^That's right, Chaircover, you showed her who's boss!

She probably thought 'Oh, since she didn't talk in primary school, she's still not talking now'. I suggest that next time she visits, tell her politely to go sit in the living room and that if she needs anything she should ask you. Say all that with a smile too so it doesn't seem like you are insecure about your territory. If she doesn't still get it, then ask her for her own house address, visit her and act the same way around her house. People that snoop around people's houses this way are people that usually don't want people knowing their own houses talkmore wandering around in it.

Since he says, she is a family friend, relax and plan urself. Prepare for a family visit to her home and find a way to introduce ur hubby to her hubby as her ex! After the visit everybody go respect himself. Nonsense.

Ninapha: Since he says, she is a family friend, relax and plan urself. Prepare for a family visit to her home and find a way to introduce ur hubby to her hubby as her ex! After the visit everybody go respect himself. Nonsense.

Lol!

@ OP, the problem you have here is your husband. Examine him well.

though u seem to have a point, but u more seem to be a hot blooded woman, pls don't spoil d good thing u n ur hussy had on, pls don't, I am a married too, once u put ds fore front all d time it may not go down well et oga be nice, calm n firm about it, but if u n ur hussy have built ip trist enough pls let it be.if u have some signs he is hiding certain things or truth about their moves, pls show d Woman some signs she ain't welcome in ur home.gd luck

Some people sha have guts, you can imagine that. And hubby is even siding what the ex is doing. In life I have come to understand that the things we do to people, we wouldn't even tolerate the same measure. Na wa for some people sha. That is very disrespectful of her and I wouldn't take this one bit. I have learnt over the years that what you can't take at night, do not take it in the morning.

Discuss with your hubby and let him see reasons why such behavior wouldn't be tolerated. Respect is reciprocal.

gidjah: though u seem to have a point, but u more seem to be a hot blooded woman, pls don't spoil d good thing u n ur hussy had on, pls don't, I am a married too, once u put ds fore front all d time it may not go down well et oga be nice, calm n firm about it, but if u n ur hussy have built ip trist enough pls let it be.if u have some signs he is hiding certain things or truth about their moves, pls show d Woman some signs she ain't welcome in ur home.gd luck

This woman is definitely not hot blooded. At all. She is extremely calm as it is, so I'm not sure how much calmer you want her to be.

Rhythm: She probably thought 'Oh, since she didn't talk in primary s

chool, she's still not talking now'. I suggest that next time she visits, tell her politely to go sit in the living room and that i[b]f she needs anything she should ask you. Say all that with a smile too so it doesn't seem like you are insecure about your territory. If she doesn't still get it, then ask her for her own house address, visit her and act the same way around her house.[/b] People that snoop around people's houses this way are people that usually don't want people knowing their own houses talkmore wandering around in it.

God knows I won't go to snoop around in her house o.Thats copy copy na.If na me,first for my husband to disrespect me,he is already my enemy.For her to disrespect m matrimonial home,as a woman she has disrespected womanhood.As for that my husband,na another man gi treat him Bleep up.It wud months of planning and enduring and waiting patiently,then on that God- giving day,I wud make sure she is coming to see again,I wud give excuse to sneak out of the house,call the husband of the ex(for the first time) and inform him in crocodile tears,"Hello sir,you might not know me but as am talking to you,wife who is my husand's ex is my house now at no 6......with my husband.He beats me up each time I complain about thier relationship and am tired.My housekeeper just called me to tell me she is in my house now.Your wife is so comfortable that she goes round my house without my consent.I am not home but on my way.I know they still love eachother,so please oga,don't hurt your wife but I want you to beat my husband(shivers in tears)please oga beat my husband well".I wud pack my car across the street and wait,once him reach my house,I go escort am enter my flat,rush come out and padlock the door with new sets of padlock.


As I journey to get Abonikin,panodol,pain relievers from the pharmacy,this wud be my prayer,"God please I want thus man to beat my husband well so this drugs won't be in vain.I want this man to carry my husband up and flog him on the ground,that's after giving him a good upper- cut so he wud understand that his ex is now somebody's wife.My God please don fail me,I want to spend tge next few weeks massaging his face,body and legs But if finally,my husband beat the man,I no get wahala,transferred aggression would steal help me in anycase when the intruders gets home.In Jesus name.Amen"



*call my rev.father to tell him I need his help in thus time of physical trouble.

