Kanwulia: I really do not like unnecessary fraternization with idle in-laws! ESPECIALLY IN MY HOME!!!

How does it get to the stage of sleeping ON A MATRIMONIAL bed?

My darling husband knows better ke! I WILL MOVE OUT!!!

Never to return!!!! Asssshawo work dey hungry me sef! I don get my chance be dat!!!!

lorretta u: oh no you didn't say that

coogar:

did you people not think this through before letting him stay with you guys? where else can he sleep during the day if not the only bed in the house?

in the ideal world, newlyweds staying in a one bedroom apartment shouldn't have let a 3rd party stay around. try and earn more salary so you can afford a 3-bedroom house with a BQ for guests like your brother in law.

learn to be tolerant.

acidosis™:


Holy Moses , I need to shine my eyes well before mounting that altar

kulyie: a couples house is not the same as a hotel or a hostel where any body can jusy do as he likes.its a couples house for goodness sakes so if he has sense,he should be sensitive.on a serious note,if i were in the shoes of the op,i wouldnt do any talking.my eyes and unfriendly body gestures will do the talking,he will start feeling uncomfortable that he himself will leave the house.

what useless tolerance is that.does he not have bachelors like himself he can go and squat with.why must he be a liability in another persons home.God help him if i had a bad day at work and i am just coming out of the sun and i catch him.i will first wake him up with a resounding abara and tongue lashing.when i make the whole at,osphere unlivable for him,his elder bro will be begging him to stay and he will say he cant,he has another alternative and i will be eyeing him from behind.

Tolerance ko,tolulope ni.mshewwww

yellowpawpaw: Well said Guitarlife. That is one of life's realities.

coogar:

this is just hot air from 2 wide nostrils.
when you accepted to house this fresh graduate, where exactly were you expecting him to catch a nap? on the couch? women who don't think things through and then scream for help are the worst type of humans ever.....in my opinion, it's the genesis of irresponsibility!




i doubt this OP would complain if it was her own sibling she caught lying in her bed. you would hit a man in his sleep? lololol - you would get beaten up under your own roof with the blessing of your husband!




you have issues you need to sort out....

coogar:

this is just hot air from 2 wide nostrils.
when you accepted to house this fresh graduate, where exactly were you expecting him to catch a nap? on the couch? women who don't think things through and then scream for help are the worst type of humans ever.....in my opinion, it's the genesis of irresponsibility!




i doubt this OP would complain if it was her own sibling she caught lying in her bed. you would hit a man in his sleep? lololol - you would get beaten up under your own roof with the blessing of your husband!




you have issues you need to sort out....

kulyie: a couples house is not the same as a hotel or a hostel where any body can jusy do as he likes.its a couples house for goodness sakes so if he has sense,he should be sensitive.on a serious note,if i were in the shoes of the op,i wouldnt do any talking.my eyes and unfriendly body gestures will do the talking,he will start feeling uncomfortable that he himself will leave the house.what useless tolerance is that.does he not have bachelors like himself he can go and squat with.why must he be a liability in another persons home.God help him if i had a bad day at work and i am just coming out of the sun and i catch him.i will first wake him up with a resounding abara and tongue lashing.when i make the whole at,osphere unlivable for him,his elder bro will be begging him to stay and he will say he cant,he has another alternative and i will be eyeing him from behind.





Tolerance ko,tolulope ni.mshewwww

kulyie: honestly i loathe the way you reason at times.cant he sleep on the chair in the sitting room.why must he sleep in a couples matrimonial bed.what kind of nonsense is that.so because the couple allowed him in,he should now behave anyhow,no sense of self respect and decorum.

By the way he appears to be a lazy man.how can a graduate be sleeping,when he is supposed to have hit the street,going to companies and checking vacancies.i suppose chevron employer will wake him up from his sleep amd give him a job and you are there preaching tolerance when you are housing a lazy bone

coogar:

who sleeps on the couch in the afternoon? the husband was at home when his brother was sleeping in the bedroom. can you not see he must have taken permission from the husband before going to the bedroom? it's even possible he was sleeping in the living before the OP's hubby asked him to go to the bedroom and sleep.



he's a fresh graduate - he doesn't even have a certificate yet to pursue any employment. the OP should calm down
and learn to be tolerant....

Efemena_xy:

You still haven't answered my question about how the couple will cope with an adult male member in a bedsit / one room apartment, with just one bed.

Afterall, na you mention that real-life scenario.

~ How dem go do the sleeping arrangement?

~ How do they get their freak on at night? Or early in the morning when testosterone levels are high?

kulyie: its a lie joor.dont give me cok and bull story,ok,if the man allowed him into the bedroom to sleep (which i dont believe) wouldnt he have told the wife that my bro is sleeping in the room o,so she wouldnt be given a rude shock.e.g entering the room without noticing the bed,taking off your clothes and decide to turn around,lo and behold you see your inlaw fast asleep while you are naked,wont you cover yourself and scream.anyway i dont believe that.

