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. by Rubyrose: 6:29pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
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Re: . by papannamdi1(m): 7:00pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
You have a 100% of not havin an SS kid if you both decide not to have kids, Oh I forgot to add, I am AA plus an additional smal 'a' , if you come with me, we can have as many AA kids as we desire ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: . by Toktee(m): 7:04pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
When i brought my result and that of my wife to whch was As-As,my pastor asked us"btw God and man whose report do you believed or can u believed"we chorus,GOD and today we are happily married,our first kid is doing well,if you don't want to complicate matters using ur hands,pls take this threat off nairaland else when you are thru reading all the coments that will come in,you will become a confused person. Go with GOD. 2 Likes |
Re: . by Rubyrose: 7:46pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
Toktee: When i brought my result and that of my wife to whch was As-As,my pastor asked us"btw God and man whose report do you believed or can u believed"we chorus,GOD and today we are happily married,our first kid is doing well,if you don't want to complicate matters using ur hands,pls take this threat off nairaland else when you are thru reading all the coments that will come in,you will become a confused person. ![]() |
Re: . by Toktee(m): 7:55pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
Rubyrose:You don't give God dateline my dear,i got married nov 24 last year,have my first kid,it was after the last shiloh that my genotype changed,hope you don't blive me,better do 1 Like |
Re: . by jumzzy448: 8:15pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
my dear, i think you have to think twice about this. i guess you don't want to have kids with genotype ss. even your child will never forgive you for making him/her go through such pain. i'll advice you ask those who are ss to come tell you about their crisis. my advice is you both can decide not to have kids of your own and opt for adoption. my 2 cent. 1 Like |
Re: . by jumzzy448: 8:17pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
papa_nnamdi: You have a 100% of not havin an SS kid if you both decide not to have kids,why joke with such sensitive issue. 1 Like |
Re: . by baralatie(m): 9:03pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
![]() this is gen type incompatibility.do either 1 of u understand the implication and the gravity of as & as getting mar.av u catered for a child wit ss b4.are u both willing to bear the consequences.pls reconsider. |
Re: . by ireneidiva(f): 9:09pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
A lot of these threads are already here. Browse |
Re: . by Nobody: 9:52pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
My dear, I know with God, all things are possible but then, there are things we have to handle on our own I've heard stories of ppl who God changed their genotypes/blood groups 2ru prayers and I've seen frnds suffer/pray to God to take their lives It's a good thing to be in love but then, y not think abt d future of ur unborn children I pray the good Lord help you in whatever decision you make |
Re: . by Rubyrose: 10:24pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
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Re: . by baralatie(m): 11:16pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
Rubyrose:u both are not seeing this thoroughly.let me explain at any given time: aa=0.33probability as=0.33probability ss=0.33probability.at a given selection. Now here is where it gets dangerous.i.ethe probability that out of 2 u Dont Av 'Ss' 1-0.66=0.36(this is not slim close to 40% ) +the prob of aving at least an 'Ss' plus anyoda=0.89(90% ) please for the child and luv.pls consider. |
Re: . by Alwaystrue(f): 11:35pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
@OP, You need to genuinely ask God for direction and He will lead you. That is what I can advice. Rubyrose:What happens if the test reveals it is an SS? |
Re: . by cantell(m): 11:50pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
Rubyrose: Good day Nairalanders,Better safe than sorry. For now, it's no big deal. But when the challenges come, you'll be the one to suffer most. The burden of having a sickler is too much for a modern day couple to bear. It's never easy. Call off the relationship and move on. In time you'll find a perfect match without the extra baggage. 1 Like |
Re: . by figur: 11:52pm On Dec 24, 2013 |
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Re: . by Nobody: 2:56am On Dec 25, 2013 |
Toktee: You don't give God dateline my dear,i got married nov 24 last year,have my first kid,it was after the last shiloh that my genotype changed,hope you don't blive me,better do I'll believe you when you said there was an error in one of your genotype test |
Re: . by stevebond007(m): 3:02am On Dec 25, 2013 |
I heard DT wen "AS" guys meet de romance is on a higher lvl. but pls consider d kids DT will Ve d SS genotype. Don't cause dem pain cos of ur love. |
Re: . by Nobody: 3:14am On Dec 25, 2013 |
Rubyrose: I think there is, but does it mean you'll terminate the pregnancy if the genotype is SS? How many times do you intend to do that? You opened this thread because one part of you wants to call off the relationship, please do because when the problems that come with having a sickle cell child creeps in, that love go hear am. The average life expectancy for an SS individual is a lot lower than average. I lost most of my sickler friends when they where in secondary school, and a few more in the University, during one of their various crises. I wish I was on a pc now so I can give u an epistle on the sickle cell 'wahala'. Save yourself the stress. 1 Like |
Re: . by Nobody: 3:17am On Dec 25, 2013 |
stevebond007: I heard DT wen "AS" guys meet de romance is on a higher lvl. but pls consider d kids DT will Ve d SS genotype. Don't cause dem pain cos of ur love. Na Indian film? |
Re: . by Nobody: 3:20am On Dec 25, 2013 |
Toktee: When i brought my result and that of my wife to whch was As-As,my pastor asked us"btw God and man whose report do you believed or can u believed"we chorus,GOD and today we are happily married,our first kid is doing well,if you don't want to complicate matters using ur hands,pls take this threat off nairaland else when you are thru reading all the coments that will come in,you will become a confused person. I can believe God directed her to create this thread and she will get the answer she seeks. The Lord works in mysterious ways you know ![]() MERRY CHRISTMAS |