Case closed!

gidjah: though u seem to have a point, but u more seem to be a hot blooded woman, pls don't spoil d good thing u n ur hussy had on, pls don't, I am a married too, once u put ds fore front all d time it may not go down well et oga be nice, calm n firm about it, but if u n ur hussy have built ip trist enough pls let it be.if u have some signs he is hiding certain things or truth about their moves, pls show d Woman some signs she ain't welcome in ur home.gd luck

my sister, we are all married and most hv their exs somewhere. First mariiage reuires absolute respect for each other an the vows. A responsible husband wd not even wait for the wife to complain before condemning the ex's attitude and wd do everything to stop her from visitn. If he is gud with the ladie's attitude, i am afraid.

If i am involved, na jeje jeje i go follow the matter but believe me, na that ex go take her hand advice herself.

If she ever visits again, jejelly lock the kitchen, all access doors and stay in ur bedroom. Dont even show concern she came around, after dat visit she go mind herself.

Op,please don't listen to anyone telling you to" let it go so Oga won't be angry",you don't have to walk on your marriage like it's an egg shell,if he doesn't know how to put his ex in check,do it for him . He can vex till thy kingdom come and settle to his role after the vexing,you can't have an ex,a married one for that matter making you uncomfortable in your own home . You might consider what Ninapha said,something that dramatic.Ana ekwu,ana ememe!!!

byvan: Op,please don't listen to anyone telling you to let it go so Oga won't be angry,you don't have to walk on your marriage like it's an egg shell,if he doesn't know how to put his ex in check,do it for him . He can vex till thy kingdom come and settle to his role after the vexing,you can't have an ex,a married one for that matter making you uncomfortable in your own home . You might consider what Ninapha said,something that dramatic.Ana ekwu,ana ememe!!!

This kind of disrespect should be confronted and not diplomatically resolved. I believe the ex feels better than the wife or thinks the husband married the wife because she (the ex) broke up with him. So its time for the wife to put her in he place, a married woman for that matter. The truth is that the wife should be the queen of her husband's heart and should not share that heart with any other woman and vice versa of cause. Any form of friendship with any woman that makes the wife insecure or uncomfortable should be stopped.

OP if she ever comes to your house again, make her extremely uncomfortable and try organise family visit as someone suggested earlier. I am sure she will not want it and you can even look up her husband on facebook. Tell her you or your friend know her husband from somewhere and you look forward to seeing him again (lol), just make her uncomfortable.

We all have exes. I met my ex (one of the many ) through her sister, who is very good friends with my sister. Infact our two sisters are still very close and were each other bride's maids. I still see her sister every now and again, at my sister's house, but all I do is ask how she is doing. We are all married with kids now so need for any form of contact. In fact at some point, my sister was my ex's Gynaecologist and all she did whenever she saw my sister was, say hello to Nashville. I can't imagine getting her phone number and inviting her to my house. More so my wife knows her well, as they went to the same schools (primary, secondary and university). In fact when we had our first child and I told my dad to name the baby, one of the names my dad gave (he gave two) was my ex's name by coincidence. Apart from the fact that I did not like the name myself, I knew my wife would hate the idea so we went with the second name my dad gave.

Truth is that your spouse should be the king/queen of your heart and nothing should suggest there is any other man/woman sharing that space. OP, you have done nothing wrong and the ex is clearly the aggressor aided by your husband.

@Nashville,ofcourse am rooting for a confrontation not diplomacy, diplomacy just won't work here.

ileobatojo: Pardon me, but I'm still at a loss as to how she came to start going from room to room in your house. She just up and started roaming your house for no reason or was your husband showing her around the house?

No

Thunder fire the head of any 'ex' that will step her smelly feet in my house for ANY reason . .

Not to talk of opening my fridge and 'inspecting' my home.

