saintneo: Your hubby should understand that you are pregnant .... heavily; at this moment he should be working or hustling his äss off to ensure you have a safe delivery.

I will advice you seek a job in telesales/customer services. It's easy to do and no much stress. You can combine it with studies as well.....16hrs/wk if you are in the UK.

Push dear, push, you husband will love you more.

nikkyshyne: Awww..that's an awful comment to say to a wife and to think he is well educated .

Just keep calm and a little patience while pursuing your Msc. Hope things turn around for your good.

But the man is funny sha, isn't he suppose to be the bread winner of the family? Why is he venting his frustration on you when he knows you'r trying your best. It is well my sister.

tracyxx: I usually don't do dis, but am hurting and I need advice. Am married for 3 years now with a girl and heavily pregnant for the second child. I do business n my hubby works. Off recent we are facing some financial issues and it's getting @ him. We are both doing our MSC abroad and my business is not moving well so all this is affecting us. For some time now my hubby has been moody, angry n passing little comment @ me, but jus today he said all that has being bothering him. He told me am drawing him back in life that I am not adding any value to his life that did I just marry him to be making babies, that I must not get pregnant again. Am not the lazy type I read chemical engineering in school and I am doing my Msc in oil and gas. Is it my fault I don't have a salary job? God knows the effort I have put jus to get a job. It really hurts that he makes me fill am the cause of his problem. Right now am feeling in secured an a liability to my hubby, I rili don't know what to do I need advice seriously.

tracyxx: I usually don't do dis, but am hurting and I need advice. Am married for 3 years now with a girl and heavily pregnant for the second child. I do business n my hubby works. Off recent we are facing some financial issues and it's getting @ him. We are both doing our MSC abroad and my business is not moving well so all this is affecting us. For some time now my hubby has been moody, angry n passing little comment @ me, but jus today he said all that has being bothering him. He told me am drawing him back in life that I am not adding any value to his life that did I just marry him to be making babies, that I must not get pregnant again. Am not the lazy type I read chemical engineering in school and I am doing my Msc in oil and gas. Is it my fault I don't have a salary job? God knows the effort I have put jus to get a job. It really hurts that he makes me fill am the cause of his problem. Right now am feeling in secured an a liability to my hubby, I rili don't know what to do I need advice seriously.

tracyxx: I usually don't do dis, but am hurting and I need advice. Am married for 3 years now with a girl and heavily pregnant for the second child. I do business n my hubby works. Off recent we are facing some financial issues and it's getting @ him. We are both doing our MSC abroad and my business is not moving well so all this is affecting us. For some time now my hubby has been moody, angry n passing little comment @ me, but jus today he said all that has being bothering him. He told me am drawing him back in life that I am not adding any value to his life that did I just marry him to be making babies, that I must not get pregnant again. Am not the lazy type I read chemical engineering in school and I am doing my Msc in oil and gas. Is it my fault I don't have a salary job? God knows the effort I have put jus to get a job. It really hurts that he makes me fill am the cause of his problem. Right now am feeling in secured an a liability to my hubby, I rili don't know what to do I need advice seriously.

eddiebruk: He is simply an ungrateful fellow, when next he demands for sex, ask him to get his Condommmm on, if he doesnt, then fvck his opinion, men are becoming more shallow minded than women nowadays. He is a Lazy man, as an African/Nigerian, if not for recent times, the woman of a house is in no way suppose to struggle in the family, if he cant live up to his expectations as a man, then he is not worth it...because as it is, he is only ready for the good times

