Please kindly help advice a friend of mine who is presently under pressure to go into an affair with his ex. My friend is happily married but somehow got connected to his ex(first love of the ex), who has been widowed for about 5 yrs now.The fire was rekindled when my friend showed some niceties to her. My friend is confused because the ex said she has never been happy since her parent disallowed her from marrying him and now that she is free she has vowed to be happy again with him. Though she promised not to disturb his family. My friend said she promised to take care of herself (she is employed) and the consequences of the action even if it results into having baby. What should my friend as she claim she has not had any relationship since the death of her husband and my friend is the only person that can bring joy into her life again.

What advice does he need?

How to bed the ex and get away with it?

or how to marry her as second wife?

Your friend is happily married?
Pause/stop button is the only thing that readily comes to mind here.
If your friend was single, I would advise she kparolo with the groove; but she is married for pete sake.

Austinmoor: Please kindly help advice a friend of mine who is presently under pressure to go into an affair with his ex. My friend is happily married but somehow got connected to his ex(first love of the ex), who has been widowed for about 5 yrs now.The fire was rekindled when my friend showed some niceties to her. My friend is confused because the ex said she has never been happy since her parent disallowed her from marrying him and now that she is free she has vowed to be happy again with him. Though she promised not to disturb his family. My friend said she promised to take care of herself (she is employed) and the consequences of the action even if it results into having baby. What should my friend as she claim she has not had any relationship since the death of her husband and my friend is the only person that can bring joy into her life again.

By destroying another woman's home?

Some joy that is.

@op, i dont know d kind of advice u fink dat ur friend need dat u cant provide.
Or d advice he (ur friend) cant fink of.
Anyfin ex, should always remain ex as long as dey had long moved on to d point of had gotten married each. Or is he plannin on cheating his poor innocent wife?

Austinmoor: Please kindly help advice a friend of mine who is presently under pressure to go into an affair with his ex. My friend is happily married but somehow got connected to his ex(first love of the ex), who has been widowed for about 5 yrs now.The fire was rekindled when my friend showed some niceties to her. My friend is confused because the ex said she has never been happy since her parent disallowed her from marrying him and now that she is free she has vowed to be happy again with him. Though she promised not to disturb his family. My friend said she promised to take care of herself (she is employed) and the consequences of the action even if it results into having baby. What should my friend as she claim she has not had any relationship since the death of her husband and my friend is the only person that can bring joy into her life again.

It cant end well....she will get possessive...
Except if he is a muslim and maybe he considers polygamy...that way the lady has a bit of him....she will want more

That lady is just out to wreck his home!! Forget it op

^^ Don't blame the lady only.

The man is just as guilty himself. If he makes it clear that he isn't interested, then nothing will happen between them in the first place.

It'll be hypocritical of him to get involved with her, then turn round and blame it all on her. That's just pure Nollywood shyte.

Austinmoor: Please kindly help advice a friend of mine who is presently under pressure to go into an affair with his ex. My friend is happily married but somehow got connected to his ex(first love of the ex), who has been widowed for about 5 yrs now.The fire was rekindled when my friend showed some niceties to her. My friend is confused because the ex said she has never been happy since her parent disallowed her from marrying him and now that she is free she has vowed to be happy again with him. Though she promised not to disturb his family. My friend said she promised to take care of herself (she is employed) and the consequences of the action even if it results into having baby. What should my friend as she claim she has not had any relationship since the death of her husband and my friend is the only person that can bring joy into her life again.

making her happy doesn't have to involve a relationship or marital affair with her. your friend should introduce her to the wife. support her morally, spiritually & perhaps financially & give her a listening ear. widows tend to be lonely - they often need a shoulder to cry on.

coogar:

making her happy doesn't have to involve a relationship or marital affair with her. your friend should introduce her to the wife. support her morally, spiritually & perhaps financially & give her a listening ear. widows tend to be lonely - they often need a shoulder to cry on.

The lady wants some good lovin!....okafee's law

pickabeau1:
The lady wants some good lovin!....okafee's law

you are correct....
i just read the OP's post again & i saw where he said the widow promises to take care of the consequences of their affair even if it means raising the child on her own......that is so desperate of her!!!

and yet some people would say okafor's law is nonsense.

My friend have not said no, scared of making situation worse for her. Is the idea of introducing his ex to his family (and keep the relationship clean) as away of solving this problem ok, considering the fact that women could be jealous. Which other ways can he get himself out of this debacle without hurting the woman. She vehemently promised not to bother his family.