She will live to tell the story for a very looooong time!

lynpetra:


God knows I won't go to snoop around in her house o.Thats copy copy na.If na me,first for my husband to disrespect me,he is already my enemy.For her to disrespect m matrimonial home,as a woman she has disrespected womanhood.As for that my husband,na another man gi treat him Bleep up.It wud months of planning and enduring and waiting patiently,then on that God- giving day,I wud make sure she is coming to see again,I wud give excuse to sneak out of the house,call the husband of the ex(for the first time) and inform him in crocodile tears,"Hello sir,you might not know me but as am talking to you,wife who is my husand's ex is my house now at no 6......with my husband.He beats me up each time I complain about thier relationship and am tired.My housekeeper just called me to tell me she is in my house now.Your wife is so comfortable that she goes round my house without my consent.I am not home but on my way.I know they still love eachother,so please oga,don't hurt your wife but I want you to beat my husband(shivers in tears)please oga beat my husband well".I wud pack my car across the street and wait,once him reach my house,I go escort am enter my flat,rush come out and padlock the door with new sets of padlock.


As I journey to get Abonikin,panodol,pain relievers from the pharmacy,this wud be my prayer,"God please I want thus man to beat my husband well so this drugs won't be in vain.I want this man to carry my husband up and flog him on the ground,that's after giving him a good upper- cut so he wud understand that his ex is now somebody's wife.My God please don fail me,I want to spend tge next few weeks massaging his face,body and legs But if finally,my husband beat the man,I no get wahala,transferred aggression would steal help me in anycase when the intruders gets home.In Jesus name.Amen"



*call my rev.father to tell him I need his help in thus time of physical trouble.

Case closed!

ROTFLMAO

Abeg no make them fire me from work cos of 'over-laughing'!

I don't even want to read the posters story. I will answer based on what I saw here.
Poster, u no get pestle for house?

Where is Patience Ozorkwor when u need her most

Who opened door for her?

Don't worry, we will come and advice u when u open this thread;
HELP, MY HUSBAND'S EX IS DRIVING ME OUT OF MY MATRIMONIAL HOME.

Good wifey indeed my foot!
Arrant nonsense!

Ha na wa o.

What's with all the advice about she being too soft? Should she have put a gun to the said ex's head to make her realize she's the woman of the house?

Make una take am easy o, claiming tigress and mike tyson won't stop a man that wants to cheat, everything is not achieved with muscles o, haba!.

freecocoa: Ha na wa o.

What's with all the advice about she being too soft? Should she have put a gun to the said ex's head to make her realize she's the woman of the house?

Make una take am easy o, claiming tigress and mike tyson won't stop a man that wants to cheat, everything is not achieved with muscles o, haba!.

That's not d problem.
He want to cheat, that's his wahala BUT they shouldn't rob it on my face. In my house, haba.
Who don't hv an ex?
I can invite my own over too.

Highest form of disrespect.

Anyway, the man obviously knew his kind of woman that's why he has d gut to invite an ex over and she is behaving that way.
If na me, d two of them go wee for pant.
Number six no dey again.
Rubbish.

I have always said it and iwill say it again. "Do unto others what you want them do unto you"
Im sure this ex will never accept what she did to the op, i wonder why she now did it to her.
God dey sha.

But sincerely, @op, you just need to discuss it with your hubby and put your feet down as to this ex's subsequent visits and the expected decorum and maturity that is expected of her, else........
May God help us all.


P.s......as for me, im sure no ex can try to dare such with me.

@yellowpawpaw, you are right, he knew the kind of woman he married that's why he had the guts to bring in his senseless ex into the house to rate his wife's housekeeping skills I guess.

@,she has no business in that home,decorum or no decorum.

greatgod2012:

But sincerely, @op, you just need to discuss it with your hubby and put your feet down as to this ex's subsequent visits and the expected decorum and maturity that is expected of her, else........

Subsequent visits? Why on each should she set her feet in their house again. She should never step into that house again, simple.

Wetin she dey find? Small time now, she will want to spend the night....

