To make your wife feel love for you from
the bottom of her heart. Here are 60
islamic guaranteed ways for real couples
making love: 1 Make her feel secure; (sakina-
tranquillity) QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE.
2 When you go home say 'Assalmualikum.
' (Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan out of
your home!
3 Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) described the wife as a fragile vessel and
said to take care of this vessel that’s
fragile. Remember that there is goodness
in this vessel so treat it gently.
4 When you advise her, do so in privacy, in
a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC as it’s a type of slandering.
5 Be generous to your wife- it keeps her
LOVED
6 Move and let her have your seat. It will
warm her heart.
7 AVIOD ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet Sallal lahu alaihy
Wasallam said if you are angry, sit down,
if you’re sitting, then lie down. Follow the
sunnah!
8 Look good and smell great for your wife.
IT keeps the LOVE! 9 Don’t be rigid. It will break you. Prophet
Mohammed - Sallal lahu Aleihi Wasallam
(SAW means “May the blessings and the
peace of Allah be upon him” (Muhammad).)
said 'I am the best amongst you and I am
the best to my wife'. Being rigid and harsh will not bring you close to Allah and
neither does it make you more of a man.
10 Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER
11 YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing
is like poison in a marriage. Al zawai said
'When Allah (swt) wants evil for people He will leave them to argue amongst
themselves'.
12 Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam)
said to call your wives with the best name,
any name she loves to hear. Prophet
Mohammed (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) called Khadija 'Ya Khadija' as an
endearment.
13 Give her a pleasant surprise. I.e. if she
loves watermelon, bring her one out of the
blue. It will grow the love in her heart.
14 Preserve your tongue! Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said the tongue will
throw people in the hell fire so watch
what you say and how you say it!
15 All of us have shortcoming. Accept her
shortcoming and Allah (swt) will put
barakh in your marriage. 16 TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW her
you appreciate her.
17 Encourage her to keep good relation
with her relative, her mum and dad etc.
18 Speak with her with a topic of HER
interest. 19 In front of her relative praise her.
Confirm/ realize that she is wonderful, and
that she is a good person in front of her
family.
20 Give each other gifts. You will love each
other more. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said gifts increases love.
21 Get rid of the routine once in a while,
surprise her with something, it will get rid
of the rust and polish it!
22 Husnul zaan- We have a demand from
Allah (swt) that we have to think good of people. Think good of your spouse.
23 Ignore some of her mistakes- pretend
you did not see/hear some of her small
mistakes. It was a practise of Ali (RA). It’s
like putting a hole in your memory. Don’t
save it in your memory! 24 Increase the drops of patience,
especially when she is pregnant or when
she is on her monthly period.
25 Expect and respect her jealousy. Even
Maulatona Khadija (ra) used to get jealous.
26 Be humble. If your profession is good, respect that she is looking after your
children, she is much more than you, she is
the leader at home, her strength is your
strength, and her success is your successes.
27 Don't put your friends above your wife.
28 Help your wife at home. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) used to help his
wives at home and he was the best of
creation. He used to sew his own clothes.
29 Help her respect your parents, you can’t
force her to love them, but she can be
helped to gradually love them. 30 Show your wife she is the ideal wife.
31 Remember your wife in your duaas. It
will increase the love and protect it.
32 Leave the past. It brings nothing but
pain and grief. It’s not your business. The
past is for Allah (swt). 33 Don't try to show her that you are doing
her a favour by doing something, like
buying food for the house, because in
reality we are the courier of sustenance,
not the providers, as Allah is the provider.
It’s also a way of being humble and thankful to Allah (swt)
34 Shaitaan is your enemy, not your wife.
Sometime when husband and wife are
talking a fight breaks out, then shaitaan is
present there as a third person so he is the
real enemy. It is not enough to hate the shaitaan, but you have to see him as an
enemy as Allah has commanded. Shaitaan
loves divorce. HE comes everyday and sits
office and asks the devils what they have
done, some say i have made a person
steal, or i have made someone drink etc. And one devil will say i have made a man
divorce his wife, and he is crowned as the
one who has done the best job.
35 Take the food and put it in her mouth.
Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam)
taught us this. It’s a blessing. The food doesn’t just go to her stomach, but straight
