I hear so many times people telling me about how, even in some families, both men and women work, but it is the man who still has to pay for everything pertaining the family.

I don't even see how that makes any sense. What do women like this do with their money then?
The whole point of her not devoting as much time in the home and going out to work is for there to AT LEAST be more money in the house. It has to be a trade off. If she is both less available and also doesn't yield her income for family planning, what is the benefit of these women working?

From what I have seen, this is predominantly a naija/african thing. Why do y'all want to eat your cake and have it?

Bro, when you die, you dont take anything with you.

Leave nigerian women be and question your mum.

If you know you don't partake in the DAILY routine/itinerary of the household, Just respect yourself and remove your big eyessss from the wife's earnings, simple.

Oh boy , see command ^^

is ya lady sending you to the cleaners? eh OP 2Buff

stop eyeing her purse, man up and bring home huge bacon. You think to be a man is a day job? Common play the hefty role Adam bequeath unto thee.

I blame ASUU

armyofone: is ya lady sending you to the cleaners? eh OP 2Buff

stop eyeing her purse, man up and bring home huge bacon. You think to be a man is a day job? Common play the hefty role Adam bequeath unto thee.

Also requests like "Where is my food?!" by the man should illicit quick spritely action by the woman, entailing her running to the kitchen, grabbing his ALREADY PREPARED food. Afterwhich she is also supposed to kneel down and serve her man food and then take the plate back into the kitchen.

I never still see this very simple transaction with the women of my generation, so I see no point in giving y'all all the associated benefits. Y'all get what you pay for. Nothing more

This 2buff guy no fit kill me with laugh.

...no we bring money to the chair!

2buff:

Also requests like "Where is my food?!" by the man should illicit quick spritely action by the woman, entailing her running to the kitchen, grabbing his ALREADY PREPARED food. Afterwhich she is also supposed to kneel down and serve her man food and then take the plate back into the kitchen.

I never still see this very simple transaction with the women of my generation, so I see no point in giving y'all all the associated benefits. Y'all get what you pay for. Nothing more

lmao!..you sound very angry abi you never chop?

Ngokafor:

lmao!..you sound very angry abi you never chop?

Dat one no be problem. I dey chop wellu well

Ngokafor: ...no we bring money to the chair!

Ngokafor: ...no we bring money to the chair!

Abeg Nne don't make choke * coughs*

2buff, expect more fire & brimstone coming ur way by morning!!

[size=25pt] Be Prepared!! [/size]

NOO,not at all. We just burn the money into ashes as soon as we make it. Guess you ok with that

Just a question for you Op, What planet are you from precisely?

2buff: I hear so many times people telling me about how, even in some families, both men and women work, but it is the man who still has to pay for everything pertaining the family.

I don't even see how that makes any sense. What do women like this do with their money then?
The whole point of her not devoting as much time in the home and going out to work is for there to AT LEAST be more money in the house. It has to be a trade off. If she is both less available and also doesn't yield her income for family planning, what is the benefit of these women working?

From what I have seen, this is predominantly a naija/african thing. Why do y'all want to eat your cake and have it?

Guy, make up your mind on what you want and just leave us women alone jare!

If we choose to sacrifice our education at the expense of bringing up your kids, running the home smoothly and ensuring you get an easy ride when you get back home from the hunting and gathering you grudgingly do, you call us derogatory names like housewives! And disrespect us by fathering kids outside, or sneaking in concubines behind our backs. https://www.nairaland.com/1438852/how-deal-dad-man-cheats

If on the other hand, we chose to utilize the education our mamas and papas sweated and toiled for us, you come on here complaining that we stash our hard-earned money away secretly, or plan on eating our cake and having it! What d'you expect? For us working mums to come cap-in-hand to you begging for money to buy sanitary towels, undies, bras, g-strings, skinny jeans, make-up, Brazilian weaves, Stilettos, perfumes, deodorants, accessories and so on?

Abeg park go one side jare.

Efemena_xy:

Guy, make up your mind on what you want and just leave us women alone jare!


Abeg park go one side jare.

Well said.

see barawo fa. did you help to pay her school fees? how much have you given her for giving you kids to keep ur family name? no be oly run to the kitchen and kneeling down... she go fly ma.

Efemena_xy:

Guy, make up your mind on what you want and just leave us women alone jare!

If we choose to sacrifice our education at the expense of bringing up your kids, running the home smoothly and ensuring you get an easy ride when you get back home from the hunting and gathering you grudgingly do, you call us derogatory names like housewives! And disrespect us by fathering kids outside, or sneaking in concubines behind our backs. https://www.nairaland.com/1438852/how-deal-dad-man-cheats

If on the other hand, we chose to utilize the education our mamas and papas sweated and toiled for us, you come on here complaining that we stash our hard-earned money away secretly, or plan on eating our cake and having it! What d'you expect? For us working mums to come cap-in-hand to you begging for money to buy sanitary towels, undies, bras, g-strings, skinny jeans, make-up, Brazilian weaves, Stilettos, perfumes, deodorants, accessories and so on?

Abeg park go one side jare.

my friend u nor get talk. this is why we have alot of marriage problems in our society today.

benedictac:

my friend u nor get talk. this is why we have alot of marriage problems in our society today.

Meaning?

Op u get mouth jare. In fact your wife's salary should be paid directly into your account sef. Why should an ordinary woman have any money to her name?mtchewww

On the issue of food, I was also shocked to discover your maid wife doesn't sprint to the kitchen faster than Hussein bolt to bring ur food. In fact ehn she should be on her knees till you complete the meal she toiled to prepare after a hard day's work. Cos in a marriage its all about the man the woman is just there to make his life more comfortable.

^^ Careful there...some people will take your words literally and miss the intended sarcasm...lol!

did you knw that those things she spends her income on (personal savings included) would have been paid for by her husband if she were not working ? small and frequent spendings are inevitable expenses women do that men hardly take note of.

on the other hand, I quite agree with op.


some women should look beyond spending all their income on themselves only.
the much desirable fair marriage with respect accorded to the wife should be one in which theres financial contribution from both spouse to the running of the home especially if shes working. the smart thing to do is for her to choose small conspicous bills to foot. while the husband does the lion share.
my only exception to this will be like a super wealthy family where the husband is very capable.

veave: see barawo fa. did you help to pay her school fees? how much have you given her for giving you kids to keep ur family name? no be oly run to the kitchen and kneeling down... she go fly ma.

I'm cracking up at the bolded!!

The tale of a tired playboy.

2buff: I hear so many times people telling me about how, even in some families, both men and women work, but it is the man who still has to pay for everything pertaining the family.

I don't even see how that makes any sense. What do women like this do with their money then?
The whole point of her not devoting as much time in the home and going out to work is for there to AT LEAST be more money in the house. It has to be a trade off. If she is both less available and also doesn't yield her income for family planning, what is the benefit of these women working?

From what I have seen, this is predominantly a naija/african thing. Why do y'all want to eat your cake and have it?

Why don't you wear a skirt and blouse and carry weave on
See this person o
You want to be called a man without manly responsibilities
You haven't started
At this rate will you even be able to pay her bride price without asking her to chip in