Austinmoor: My friend have not said no, scared of making situation worse for her. Is the idea of introducing his ex to his family (and keep the relationship clean) as away of solving this problem ok, considering the fact that women could be jealous. Which other ways can he get himself out of this debacle without hurting the woman. She vehemently promised not to bother his family.

if she gets pregnant, she would bother his family. at least the love-child would demand to see his dad & that's bothersome.

if your friend starts screwing this woman, she might bother him too. when emotions, passion and love get into the equation, women tend to act crazy. she would forget all her vows & call your friend @ 1 am.

tell your friend to arrange a guy for her. that's the only solution. however, if your friend wishes to fully exercise his rights as a true african male then he can go ahead & sow his wild oats. i support him fully on that - even martin luther king had a side-chick.

I marvel at the way people who know what is wrong still seek supporters to help them justify their wrongdoings!

@OP, What more does your friend want to hear ?

Oh my,...I remember those days when I used to be so naïve and innocent (more like stewpid).....thank GOD I know better now!

coogar:

you are correct....
i just read the OP's post again & i saw where he said the widow promises to take care of the consequences of their affair even if it means raising the child on her own......that is so desperate of her!!!

and yet some people would say okafor's law is nonsense.

Pronto!
Okafee's law
Note this is a variant of okafor

A pokee once poked well at some point in her past time stream will seek the poker at an opportune time for future poking...

What is'Okafor law'

Austinmoor: What is'Okafor law'

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Okafor%E2%80%99s%20Law

https://www.nairaland.com/784515/okafors-law

You friend should kindly check into the next psychiatric hospital and have his medulla oblongata checked.
#Noinsultintended

The best thing your friend can do for her is to introduce her to someone whom she can date

Your friend needs to make it known that he is off limits to her

You cant be helping someone by fuccking them while youre married

coogar:

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Okafor%E2%80%99s%20Law

https://www.nairaland.com/784515/okafors-law

Nawo oh wetin pesin no go hear for nairaland..... who is this mythical Mr okafor

Donxavier:
Nawo oh wetin pesin no go hear for nairaland..... who is this mythical Mr okafor

okafor is the nigerian don juan.
legend has it that he slept with 3500 women in his youth.

coogar:

okafor is the nigerian don juan.
legend has it that he slept with[b] 3500 [/b]women in his youth.

Dude is this really possible ?

That would mean 9 different ladies everyday within a year period or 2 different ladies everyday within a 5 year period
wetin

Even por.n stars that have video evidence dunno of anyone that has up to this amount and it's a job.

His youth was between the age of 17 and 36

Almost 20yrs

Wilt Chamberlain did it

Donxavier:

Dude is this really possible ?

That would mean 9 different ladies everyday within a year period or 2 different ladies everyday within a 5 year period
wetin

Even por.n stars that have video evidence dunno of anyone that has up to this amount and it's a job.

okafor did it & there have been many pörnstars who have slept with 7,000+ women. these things are not difficult if one has the time for it.

Why won't I be surprised.
Once it concerneth third leg, all reasoning flies into the lagos lagoon!
Orisirishi!

He's under pressure because he is being tempted and is leaning towards wrongdoing
You RUN from temptation, you don't play nice with it

yellowpawpaw: Why won't I be surprised.
Once it concerneth third leg, all reasoning flies into the lagos lagoon!
Orisirishi!

Na so na.

It's yet another case of the wandering preeek!

Where Kulyie and Chilli sef??

Efe, pls don't invite those two. I don't hv strength to laugh.

tell your friend to be careful before what killed the husband will kill him!
that's all i have to say

I feel sorry for the poor woman alias second choice wife your friend has at home. She's probably working hard and trying to manage the family while your friend is thinking about his widowed ex. She's probably not getting it as she used to and thinking her husband is probably tired or blaming herself quietly. If only she knew......

Na wah o. Poor wife! So u went back to your widowed ex. You think you can hide forever. I'm sure you have started strafing her.

Keep it up, you hear.

Efemena_xy:

Na so na.

It's yet another case of the wandering preeek!

Where Kulyie and Chilli sef??

My dear, this is serious o. I'm very sure he wants to get her preg too since she is interested too.
OP, keep it up, you may likely join her dead husband soon.
U no go carry your p rick stay one place.

I just pity d wife sha

^^ You're asking for too much!

How e go carry the thing sit down for one place? When his brain is evidently between his legs??