Ujujoan: My husband and I are fighting because . . .

1. He didn't want me to take my daughter to my village for the weekend. (I had to go for my sister's intro)

I really do not know why people get paranoid about taking their kids to their village. I come from a close knit family and I don’t believe any of my relatives will want to ‘jazz’ my child. His fears were baseless and I told him so.

2. He wanted to drive us.

He thinks I’m not a good driver, but it has never bothered him when I travel alone. But because I wanted to go with our kid, he suddenly decided it was risky. I was offended because why on earth will he think I will want to endanger my own child by driving recklessly?

And then when we got back, he saw some mosquito bites and allergic reactions on her body and went ballistic and blamed me for it. She also had an accident (a standing mirror fell on her head and shattered )and I had to consult our doctor and he found out about it.

He then said I'll NEVER EVER take her to the village overnight again!

The point is that I refuse to let him stop me from taking my daughter where I want to. I feel if I give in now and try to resolve this quarrel, I’ll be accepting his own terms. He's not budging either (men and their daughters! )

I'm thinking of agreeing to it now just to end this face off, but go ahead and do what I want to in future!

So what do you guys think?

Okija_juju:

[b]Uju!

1. He didnt want you to do something and you went ahead and did it anyways... #This makes you a disobidient wife.

2. The fact that you come from a close knit family does not mean that you cant get hurt. As long as you cant see peoples minds, it best to be wary of them.

3. He wanted to drive you guys, SO WHATS THE BIG DEAL?! My wife who has driven interstate severally in the U.S, I still dont allow her drive interstate in Nigeria. I'd rather pay for a driver to take them. Plus you have his daughter with you. Thats enough reason to make him paranoid. Also:

_{YOU ARE A WOMAN.. And by default, a bad driver.. Its not your fault.}

4. You took your daughter to your village against your husbands advice and wishes, brought her back with a bruised skin, allergies and some injuries caused by a fallen mirror. What if she had died?! What do you think he would have done to you?!

If I were your husband, you will never go to the supermarket with my child ever again, talkless of your village. I would also sround you for a while for being disobedient.

Ibu Ada, and this behavior is unbecoming of an Ada.. And you are even planning on commiting future acts of insubordination sef..

Ichie Okija is displeased.. And to think I was actually considering marrying you back then..


_{Umu Ada need to discipline you.. [/right]}[/b]

jidegirl12: See foo lish queshion 'should I give in?' Akurioponuayerada!!!

Ujujoan: My husband and I are fighting because . . .

1. He didn't want me to take my daughter to my village for the weekend. (I had to go for my sister's intro)

I really do not know why people get paranoid about taking their kids to their village. I come from a close knit family and I don’t believe any of my relatives will want to ‘jazz’ my child. His fears were baseless and I told him so.

2. He wanted to drive us.

He thinks I’m not a good driver, but it has never bothered him when I travel alone. But because I wanted to go with our kid, he suddenly decided it was risky. I was offended because why on earth will he think I will want to endanger my own child by driving recklessly?

And then when we got back, he saw some mosquito bites and allergic reactions on her body and went ballistic and blamed me for it. She also had an accident (a standing mirror fell on her head and shattered )and I had to consult our doctor and he found out about it.

He then said I'll NEVER EVER take her to the village overnight again!

The point is that I refuse to let him stop me from taking my daughter where I want to. I feel if I give in now and try to resolve this quarrel, I’ll be accepting his own terms. He's not budging either (men and their daughters! )

I'm thinking of agreeing to it now just to end this face off, but go ahead and do what I want to in future!

So what do you guys think?

Ujujoan:

I'm thinking of agreeing to it now just to end this face off, but go ahead and do what I want to in future!


So what do you guys think?

neyostica: Imagine the nonsense this girl made me read on a Wednesday morning........... who did i offend?

damiso: What is with fathers and their daughters? My husband is exactly the same about my daughter and sometimes it can be annoying.The cheeky girl said to me yesterday wait till my daddy gets back .In my mind I said iwo ati baba e e jo serious po (you and your father are not serious).See her saying it like you will see, you are in big trouble

I get you on how irritating it can be atimes o jare.And how sometimes (they dont mean to sha) it can come across as if you like hurt yourself but my princess must not have one hair out of place.

