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Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 4:57pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
I ve seen/witnessed this in many occasions, in a synagogue of friends, colleagues or attendants, whenever a man enters, he seems to greet and shake the hands of fellow men first before acknowledging the presence of women. is this an African tradition or just a societal norm? 2 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by wynston(m): 5:11pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
it's an african culture, it's not right to shake a woman 1 Like |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by ekanDamie: 5:13pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
wynston: it's an african culture, it's not right to shake a womandont mind dem and the stupid local girls wunt let us hug dem n give dem side kisses. Mtchew 11 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 5:17pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
Because most Men are chauvinistic...just a Little 8 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 5:23pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
wynston: it's an african culture, it's not right to shake a woman really? can you emphasise more on that, maybe i ve been disobeying the culture |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by homesteady(m): 5:37pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
wynston: it's an african culture, it's not right to shake a woman Ogbeni! I've never heard of that culture oh! 2 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by UjSizzle(f): 5:39pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
Two men did that to me today. They're their great grand fathers reincarnated I'm used to it, some say they don't shake women but hug them instead. I tell them i don't hug men but shake their hands. Now i just nod in response to a greeting. No time ***I wonder if they refuse to shake hands with a female employer tho. 14 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by ekanDamie: 5:41pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
uj_sizzle: Two men did that to me today. They're their great grand fathers reincarnatedand i can swear dat ur not even fine o 20 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 6:12pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
I don't know about "ignore" o. In Igboland, it is traditional to greet men first and in order of age and position, if one knows their ages or attainments. Then the women are greeted in the same fashion. I daresay every culture is alike in this regard. You would greer the President of the United States before the First Lady, wouldn't you? Perhaps you'll greet her before the Vice President and Secretary of State, but would that not be because she's the President's Wife? I don't think it is disrespect to greet men before ladies. But I don't make an issue of it or go out of my way to do it. As for handshakes, I think it's strictly cultural. In one culture men are greeted one way and women are greeted another. In another, they may be greeted the exact same way. It's less a question of disrespect and more one of identity - an acknowledgment of difference of gender which is not a bad thing in and of itself. 9 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Mynd44: 6:26pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
^^^ What are you on about? The OP meant if a guy sees a bunch of guys and some girls, naturally, he would shake their hands irrespective of whether he knows them or not if they are all guys but some men ignore the ladies. I have noticed this and don't know why. I don't do it though seems so.......pointless 8 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by homesteady(m): 6:31pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
ekanDamie: Oga how fa? 1 Like |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by UjSizzle(f): 6:34pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
ekanDamie:I hope you swore on your life 3 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by UjSizzle(f): 6:37pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
Mynd_44: ^^^Some even act like u aren't even there 4 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Mynd44: 7:01pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
uj_sizzle:Don't take it personal. A lot of people can't see beyond their nose even if they are given telescopes. Ladies do it too BTW, they might walk into a room full of people and choose to ignore everyone except the person they came to see. 24 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by 3Dimension: 7:03pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
IMO the way we nigerians 'shake hands' is not really polite or let me say right. U see a guy raising is palm far above is head because of a mere greeting.. U don't wanna do that to the lady. The white man (whose culture we are imbibing) would greet a lady either with a hug, soft kiss to the back of her palm or a peck. All this above listed aren't 'our culture' and tramples on our ego has men expcept the hug which most women would rather deny u or prefer a side hug. Sometimes I wonder if someone had told them that they can be impregnated with justa hug. 9 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Emmyk(m): 7:18pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
Some ladies dont like it. I have seen situations whereby a guy stretched his hand, and lady be like "no, I dont shake, sorry". Awkward moment aye! . These ladies were in hijab... So, as a sharp guy, you will be cagey not to stretch anyhow next time buh me I'm cool with both, I shake 'em or hug 'em. 11 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 7:28pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
Mynd_44: ^^^ Dude, here's what the op said or implied: some guys ignore ladies when they greet a gathering of both sexes. That was what the title alleged and which I said that I know nothing about. Then the op itself stated that these guys don't actually ignore the ladies completely, they just greet them after they greet the guys. To that I said, it's generally a cultural more and illustrated with the Igbo. The issue of handshakes is less a response to the op itself and more an address of a spin-off from it which another poster talked about. Do you see what I'm on about now? 7 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Enegod(m): 7:30pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
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Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 7:30pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
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Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 7:34pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
uj_sizzle: Not to defend them or anything like that, but some of the guys you spoke of are shy of ladies or of beautiful ones or of accomplished ones. Not very manly, yes, and rather irritating, but fact. Others simply couldn't be bothered to accord womanhood even respect due humanity. So you shouldn't take it too seriously. 4 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 7:36pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
Mynd_44: A lot? Why a lot? I haven't encountered that many men who won't shake a woman's hand or greet her somehow. You tryna be special or something, dude? 2 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 7:38pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
Emmyk: Some ladies dont like it. Yup. There was this friend of mine wouldn't shake a guy's hand or hug him. She could frost over a guy's greeting, mehn! |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Mynd44: 7:58pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
Ihedinobi:Maybe you need to go out more dude. |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 8:16pm On Oct 14, 2013 |
Mynd_44: Oh I don't know. Like, out where? Clubs? Beaches? Cinemas? Parties? Where, dude? Where do you find "a lot of guys" who won't shake a woman's hand or greet her somehow? 2 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 5:23am On Oct 15, 2013 |
3Dimension: IMO the way we nigerians 'shake hands' is not really polite or let me say right. U see a guy raising is palm far above is head because of a mere greeting.. U don't wanna do that to the lady.I understand you, i ve seen ladies ignore hand shakes, just like someone said, she only nodded in response to the greeting and the guy was standing like mumu with his rejected palm. but that still doesnt justify why most men skip ladies during hand shake. |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Nobody: 5:48am On Oct 15, 2013 |
uj_sizzle: so true, in a seated queue of people some men would shake a man, skip the next seated lady, continues with men.... i wonder 1 Like |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by Sllowppoisoon: 6:35pm On Oct 15, 2013 |
Not all ladies accept handshake(most ladies dat do accept handshake frm guys are ugly ) ,, sum guys jus dnt wanna disgrace themselves... 1 Like |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by xynerise: 6:38pm On Oct 15, 2013 |
I shake and side hug a lady. But in the midst of guys, I have to greet my guys first in our normal style before I greet the ladies. Respect the guys first, we are the head 8 Likes |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by ayili: 6:42pm On Oct 15, 2013 |
I wander why women want an equal guy guy hard handshake 1 Like |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by lincolnj88: 6:44pm On Oct 15, 2013 |
Abeg nor go try dis shaking of hands enta where fulani girls are sitted oh....make dem nor ampute dat hand oh |
Re: Men Ignore Ladies When Shaking Hands - Why? by victorazy(m): 6:44pm On Oct 15, 2013 |
They maybe inferior I guess 1 Like |
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