Secondly a fresh draduate may not have been given his certificate but the school will have given him a formal official document (to whom it may concern) pending the time he gets his certificate,therefore a man that is not a lazy bone that yoruba call indomie hands,should hit the street and look for job instead of sleeping like a pregnant woman in the afternoon for that matter,not night o

coogar:

you don't believe it? in a one bedroom apartment, where else can the brother be if he's not in the living room with the husband? are you saying the husband wasn't aware the brother was before the wife came in? sometimes, you argue just for the sake of it....



how do you know he's not done all that before noon? you sit on a plastic armchair to cast aspersions at someone you don't even know. if we do a thorough investigation, you spent 4 years at home as a graduate before getting your job. were you a pregnant cow then?

Guitarlife: With due respect ma'am, this ain't no movie script. I understand It is quite a disturbing scenario for you to fathom but these are the times we live in. Love makes 30 people sleep together in a room and conveniently too. I live in the projects so It ain't no biggie. You could come around sometime.
The wife should show great wisdom and patience here she would have won the brother in law to her side for life.
In life 1+2 is not always equal to 3.

kulyie: your case isa ireedemable.you can never know anything again.......next please

BoboYekini: Dis kulyie wey dey blow hot air since, I'm pretty sure she no get job o.

Efemena_xy:

With all due respect sir, my question wasn't directed at you, and neither has your vague, sentimental, responses addressed or even answered any of my very specific questions, let alone one of them.

If you feel the need to quote and respond to my post, the least you can do is give me realistic, real-life answers.

Daresh: Abeg yellowpawpaw I don't know what you are saying but the guy should not be lying in her bed. Consider this situation, wife comes home from work a little sleepy and jumps into bed with her "husband". Give him a kiss and a hug and maybe even starts to get busy with a sleepy "husband" only to find it isn't husband but brother in law. Ol boi that shit ain't gonna be funny for months mean!

BoboYekini: Dis kulyie wey dey blow hot air since, I'm pretty sure she no get job o.
@op, pls let the dude be. What's in a bed? You said yourself that he sleeps in the sitting room at night, so probably you only 'caught' him on your 'matrimonial bed' the one time. But of course that one time is all you need to make a big deal, enough to force him out of your apartment, kinda like maximising an opening lol. Women.

coogar:

you need blood tonic - your blood sugar must be very low.



kulyie is an aspiring nollywood actress - she's not been called for any auditioning in 3 years. all she does is eat yam and watch daytime TV all day.

Krisben4343: Please pals, your opinions are needed to guide me before I start creating unnecessary arguments with my husband's younger brother or his family.
My husbands younger brother who just graduated from the higher institution is now living with us searching for a job . But our house is just a seating room and a bedroom with toilet facility the type they call two room self contain in Lagos. Sometimes I close from work on getting home I see him sleeping on my bed, sometime my husband will be in the seating room watching movies and his younger brother will be sleeping on our bed. Is it right to allow him continue or to stop him considering the type of house we are living,? but at nigh the place he sleeps is the seating room while me and my husband sleep in our bedroom. Please your wise opinions will be appreciated. Thanks

babyosisi:

I read all the responses and Coogar echoed my sentiments
What did you expect
The house has one bed
Your husband is in the living room watching TV andyour houseguest wants to take a nap
I assure you he didn't just go and climb on your bed like goldilocks,your husband permitted him
Do you want to bar your guests from taking naps?
you have 2 solutions

1. buy him a small mattress so that he can park it somewhere on the floor in that bedroom and sleep there when he wants to take his siesta which he is entitled to
or
2. you buy a second TV for the bedroom so your hubby can watch his shows in the bedroom

I am sure you use the same toilet and bath with him
His clothing must be in that bedroom too,I doubt if they are in the living room ( parlour) so he is already utilizing the bedroom too
I hope you are keeping down your moans at night,let the poor boys kini kan not explode when you and hubby will be getting it on.
Hope his stay is very temporary .

babyosisi:

I read all the responses and Coogar shockingly ,echoed my sentiments
What did you expect
The house has one bed
Your husband is in the living room watching TV andyour houseguest wants to take a nap
I assure you he didn't just go and climb on your bed like goldilocks,your husband permitted him
Do you want to bar your guests from taking naps?
you have 2 solutions

1. buy him a small mattress so that he can park it somewhere on the floor in that bedroom and sleep there when he wants to take his siesta which he is entitled to
or
2. you buy a second TV for the bedroom so your hubby can watch his shows in the bedroom

I am sure you use the same toilet and bath with him
His clothing must be in that bedroom too,I doubt if they are in the living room ( parlour) so he is already utilizing the bedroom too
I hope you are keeping down your moans at night,let the poor boys kini kan not explode when you and hubby will be getting it on.
Hope his stay is very temporary .