I sent a girl I liked from University this message and she never responded. Is there a problem with this message? How do I get her to respond to me?


"Hi Andrea, how are you doing ? I've been really bad at managing my time these days.... but let me know if and when you'd be available or interested to meet up for lunch, dinner, drinks, or tea. I'd like to catch up when you get the chance. Best Regards~"

Is this a good or a bad message?

That's cool... Dis should be on romance section

Why should it be in the romance section? I need advice from the mature folks.

obowunmi: I sent a girl I liked from University this message and she never responded. Is there a problem with this message? How do I get her to respond to me?


"Hi Andrea, how are you doing ? I've been really bad at managing my time these days.... but let me know if and when you'd be available or interested to meet up for lunch, dinner, drinks, or tea. I'd like to catch up when you get the chance. Best Regards~"

Is this a good or a bad message?

I see nothing bad here. But explain the bolded. Are you guys dating? are you just asking her out now?

Sophyrocks:
I see nothing bad here. But explain the bolded. Are you guys dating? are you just asking her out now?

Not dating. Just asking her out now.

I'm a bit pained because she hasn't responded. It's almost a month.

obowunmi:


Not dating. Just asking her out now.

I'm a bit pained because she hasn't responded. It's almost a month.

O.k. The sentence i bolded was not neccessary. you are asking her out so just go straight to the point. since its been a month, I dnt think she is interested. does she know you facially?

obowunmi: Why should it be in the romance section? I need advice from the mature folks.

Some folks here aren't mature.

obowunmi:


Not dating. Just asking her out now.

I'm a bit pained because she hasn't responded. It's almost a month.

She's not interested. That's all. If you were into chasing her you shouldn't have waited close to a month to complain. And since she hasn't replied what.makes you think it has anything to do with the message you sent? Are you sure she read it? Or maybe she forgot? Oraybe she's constrained for time as well? Too many possibilities. Call her instead of hypothesizing.

Sophyrocks:
O.k. The sentence i bolded was not neccessary. you are asking her out so just go straight to the point. since its been a month, I dnt think she is interested. does she know you facially?

Yes, we went to university together. Also, she recently (in May) she introduced me to an investor for my business.

Then I felt it might be a good way to reconnect. She always asks me out but I never respond.

The message didn't offend. You're right, I should move on.

5minsmadness:

She's not interested. That's all. If you were into chasing her you shouldn't have waited close to a month to complain. And since she hasn't replied what makes you think it has anything to do with the message you sent? Are you sure she read it? Or maybe she forgot? Or maybe she's constrained for time as well? Too many possibilities. Call her instead of hypothesizing.

I don't have her number. We only talk on facebook.

On facebook, it shows that she's seen the message but she never responded.

I'm a bit shy about approaching her again. She's white.

obowunmi:


Yes, we went to university together. Also, she recently (in May) she introduced me to an investor for my business.

Then I felt it might be a good way to reconnect. She always asks me out but I never respond.

The message didn't offend. You're right, I should move on.

Awwwww. Guess you made her give up on you. Well, give her time but dnt expect too much.

Sophyrocks:
Awwwww. Guess you made her give up on you. Well, give her time but dnt expect too much.

Hi Ms Sophyrocks, I like your response. You appear intelligent.

Do you think prayer works in finding a spouse? I come from a very wealthy family and my brothers married non-Nigerians. I am the only one among the boys who would like to marry Nigerian but it's been one heartbreak after the other.

I've prayed and fasted, nothing. My mother is putting pressure on me. I don't know what else to do.

I've met women and have been introduced to women who want to marry me 5 seconds after meeting me. But it doesn't work out or I'm not interested. I would like your opinion on this.

obowunmi:


I don't have her number. We only talk on facebook.

On facebook, it shows that she's seen the message but she never responded.

I'm a bit shy about approaching her again. She's white.

Oh, I see.

Love bro, is all about courage. Have you heard the saying "its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all'? Its very true. You need to catch her attention. You shouldn't wait a month cos you are scared of rejection. Send her another Facebook message. If she doesn't reply that one then know you have done your best and move on. She may not be actually interested in you. Dont make yourself a pest by continuous messages. Move on. Another one will come.

Sophyrocks:
Awwwww. Guess you made her give up on you. Well, give her time but dnt expect too much.

I will move on. I don't wanna be a stalker or make her uncomfortable.

I will however jokingly remind her. I will extend an invitation to the breakfast meeting meant to take place with the investors she introduced me to.

obowunmi:

I will move on. I don't wanna be a stalker or make her uncomfortable.

I will however jokingly remind her. I will extend an invitation to the breakfast meeting meant to take place with the investors she introduced me to.

Cool.

5minsmadness:
Oh, I see.

Love bro, is all about courage. Have you heard the saying "its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all'? Its very true. You need to catch her attention. You shouldn't wait a month cos you are scared of rejection. Send her another Facebook message. If she doesn't reply that one then know you have done your best and move on. She may not be actually interested in you. Dont make yourself a pest by continuous messages. Move on. Another one will come.

Thank you sir. I will do this.

She introduced me to some investors and I plan to meet with them for a breakfast meeting, I will use style to invite her to that.

If she doesn't respond, you are right, I will move on.

obowunmi:


Yes, we went to university together. Also, she recently (in May) she introduced me to an investor for my business.

Then I felt it might be a good way to reconnect. She always asks me out but I never respond.

The message didn't offend. You're right, I should move on.

