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Poll: Your Wife or Your Extended FamilyMY WIFE is more important: 84% (70 votes)MY EXTENDED FAMILY is more important: 15% (13 votes) This poll has ended |
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Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Roughlen(m): 8:39pm On Aug 31, 2008 |
It all depends on the situation in which i had to make the choice. On my scale of preference, my wife and children comes first. however, There are instances when i attend to my extended family needs before that of my wife. For example, when my wifey needs me to buy her some expensive clothing, take her on an expensive outing or organise an expensive birthday bash for her or our child and my younger brother is at the verge of being thrown out of school cos he couldn't pay his fees, i'll surely pay his fees first. Or my parent is lying critically ill in a hospital and treatment is denied him or her cos she couldn't afford the initial deposit, i'll surely ask my wife to wait. Dat goes even for friends and people i'm meeting for the first time. But don't get me wrong, if it's my wife's or children's school fees against that of an extended family member, then i'll pay my wife and children's own first. Same thing goes for the "lying critically ill in a hospital" scenario. In conclusion, it all depends on the basis of comparison. 1 Like |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by obynnoly: 8:45pm On Aug 31, 2008 |
Your extended family is important to you but when it comes to comparism with wife, no arguements. You and your wife are one flesh and remember you cannot love another person than yourself. This does not mean that you forsake your parents and siblings. It is ur wife first. |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Nobody: 8:59pm On Aug 31, 2008 |
Okija_juju: has someone ever told u dat u a darling? |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by vislabraye(m): 9:06pm On Aug 31, 2008 |
They are both very important to me. I can speak for myself. But there are others who have very bad wives, while some have very wrong relatives, It depends anyway. If you know the kind of family members you have, then you should know how to cope with them, |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by omobachi(m): 12:48am On Sep 01, 2008 |
A man starts a new family that is formally nonexistence and for him to have a successful home he must focus more on this new family, and less on his extended family, he is responsible for the provision and protection of his wife and children, it is not your father and mother's responsibility, if you failed your parents will tell you that it is not their duty but yours, and that they work hard build their own family. Your children and the mother of your kids are your no 1 priority. |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by MrCrackles(m): 8:44am On Sep 01, 2008 |
Fuc.k extended family take centre stage jare my missus |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by ud4u: 10:32am On Sep 01, 2008 |
Hi everybody in the house, Man and woman will leave their families to cling to themselves and becomes one. And if a man loves his own flesh the same love should be applied to the wife, but if it happens that you love your family more than your self in that case your family will come first before your wife. So, knowing fully well that your wife is part of your own body, makes it clear that she will be at the top before every other person will follow. |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by carmelily: 11:39am On Sep 01, 2008 |
if u take your Wife more important than your Extended Family u need not to bear your Family Nameand the point is? a wife should be more important, of course. i don't see why this is a debate. if you were fulfilled with the extended family, you wouldn't take a wife. LEAVE and CLEAVE. |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by kArthur(m): 12:50pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
For me, my wife comes first in every regards. Remember your extended family comprises of men and their wifes. women and their Husbands .So you and your wife is a small unit part of that family.If that small unit is not strong enough it collapses and your extended family is still there.But with you and your wife That small unit can grow to also be some one elses extended family. What am i saying, Me My Wife My kids. Others, including my parents 1 Like |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by obyann(f): 12:56pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
Roughlen: Your have a point |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by slyk2(m): 1:12pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
NO MAN IS AN ISLAND UNTO HIMSELF. BOTH ARE IMPORTANT AS THE OTHER. THEY REMAIN INSEPARABLE. |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by ify2love2(f): 1:27pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
Wife must come first. |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by babakuns: 3:00pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
ur guy may disown u,likewisely ur chick may leaves u but ur family cannot say u are not part of their member what ever thing dat happen to you ,d/4 they are 2 parallel line dat cannot meet,just tactically,&carefully with the the wisdom of God act rationally between them |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Woodpecker(m): 3:08pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
ideally my wife should come first, but we're not in an ideal world are we? |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Phemour: 3:30pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
sly-k: both are important but GOD GOD GOD PARENT |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Phemour: 3:35pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
ify2love2:i disagre, PARENT first babakuns:In addition, dad might disown u but mum will never and some member of the family |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Marketiva: 3:49pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
?!!! I CHOOSE BOTH. your wife is just like your mother and how sucessful you become in life will mostly depends on her own happiness at home. "except you are a soldier" |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Phemour: 3:59pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
Marketiva: She is your hearth, yes. u made vow to luv her not to luv her than your Extended Family most especially your parent. Big lie, than last sentence |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by alabees: 4:05pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
