with this same animal

Don't mind the dull woman!

Blasted Pyguru turned my post to mush! Had to go back and edit.

ileobatojo: I agree that poverty is likely an issue here. The poor get no justice. However, I don't agree that it's too late. The bast*ard himself has admitted to the act. There is DNA evidence in her belly. It's only been 7 months sine the act? Why is it too late for justice?


Meanwhile smh at the mans wife for harassing the girl. Some people will die of ignorance, poverty and lack of education. Instead of taking it up with her p*edophile of a husband who will soon r*ape his own daughters, she's torturing the poor mentally challenged victim. Fool!

The reason why justice is highly unlikely to be served is not because it is too late- far from it. It is because we live in a hypocrital world and society. Many of the men who will advise the poor girl's parents would have at one point or the other had carnal knowledge of a woman against her will and many women who have been forcefully had won't speak out about it.

It is these kind of people that will come and tell the girl and her parents: 'you can't lock up the father of your daughter's unborn child, he will still be needed in future.'

maclatunji:

The reason why justice is highly unlikely to be served is not because it is too late- far from it. It is because we live in a hypocrital world and society. Many of the men who will advise the poor girl's parents would have at one point or the other had carnal knowledge of a woman against her will and many women who have been forcefully had won't speak out about it.

It is these kind of people that will come and tell the girl and her parents: 'you can't lock up the father of your daughter's unborn child, he will still be needed in future.'

You are right, Mac! So sad!