to her heart. It increases the love and
mercy between you.
36 Protect your wife from the evil of the
shaitaan and mankind. She is like a
precious pearl that needs protecting from the envy of human devils and shitaan.
37 Show her your smile. Smile at your
wife. IT’S A CHARITY.
38 Small problems/ challenges can become
a big problem. Or if there is small thing she
didn't like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between
you. Don’t ignore them as it can become
big.
39 Avoid being harsh hearted and moody.
Allah said of prophet (saw) 'if you were
harsh hearted they (the companions) would have left you.' It confirms prophet
(Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) was not
harsh hearted, so GET RID OF IT.
40 Respect her thinking. It’s strength for
you. Show you like her thoughts and
suggestions. 41 Help her to achieve her potential and
help her to dig and find success within as
her success is your success.
42 Respect the intimate relationship and
its boundaries. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy
Wasallam) said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs to be treated tenderly.
Sometime she may not be feeling well;
you must respect and appreciate that
feeling.
43 Help her to take care of the children.
Some men think it makes them appear less of a man but in fact it makes you appear a
bigger man and more respected, especially
in the sight of Allah (swt).
44 Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet
talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an
artist. Pick and choose gifts of the tongue. 45 Sit down and eat with her and share
food with her.
46 Let her know you are travelling. Don't
tell her out of the blue as it’s against Islam.
Tell her the date/ time of when you are
coming back also. 47 Don't leave the house as soon as trouble
brews.
48 The house has privacy and secrecy. Once
you take this privacy and secrecy to your
friends and family you are in danger of
putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays home. Islam is against
leaving them out like a garage sale for
anyone to come and pick and choose.
49 Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e.
plan a trip for hajj or umrah together. It
increases and strengthens the love when you help each other perform a good deeds
together i.e, do tahajuud together,or go to
a dars together etc.
50 Know her rights, not only written in
paper but engraved in your heart and
engraved in your conscious. 51 Allah( swt) said 'live with your wives
in kindness.' Treat them with kindness and
goodness. It means in happy times and in
sadness treat her with goodness and
fairness.
52 Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) showed that at the time of intimacy. Don’t
jump on your wife like an animal!
53 When you have a dispute with your
wife don’t tell everyone. It’s like leaving
your wounds open to germs so be careful
who you share your problems and disputes with.
54 Show your wife you really care for her
health. Good health of your wife is your
good health. To care for her health shows
her that you love her.
55 Don’t think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have
shortcomings. You are not perfect as the
only one who was perfect in character
was prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam).
Get rid of this disease.
56 Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her.
57 Have mercy on her weakness. Have
mercy when she is weak or strong as she
is the fragile vessel. Prophet (Sallal lahu
alaihy Wasallam) said that your wife is a
trust in your hand. 58 Remember you are her strength,
someone to lean on in times of hardship.
59 Accept her as she is. Prophet (Sallal lahu
alaihy Wasallam) said that women are
created from the rib which is bent. If you
try to straighten her you will break her (divorce). Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy
Wasallam) said that you may dislike one
habit in her but you will like another
manner in her so accept her as she is.
60 Have good intention for your wife all
the time, Allah monitors your intention and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t)
said Among His Signs is that He created for
you wives from among yourselves, that
you may find repose in them, and He has
put between you affection and mercy.
Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. May Allah fill our homes and heart with
tranquillity, love and Mercy. AMEEN

JazakAllahu Khair,

Maybe you should change the topic, it seems to suggest something else. Mods can change it.

tbaba1234: JazakAllahu Khair.

I don't know why but this message from OP resonates with me in a strange kind of way. Maybe because it lists things I can work on even without being married.

maclatunji:

I don't know why but this message from OP resonates with me in a strange kind of way. Maybe because it lists things I can work on even without being married.

Maybe it is just telling you to hurry up and do nikkah!!

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tbaba1234:

Maybe it is just telling you to hurry up and do nikkah!!

Bad Belle #LOL