natasha: You may not like this but whilst your hubby was harsh with his words, he probably is right. For every choice u make, there r consequences either good or bad.
I think it is silly of you 2 fall pregnant whilst you are both doing ur masters abroad. Obodo oyinbo life e hard (u shld know anywsy since na dia u dey). Theres contraceptn which u cld hv used 2 prevent belle seeing as u had planned 2 come n stud.
Its irresponsible 2 b jobless (ur so called biz isnt earning enough besides who do u think will employ u wt big belle?), studying wt a toddler n then expecting another.
Did u consider how disruptive this will be 2 both u n ur hubby's education?
Was d 2nd pregnancy planned n agreed or u just decided 2 carry belle because u want 2 born pikin abroad or because ur mates that married same month with u hv dropped 20 kids n so u decided 2 compete wt them?
Its hard enough studying in d uk wt as a single person wt all d sch stress, financial demands etc then theres u, a toddler n another baby on d way.
Ur hubby is thinking childcare fees/rent/council tax/bills/ diapers etc n still struggling 2 combine sch.
And as 4 ur msc, how do u intend 2 combine dt wt motherhood wen u drop? Part time jobs r not easy 2 come bye in dis economic climate.
My advise 2 u is suck it up n focus on been healthy thru d remaining months of ur pregnancy whilst studying hard because if u fail/withdraw 4m studies now, all ur effort will b in vain + ur hubby's mouth wont rest either.

tracyxx: I usually don't do dis, but am hurting and I need advice. Am married for 3 years now with a girl and heavily pregnant for the second child. I do business n my hubby works. Off recent we are facing some financial issues and it's getting @ him. We are both doing our MSC abroad and my business is not moving well so all this is affecting us. For some time now my hubby has been moody, angry n passing little comment @ me, but jus today he said all that has being bothering him. He told me am drawing him back in life that I am not adding any value to his life that did I just marry him to be making babies, that I must not get pregnant again. Am not the lazy type I read chemical engineering in school and I am doing my Msc in oil and gas. Is it my fault I don't have a salary job? God knows the effort I have put jus to get a job. It really hurts that he makes me fill am the cause of his problem. Right now am feeling in secured an a liability to my hubby, I rili don't know what to do I need advice seriously.

soul_glo:

Did she get pregnant alone? You cannot be serious. What nonsense. With an Msc in Oil and Gas she can easily be bringing in six figures within 2 years if employment. So when she starts bringing in the dough will she then be the good luck charm for her husband. I cannot believe you would say such a thing when her husband just basically treated his wife and unborn child as if they are cursed. You are totally ignoring the fact that her husband is a fair weather husband. He is not the first man to hit hard times. There are threads about that all over nairaland. Never read though that a man blamed his pregnant wife for bringing bad luck to him. He is not worthy of the sacrifice she is making for them. Just for him to say such a thing. It's disgusting. He has shown himself as a fair weather husband my only hope is that she moves past it and not treat him like a fair weather husband when she starts making money.

dBard: Hate it or love it @natasha was on point, tho I'll also admit d husband could better channel his frustrations.
@Efe, I don't really get ur post cos it seems ur advising her t focus more on herself n d baby than on d family (+husband) as a whole.
Nice n useful practical tips tho..

Efemena_xy:

Yes, that's exactly what I'm asking her to do.

Her husband is meant to love, cherish and support her, now of all times - but from what I've read up here, he's done the opposite and uttered unmentionable stuff to the mother of his kids.

Is he the only one undergoing stress there?

~ He's doing his Masters, so is she
~ He's in paid employment, her business is failing / not looking up
~ She's got the added physical stress of a near term pregnancy, he hasn't
~ She's taking it all in her stride, he isn't
~ He's dished out the insults, she's swallowed them (miserably) without retaliating.

So what exactly do you suggest she does in a time like this when she's not getting the much needed support and understanding from her husband? You want her to pat him on the back for the derogatory words he's uttered? If he can't be bothered to act maturely, then she should love herself and their unborn baby and just ignore him.

Remember, I did say there will be a time to thrash out their issues - but now isn't. Let her focus on conserving her strength for the delivery with as little stress as possible.

baralatie:
so u are saying in theoritical terms she should apply for a divorce?

Efemena_xy: ^^ Is that what you comprehended from my write-up?