Although we like to think that
the people in our lives are well-adjusted, happy, healthy minded
individuals, we sometimes
realize that it just isn't so.

Personally, I've had moments
where I'll be skipping through
my day, happy as can be,
thinking life is grand and BAM,
I'll be blindsided by someone
who manages to knock the
happy wind out of my sails.

Sometimes it is easy to write it
off and othertimes, not so
much.
Maybe you are a positive person,
but when you are around a
certain individual, you feel
negative. Or, maybe you have an
idealistic view of the world and
when you are with certain
people, you are made to feel silly,
unrealistic or delusional.

Or,
maybe you pride yourself in
being completely independent
and in control of your life, but
when you are around a certain
family member, you
regress into
a state of childhood.
Some of these situations, and
yes, these people, can have a tremendously negative impact
on our lives. And, although we
are all human and have our 'issues,' some 'issues' are quite frankly, toxic. They are toxic to
our happiness,they are toxic to
our mental outlook,they are
toxic to our self-esteem and
they are toxic to our lives. They can suck the life out of us and even shorten our life span.

Here are the worst of the toxic personalities out there and how
to spot them:

1. Manipulative Mary: These
individuals are experts at
manipulation tactics. Is a matter
of fact, you may not even realize
you have been manipulated until
it is too late. These individuals
figure out what your 'buttons'
are, and push them to get what
they want.

Why they are toxic?: These people
have a way of eating away at
your belief system and self-esteem. They find ways to make
you do things that you don't
necessarily want to do and
before you know it, you lose
your sense of identity, your
personal priorities and your
ability to see the reality of the
situation. The world all of a
sudden becomes centered
around their needs and their
priorities.

2. Narcissistic Nancy: These
people have an extreme sense of
self-importance and believe that
the world revolves around them, they are often not as sly as the
manipulative marys of the world,
but instead, tend to be a bit
overt about getting their needs
met. You often want to say to
them "It isn't always about you."

Why they are toxic? :They are
solely focused on their needs,
leaving your needs in the dust.
You are left disappointed and
unfulfilled. Further, they zap your
energy by getting you to focus
so much on them, that you have
nothing left for yourself.

3. Debbie Downers: These
people can't appreciate the
positive in life. If you tell them
that it is a beautiful day, they will
tell you about the impending
dreary forecast. If you tell them
you aced a mid-term, they'll tell
you about how difficult the final
is going to be.

Why they are toxic?: They take the
joy out of everything, your rosy
outlook on life continues to get
squashed with negativity. Before
you know it, their negativity
consumes you and you start
looking at things with gray
colored glasses yourself.

4. Judgmental Jims: When you
see things as cute and quirky,
they see things as strange and unattractive. If you find people's
unique perspectives refreshing,
they find them 'wrong'. If you
like someone's eclectic taste,
they find it 'disturbing' or 'bad'.

Why they are toxic?: Judgmental
people are much like Debbie
Downers. In a world where
freedom rings, judgment is sooo
over. If the world was a
homogeneous place, life would
be pretty boring. Spending a lot
of time with these types can
inadvertently convert you into a
judgmental person as well.

5. Dream Killing Keiths: Every
time you have an idea, these
people tell you why you can't do
it. As you achieve, they try to pull
you down. As you dream, they
are the first to tell you it is impossible.

Why they are toxic?: These people
are stuck in "what is" instead of
"what could be". Further, these
individuals eat away at your self-esteem and your belief in
yourself. Progress and change
can only occur from doing new
things and innovating, dreaming the impossible and reaching for
the stars.


6. Insincere Illissas: You never
quite feel that these people are
being sincere. You tell a funny
story, they give you a polite
laugh. You feel depressed and
sad and they give you a "there,
there" type response You tell
them you are excited about
something and you get a very "ho-hum" response.

Why they are toxic?: People who
aren't sincere or genuine, build relationships on superficial
criteria. This breeds shallow,
meaningless relationships. When
you are really in need of a friend,
they won't be there. When you
really need constructive criticism,
they would rather tell you that
you are great the way you are.
When you need support, they
would rather see you fail or
make a fool of yourself.


7. Disrespectful Dannys: These
people will say or do things at
the most inappropriate times
and in the most inappropriate
ways. In essence, they are more
subtle, grown up bullies. Maybe
this person is a friend who you
confided in and uses your secret
against you. Maybe it is a family
member who puts their "busy-
body" nose into your affairs
when it is none of their
business, or maybe, it is a
colleague who says demeaning
things to you.

Why they are toxic?: These people
have no sense of boundaries
and don't respect your feelings
or, for that matter, your privacy.
These people will cause you to
feel frustrated and disrespected.


8. Never Enough Nellies: You can
never give enough to these
people to make them happy.
They take you for granted and
have unrealistic expectations of
you. They find ways to
continually fault you and never
take responsibility for anything
themselves.

Why they are toxic?: You will
spend so much time trying to
please them, that you will end up
losing yourself in the process.
They will require all of your time
and energy, leaving you worn
out and your own needs
sacrificed.


All of these personalities have
several things in common.
1) the
more these people get away
with their behavior, the more
they will continue.

2)
Unfortunately, most of these
people don't see that what they
do is wrong and as a result,
talking to them about it will fall
on deaf ears, leaving you
wondering if you are the crazy
one.

3) Most of these people get
worse with age, making their
impact on you stronger with
time.

Frankly, life is too short to spend
your time dealing with toxicity. If
you can avoid spending much time with people who are a indicative of these behaviors and you'll feel a lot happier.

Have
you encountered these
personalities? What have you
done?

Any personalities you
would add?

.

On point!!


I have major problem with Dream Killing Keiths, Judgemental Jims and Narcissistic Nancy










I suppose Elena from TVD is a Nancy

uj_sizzle: On point!!


I have major problem with Dream Killing Keiths, Judgemental Jims and Narcissistic Nancy










I suppose Elena from TVD is a Nancy

Yea,you may be right about Elena although damon and stephan made her to feel that way,Dream killing keith should be the most feared among cos most time,envy is written boldly on their fore-head,we don't just it on time and dats where the problem lies.

You should have used Nigerian-names to add to the aesthetics.

Manipulative Makinwa


Dream Killing Kelechi

Now I can see why people avoid me. I am number 2

Mynd_44: Now I can see why people avoid me. I am number 2

I find that hard to believe...

texanomaly:

I find that hard to believe...

But true nonetheless

Mynd_44:
But true nonetheless

smh

They all sound kinda similar. There's someone I know who fits into 6 of the 8 categories.

miss.terious:
They all sound kinda similar. There's someone I know who fits into 6 of the 8 categories.

Wow! Scary...

we should avoid everyone then.

Olugbenger: we should avoid everyone then.

You could have a point.

Olugbenger: we should avoid everyone then.

Avoid me instead

Mynd_44:
Avoid me instead

OP, your post is very disorganized, unattractive and very lengthy. Please bolden your captions and use paragraphs.
Thanks.

texanomaly:

Wow! Scary...

Lol. Ikr