BE IT YOUR WIFE OR EXTENDED FAMILY, I BELIEVED BOTH ARE IMPORTANT. YOU CAN NEITHER IGNORE YOUR WIFE NOR DISRESPECT YOUR EXTENDED FAMILY. A REASONABLE MAN MUST ENSURE THAT BRIDGE BETWEEN HIS WIFE AND EXTENDED IS FIRMLY CONNECTED TO AVOID SUSPICION, BITTERNESS AND CRISIS. NO ONE CAN BE PLACED AT THE DETRIMENT OF OTHER. A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE. |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by nossycheek(f): 4:21pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
It depends; If my husband puts me first before his extended family, same to him. Otherwise, na in sabi The problem with husband's relations is that they expect too much when there is none. They no want hear say e no dey. hence they will want to fight the wife when the brother cannot provide what they need. It happens even where the wife is the bread winner, they will visit and expect VIP treatment. hisssssssssssssssssssssssssssss. na them sabi |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Ajiro22(m): 4:56pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
We need not 2 argue much about dc thread rather a matured nd responsible man will know hw 2 balance d 2 ends bcs both ur wife nd ur xtended fmly r complementry 2 ur success |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by ayobase(m): 5:45pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
the two go together ni oo. the prayer should be that ur wife should be the type that embraces in-laws,or else, |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Phemour: 5:55pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
ayobase: I partially concur |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Nobody: 6:42pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
PHEMOUR: well what happens when your wife divorces you later, does that mean she would go with your heart?? i think some men here have not been properly handled by a woman in a negative way that you become a toy in her hands thats why they r ready to do away with their parents well you dont knwo what you have until u loose it, when u mistakenly loose your parents then you would wish a lot of things you did to make them happy wife - woman - etc, are replaceable but parents are not. |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by TONDO: 7:10pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
i absolutely concur |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Nobody: 7:35pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
Gosh! You guys don't get it! The fact you choose to put your wife / husband first, does not mean you're doing away with your parents. What on earth makes you think that? If you choose to put your extended family before your wife / husband, does that mean you've done away with your spouse? I respect both sides, but guys, don't give daft reasons for your choices. 1 Like |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Nobody: 8:32pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
phemour how old r u?im sure u is still a kid a wife can be a mother,sister,father,uncle ,girlfriend,lover and wife,a wifes place in her husbands life is unlimited,no limitation a mothers place in her sons life is limited,she can be a mother to u,but she can't be your girlfriend,she can't be your lover,she can't be your wife any mother that tells her son to make her his number 1 is a very foolish woman,yes i mean very foolish,because when her husband married her,he kept her as his number 1 and together they produced a child/children,so y shoudlnt she allow her son, put his wife as his number 1? all of u saying mother ,mother ,mother,did your mother take her own mother to be her number 1?if she did,im very sure they(your mother and father) wouldnt be living together as man as wife and i pray dat ur wives will make her extended family her priority,while she takes u (man) as her second best |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by janami(f): 8:38pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
obviously it is the wife. When a man marries, he leaves his father and mother's family to start his own family with his wife. The wife comes first alongside the kids she bore for him which is why they emphasize choosing a wife wisely. |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Nobody: 8:47pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
janami: abi ooooo any man that puts his extended family before me should better go ask them to perform their wifely duties on him because im doing nothing im not saying that a man should forget his family,no way,but the bible was clear,a mman shall leave his mother and father and cling to his wife both shall bcome 1,what other explanation do they need yes his mother and father trained him ,took care of him and so on,no doubt,but she/he did all that for another woman to take over when d time comes,just d same way our grand parents made way for our parents to come together |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by tunjikrown(m): 8:48pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
im getting married in the next 3 month and im preparing for the change of level, i have to put my wife b4 anybody, i have to carry her along in all i have to do. A man should be able to balance btween ones wife and the parent!! love you parent but love more your wife becos she is part of you.[b][/b] |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by royalicon(m): 9:01pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
Remember, your extended family matters a lot in making your own family a reality, right from when you are planning to get married to your wife to the point of looking back and feel the sence of belonging to a lovely set of people right from the craddle. NEVER love your wife alone but your extended family; Distribute love equally. NEVER forsake your extended family for ANYTHING. INSTEAD, MAKE YOUR WIFE PART OF THE EXTENDED FAMILY WITH LOTS OF LOVE IN RAMUFICATIONS. |
Re: Your Wife Or Your Extended Family by Nobody: 9:48pm On Sep 01, 2008 |
royalicon: great idea but difficult to implement, some women before the marraige have a fighting attitude---- hmm i have to put my foot dow or else my husband people would take me for a ride, unfortunately most young girls these days have this attitude, so integrating them into your family is a difficult as it sounds. so tell me how do u integrate some one that came with a mind set of elimination- wipe out the family and me alone selfish me eat all that is available gather as much as i can for my children and me-- women too bad |
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