Explain to your husband why you're not comfortable with his ex being your family friend and when next she visits, see her off yourself and tell her in a peaceful manner that you are not comfortable with her friendship since she is your husband's ex girl. She should stop coming to your house. Besides, does your husband go to her house and go into her bedrooms while her husband is there? The earlier the better.

Coco dear, it depends on the type of man. She knows her husband. If hot pepper go work, let her use it, if na i beg, gud and if na u go see craze, nne send dat demon out fast. What i respect a man for is his ability to know what is unhealthy to his marriage.8-)

They shld keep their ex-ship and friend-ship outside ur matrimonial home. one thing leads to the other.
U have been warned

byvan: @yellowpawpaw, you are right, he knew the kind of woman he married that's why he had the guts to bring in his senseless ex into the house to rate his wife's housekeeping skills I guess.

My dear! Werin my eye no go c for nl!
I woulg hv loved it if d wife is mama G type. Too much talk no dey am.
After inspection, she should climb bed and sleep, abi person wey do inspection no dey tire?
Iberibe of d highest form.

*u never drop? Hv been patiently waiting o!*

shericoco661: No

No? As in no, your husband was not showing her around? And he later told you her behavior is okay and that she must be your family friend by force?!

As far as I'm concerned she and your husband are already getting it on. She just came to check out her new home in preparation for moving in. Happy cohabitation in advance to you and your new iyawo.

Dear op, the woman '''your husband ex''' is a trouble maker . She did all that to irritate you deliberately. Causing havoc in others people's lifes is some ladies hobby. If i were you i will ignore and bond more tightly with my husband.

she knows you will react to her busy body attitude and eventually quarrel with your husband. you have to be wise and not allow her to win by instigating and unnecessary rancor and bad blood in your home. she is simply jealous

I just read d story now.
The truth is this. Ex is the possessive type.
The I can't hv him,u can't hv him either mentality. Obviously, she want to know if u guys r better off than her(comparism) hence the inspection. One poster summed it up. She is jealous and if u look deep, she is not having it cool in her home.
Then again, she is a kind of suprised her ex married u( d ju gal she used to know way back in school)and maybe possibly intimidate. So she still finds it normal to continue as usual.


Now poster, mark my words
She will continue to visit.
She will continue to tell hubby about u if possible manufacture lies against u.
She will offer u her friendship.

On d other hand, show her she is not that gal she used to know in school way back and she will flee.
Leave ur hubby out of it.
Deal with her anyhow u deemed fit else she will scatter ur family.
No wonder she has d nerve to come to ur home!
Suprise her.
Hubby gruntles, say sorry and move on. He will obviously get d message.

Ihukwa m ino bem nopia mkpuru amu!
Lailai!

[quote author=yellowpawpaw]I just read d story now.
The truth is this. Ex is the possessive type.
The I can't hv him,u can't hv him either mentality. Obviously, she want to know if u guys r better off than her(comparism) hence the inspection. One poster summed it up. She is jealous and if u look deep, she is not having it cool in her home.
Then again, she is a kind of suprised her ex married u( d ju gal she used to know way back in school)and maybe possibly intimidate. So she still finds it normal to continue as usual.


Now poster, mark my words
She will continue to visit.
She will continue to tell hubby about u if possible manufacture lies against u.
She will offer u her friendship.

On d other hand, show her she is not that gal she used to know in school way back and she will flee.
Leave ur hubby out of it.
Deal with her anyhow u deemed fit else she will scatter ur family.
No wonder she has d nerve to come to ur home!
Suprise her.
Hubby gruntles, say sorry and move on. He will obviously get d message.

Ihukwa m ino bem nopia mkpuru amu!
Lailai![/quote]


Lol.Okotoligwa!!!That cracked me up.

Ujujoan:

ROTFLMAO

Abeg no make them fire me from work cos of 'over-laughing'!

Nne make dem no sack you o

That woman quite and she simple.Ewww the husband see better woman that's y he dey Bleep up.
If I enter d house see say d woman dey separate,all my kitchen pans go uproot all her hair.I want her to see very clearly the result of her and my husband's stupidity.I fit even buy one Red Label for her husband sef.

@yellowpawpaw, just a little more patience , you go hear am soon.

Na wa oo

All these fire and brimstone