Why didn't you respond?? Are you sure you really like this girl or you just figured she's the closest you've got to in a relationship and you want to use that to maybe court and marry her?

The bolded ain't looking good. I think she's lost interest.

obowunmi:


Thank you sir. I will do this.

She introduced me to some investors and I plan to meet with them for a breakfast meeting, I will use style to invite her to that.

If she doesn't respond, you are right, I will move on.

OK then. All the best.

obowunmi:

Hi Ms Sophyrocks, I like your response. You appear intelligent.

Do you think prayer works in finding a spouse? I come from a very wealthy family and my brothers married non-Nigerians. I am the only one among the boys who would like to marry Nigerian but it's been one heartbreak after the other.

I've prayed and fasted, nothing. My mother is putting pressure on me. I don't know what else to do.

I've met women and have been introduced to women who want to marry me 5 seconds after meeting me. But it doesn't work out or I'm not interested. I would like your opinion on this.

The main reason you opened this thread is because of the pressure from your mother. am sure that if she wasnt pressurising you, you won't take it as a bg deal knowing that these things take time. You talk as if you are the lastborn. are you?

Well, everyone faces this same problem of finally meeting the right one for marriage. Its a common challenge. It takes some people years of jumping from one relationship to anothere.You will need to be very patient when it comes to marriage. Perhaps your expectations are quite high. Search yourself to see if you can make adjustments afterall no one is perfect.

5minsmadness:

Why didn't you respond?? Are you sure you really like this girl or you just figured she's the closest you've got to in a relationship and you want to use that to maybe court and marry her?

The bolded ain't looking good. I think she's lost interest.

Well, I can grow to like her.

I didn't respond because my mind was not into dating when I knew her. She's Jewish and wasn't my first choice for a mate.

These days, I'm willing to be open-minded. The pressure is getting unbearable.


The letter she wrote on my behalf was very impressive. It made me think, she thinks highly of me and that made me attracted to her.

Hi Sophyrocks, actually, I am No 2 in line.


I run the family business and that has consumed much of my time.

obowunmi: Hi Sophyrocks, actually, I am No 2 in line.


I run the family business and that has consumed much of my time.

O.k. Are you the busy type? Does your schedule create time for socialising? Do you meet females often? and where do you meet them?

Sophyrocks:
O.k. Are you the busy type? Does your schedule create time for socialising? Do you meet females often? and where do you meet them?

I meet gold-diggers. Women who only want to marry and not date. They don't even want to take the time to know me.

I meet them at clubs, thru friends, thru parents.

hi 5minsmadness,


Here's a copy of her letter to investors on my behalf,

"Speaking on his behalf, he is one of the most thoughtful, brilliant, and deliberate people I was fortunate enough to befriend in college."

That's just a clip, the letter made me a bit interested in her.

But maybe she's not interested and just being nice.

I would like to pursue her without being too aggressive and scary.

obowunmi:


I meet gold-diggers. Women who only want to marry and not date. They don't even want to take the time to know me.

I meet them at clubs, thru friends, thru parents.

Now you see where your problem is coming from. Change your circle. Women who are only interested in answering MRS find the MRS title very attractive. Are you from a well to do family? thats another reason. Please, expand your horizon henceforth. Try to meet with decent ladies. Dnt allow pressure from your mum to make you end up with any of them. They are not interested in a meaningful marriage which is why after marriage they relax. See them as a RIVER FILLED WITH CROCODILES. If you fall in, you are doomed. Some men think desperation in women is a good thing and an Ego boost. But little do they do know that desperation is a mask to trap them.

Obowumi, this pressure you are getting is what ladies are facing every single day. Those golddiggers you see are the products of the society. Ladies are taught that Marriage is the ultimate achievement in life. So will you blame them for wanting to marry you at all cost without knowing you? Of course not. Now you see what pressure drives people to do. Ladies who want meaningful marriages also face the challenge of finding the right men as partners. They meet with different kinds of men, some of which would have terrible characters and lifestyles just like the golddiggers you are meeting. These ladies are constantly told to wait for jesus christ to marry simply becauuse they refuse to marry men with terrible lifestyles. Now becos of pressure, most end up marrying these men and now we get to hear a lot of stories that touch in every social network. That is what the socety has done. It has turned Marriage to a Sham. That is why the MRS title is sooooo attractive to most ladies, the ring, the wedding gown looks like paradise to them. The kind of person you marry doesnt matter so far you marry before you reach 30 years. Funny enough, gold diggers are very good at getting their rich prey. they are getting married every saturday ooo.

Well, now you see things for yourself. If you give in to pressure, only God knows how your marriage will turn out.

obowunmi: I would like to pursue her without being too aggressive and scary.

Send her another facebook message. Let it not have anything to do with your previous text. Something like 'hi, longest time, how have you been?' Should be nice and neutral. Facebook has a poke function. 'Poke' her after sending the message. Get her chatting with you again with no agenda in mind.

Still invite her to the dinner party but in a different conversation.

I sent you a PM. Did you receive it?

Hi 5minsmadness,

I didn't get the PM. Pls re-send.

obowunmi: Hi 5minsmadness,

I didn't get the PM. Pls re-send.

Email me on nkpablo@yahoo.com. let me know immediately you do so.

Obowunmi and women. Actually sophyrocks is spot on with her advise. Send her another message , she may have just skipped the message.

rebella: Obowunmi and women. Actually sophyrocks is spot on with her advise. Send her another message , she may have just skipped the message.

I agree.