That said I would not have gone ahead to take her with me, the compromise would have been for him to drive you as suggested (less work for you sef you for enjoy yourself wella) or leave her with him.She is his child too.And this is not necessarily about the village people being out to get us part, but the child safety and logistics part of it. Its your sister's wedding so you would br fully involved and as its not an environment she is used to, its better for someone she is used to watch her.

Abeg give in jare, you proved him right with the bruises so there is actually no other point to be made in this instance.
And example I can give, my husband is verrrry safety conscious as in borders on obsession, am always teasing him that he is soo british and would find it hard living in Nigeria.So my daughter has a scooter she rides and he went out and bought this over the top safety gear, helmet, shin guard, arm brace in short she looks like voltron with the whole gear.When he takes her to the park, she wears the whole get up.I always say to him she looks ridiculous and realky I dont see other kids her age wearing all this your wahala when riding their scooters.He is always like ehn those are other people this is my child.My daughter hates the get up so me and her do secret runs so that when its just us(me and her ) we wear only the helmet.

So Saturday, we went to the park in our we we fashion.Before I knew gboa on the floor (not on the grass) and her knee and leg had nasty scratches as she was wearing shorts cos of the weather. I immediately knew I was in for it.And he already had the upper hand in this argument.So I took pictures and sent them to him before he got home so he could be ranting wherever he was.Followed up with my love you were right, no vex, sorry, lai lai I will never do it again.As soon as he stepped in, na beg o .Ontop it being me dealing with the crying and 1st Aid.He could not even rake cos I take begging choke am.Its not like he loves more than I do but he was right about the safety aspect.

So just apologise and give in.Its for the best.

damiso: What is with fathers and their daughters? My husband is exactly the same about my daughter and sometimes it can be annoying.The cheeky girl said to me yesterday wait till my daddy gets back .In my mind I said iwo ati baba e e jo serious po (you and your father are not serious).See her saying it like you will see, you are in big trouble

I get you on how irritating it can be atimes o jare.And how sometimes (they dont mean to sha) it can come across as if you like hurt yourself but my princess must not have one hair out of place.

That said I would not have gone ahead to take her with me, the compromise would have been for him to drive you as suggested (less work for you sef you for enjoy yourself wella) or leave her with him.She is his child too.And this is not necessarily about the village people being out to get us part, but the child safety and logistics part of it. Its your sister's wedding so you would br fully involved and as its not an environment she is used to, its better for someone she is used to watch her.

Abeg give in jare, you proved him right with the bruises so there is actually no other point to be made in this instance.
And example I can give, my husband is verrrry safety conscious as in borders on obsession, am always teasing him that he is soo british and would find it hard living in Nigeria.So my daughter has a scooter she rides and he went out and bought this over the top safety gear, helmet, shin guard, arm brace in short she looks like voltron with the whole gear.When he takes her to the park, she wears the whole get up.I always say to him she looks ridiculous and realky I dont see other kids her age wearing all this your wahala when riding their scooters.He is always like ehn those are other people this is my child.My daughter hates the get up so me and her do secret runs so that when its just us(me and her ) we wear only the helmet.

So Saturday, we went to the park in our we we fashion.Before I knew gboa on the floor (not on the grass) and her knee and leg had nasty scratches as she was wearing shorts cos of the weather. I immediately knew I was in for it.And he already had the upper hand in this argument.So I took pictures and sent them to him before he got home so he could be ranting wherever he was.Followed up with my love you were right, no vex, sorry, lai lai I will never do it again.As soon as he stepped in, na beg o .Ontop it being me dealing with the crying and 1st Aid.He could not even rake cos I take begging choke am.Its not like he loves more than I do but he was right about the safety aspect.

So just apologise and give in.Its for the best.

Uju... Shey you see your friend!! Why cant you be like her?!

Maka chukwu, your husband needs to flog you with belt..