Re: . by glimpse(f): 4:50am On Dec 25, 2013 |
swthrt,if you know you have the measure of faith that will make you not to have SS kids,then safe journey. As for me o,i will take a walk and not look back. My friends aunt,has 3 kids,2 of them are SS,she is a pharmacist,her husband aint working, she runs the home with her pay. CRISIS IS NOT BEANS. And if you don't have that faith,when crisis start,mehn...that unbreakable love you think you have now,would be really sour o,and that is if he doesnt abandon you. PS: i am AS,when i wanted to start dating,my 1st question to him was..are you AA?. My 2kobo. 1 Like |
Re: . by Nutase: 5:59am On Dec 25, 2013 |
Wisdom is profitable to direct. |
Re: . by greatgod2012(f): 5:59am On Dec 25, 2013 |
Where is Abali1? Your urgent attention in needed here! @op, why did you wait for your love to grow this long before befre checking your genotype compatibility? Romantic love is gradual, before it grows to something difficult to break, you should have considered your blood genotype. I am also AS by genotype, during my single days, i wouldn't even give any guy the chance of "toasting" without asking about his genotype. My advice............you might or might not be lucky, and i wouldn't want you to place your marriage/family on egg shell. Goodluck! 2 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 6:18am On Dec 25, 2013 |
Rubyrose: Good day Nairalanders, Don't marry that man You need someone to tell you the hard truth Chances are that you will have much weeping and gnashing of teeth should you decide to have babies I will be very blunt Have you seen kids with SS Why would you want to put a child through that? It will be selfishness on your part to know the high chances of producing a kid that will suffer and die before the age of 40( for the lucky ones) yet you go ahead and do it because you are in love Love gbaa kwa oku Think about your kids They could have SS and suffer Whatever you earn wasted in hospitals Your time spent sleeping on the hospital floor Go and find a mother with some SS child or children and ask her what she is going through,observe the kids when sick ,your faith is not bigger than their own God gave you common sense and expects you to use it A school mate of mine fell in love and the last time I heard about her,they were in PH with 2 or 3 SS kids Yes they are Christians My friend died a few years ago,she was also a Christian Put those children first and use your head not your heart or else you will one day remember my words and it may be too late The worst thing for a mother to do is to bury their child,it is even more painful when you knew the repercussions and went ahead with it. If you insist on marrying that man,don't get pregnant,go and adopt children 3 Likes |
Re: . by Nobody: 6:25am On Dec 25, 2013 |
cantell: Even that loving man she is now seeing will easily abandon her and that sick child in the hospital and find another wife to give him healthy babies and heirs No be man we dey talk? Let her continue shouting love love The burden of that sickler child will rest on her ,the mother 80% Eye go clear am 3 Likes |
Re: . by Abali1(m): 7:49am On Dec 25, 2013 |
Rubyrose:I never wanted to reply untill I read this. In another thread, someone is already accusing those of us are against AS/AS marital union of playing God. (Well, Only God knows my heart). @OP You have 25% chance of having SS child for every pregnancy. Goodluck Ma. |
Re: . by samtol4(m): 8:15am On Dec 25, 2013 |
Quite interesting and mind blowing topic.faith vs reality ! By God grace am a strong believer believe God can do all things however my sister did God told u to marry dis man ? Or u are just having d feeling is the mr perfect ?if u don't marry him does it mean u will never see a gud husband ? Marriage is a life contract ! If it is God leading u to marry him he will back u up but if it is yrfeeling abeg withdraw because d future is greater than today ! |
Re: . by samtol4(m): 8:17am On Dec 25, 2013 |
Single ladies and single guys ! Before u begin to sing d love poem find out if she is as or ss so dat u don't chew what will not digest |
Re: . by Abali1(m): 8:19am On Dec 25, 2013 |
greatgod2012: Where is Abali1?, Some people say that we are challenging God. I think its high time people educate themselves either by learning from others experiences or they are allowed to experience it themselves. |
Re: . by dominique(f): 8:26am On Dec 25, 2013 |
baralatie: Omg! SS plus any other? Where on earth did you get these figures from. Pls don't mislead others. if you don't have anything meaningful to say, no be by force to comment. Op with your current situation, the propability of having SS kids is 0.25%, AS 0.5%, AA 0.25%. Means at least one out of four kids will be SS. Could as well be your first. If you and your fiancé willing to spend the bulk of your married lives taking care of a sick child and watching your child suffer, you have my blessings. |
Re: . by NosoChic: 8:53am On Dec 25, 2013 |
I was in same situation and decided to end the relationship for the sake of the unborn children. You can choose to revert to medical procedures for help, but this will involve some abortion in the event the unborn foetus is discovered to be SS.I couldn't bear the thought of doing that. We need to stop playing GOD. Remember God, gave us all brains so we can think. I have lost a couple of friends and family, who were fire-brand believers with so much faith who still died, the most profound was the loss of a friend in University. She was supposed to be the best graduating student. If in the end, you choose to go ahead in faith, and you happen to still have an SS child, believe me this doesn't reduce who GOD is-He is still the ALPHA and OMEGA. |
Re: . by Nobody: 9:14am On Dec 25, 2013 |
this topic has been raised several times,why do people like playing God...we are higher animal cos God gave us brain to make right decision,why go into something you obviously aware of the consequences...when pains,and stress come,love will vanish..never hunt what you cant kill... do the right thing.my fiancee is AA,the only edge she has over my numerous dates is her genotype,beauty wise,character,and intelligence,i have had better dates,but they were all AS. Cant risk my future at all. |
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