Asalam alaikumn to you all. I came across this write-up on facebook account of a friend of mine and I decided to share it with you my brothers and sisters in Islam.

BEING ROMANTIC, A
SUNNAH....... ... If only we know about the
love life of the companions, wow, they were
the gems and jewels of the ummah, the
sahabiyyah(female companions) were the
sealed nectars.. The companions were so
romantic but we don't know all these stories
because we dnt read books about them. So what
we see as romance today, is the rubbish we
see in movies... Don't make the kufar your
teacher, what islam teaches is better than
what any kafir can imagine... The prophet
s.a.w. Was the one with the best example..
In a clear-cut hadith, the prophet said, the
best of you are those who are best to their
wives and I AM THE BEST OF YOU TO MY
WIVES ( sunan ibn majah) ... In the above
hadith, d prophet clearlly mentioned that he is
the (best husband). He was d best husband,
d best father, d best teacher, d best
caretaker,d best breadwinner, d best
homemaker, d best companion and d one
with d best examples whic we are to
follow, ... The prophet is far greater than
every single man in these ummah... It ws
narrated that the prophet will not pass by any
of his wives around the house witout doing
something to them(pinching them, givin dem
a peck, a kiss, touch their jilbab, poke them
or smile at them) to the extent that they said,
if the prophet should pass by anyone of us
around the house witout doing anytin to that
person then it means d prophet is angry with
that person.... SubhanAllah....How
romantic!!!!!!!How many times will men pass
by their wives around d house witout even
doing anything to her? And yet its seen as
normal...... Sometimes after d prophet had
performed ablution, he would still go and kiss
aisha before going to pray..... How
sweet!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.... how many husbands will
even go near their wives after ablution? ..
Sometimes the prophet will kiss his wives
during fasting...... How many husbands even
touch their wives during d day time while
fasting It was narrated that the prophet
would bite from a meat frm d exact portion in
which aisha had taken a chunk and he would
drink from d exact part of the cup in which
aisha had drank from...... how many
husbands of today will even share the same
cup with their wives?? The prophet wil rest
his head on aisha's laps and be reciting
Quran while she is menstruating...... How
many men go close to their wives during her
period..... It was reported that d prophet was
watching the ethiopians playin wit d spear in
d masjid and aisha came and joined d
prophet, rested her head on his shoulders,
until she got bored and left....... The prophet
didn't push her away, he didn't leave while
aisha's was resting on him bt he patiently
waited witout complaining until aisha was
satisfied....... In d story of The ifk(slander),
when d hypocrates accused aisha of adultry,
d prophet didn't take any haughty decision
against Aisha until Allah vindicated her after
several days.... It was narrated that d
prophet used to race wit aisha..... How many
men run wit their wives today? Or even play
some games wit their wives? When any
of d wives of d prophet wants to mount a
horse or camel, d prophet would squat and
place his knees to aid dem in mounting it.....
How many men wil even open d door of the
car for their wives today How many men
wil squat beside a motorcycle and place his
knees to aid his wife in mounting d bike?
These is part of being romantic.. Most of our
brodaz and sistaz have misconceive d
concept of haya(shyness/bashfulness), so
we are now so strict, always looking tough,
brodaz now frown their faces, sisters hardly
smile even to their husbands, these is not
what it means to be bashful. No one smiled
as much as the prophet yet he was stilll at
the helms of affairs of these ummah. Some
brodaz, when they go out, they smile wit
people but when they re comin back home,
they frown their faces, is it your wife that you
should frown at? Is it only when you have
received salary that you should smile at your
wife? Look at the story of abdullahi ibn
abubakar and atikah bint zaid, atikah ws so
beautiful, one of d most beaautful female
companions, they were so in love, they were
mad about eachother, if they could swallow
eachother they would have done that.
Abdulllah was crazy about her, To the extent
that he started missing salat and jihad, until
abubakar siddiq r.a commanded abdulahi to
divorce her, abdulah became depressed dat
he started singing love poems about atikah
up and down at home. This ws what made
abubakar to re-consider the issue and
eventully abdulah and atikah were back
together again, and abdullahi even made
atikah to promise him that she won't marry
any other man after his death. The prophet
said, a woman will be with her final husband
in jannah (tirmidhi)... Abu darda nd umm
darda were also another love bird, to the
extent that when abu darda died, umm darda
refused to get married again cos she taught
no other man can replace abu darda. When
muawiyah proposed to her, she declined and
said, am already engaged to abu darda in
paradise.. How sweet!!!!!!! That's eternal
love. Marriage can be made beautiful or
terrible, it all depends on d spouses... When
umm silah, the wife of ahmad ibn hanbal
died, he wept and said, I have lived with this
woman for the past 30yrs and we never
quarelled for once. People asked him, how is
that possible? He said, whenever I am getting
angry she keeps quiet and whenever she is
getting angry I keep quiet, so we never had
mutual arguement. How romantic.... How
many couples today can spend a week witout
arguement? Brothers learn to be romantic
and sweet, some brodaz are even shy of
expressing their love for their wives, if you
don't tel her your feelings, who will Ahmad
ibn hanbal said, women love to be told clearly
that they are loved, it strengthens the feelings
and affection, if you refuse to express your
feelings for her, it will create a barrier of
harshness between you and her...... Most
couples today are only romantic for the first
few years of marriage, after that, its assumed
that its childish to keep saying (I love you)...
What's childish about it? Walllahi those 3
words are the basis and foundation of
marriage.. Brothers, be romantic: sometimes
u shud eat frm d same plate and feed ur
wives, sometimes put meat In between ur
teeth and put it in ur wives mouth by way of
kissing thereby mutually sharing the meat...
Attimes involve in pillow fights with ur wives,
throw pillows at her, when she is angry, hold
her and tell her how beautiful she is, tell her
"you look more beautiful when you are
angry", if she is still angry, then move back
and throw chocolates at her, spray perfume
on her or pour water on her, all these are part
of being romantic. Attimes carry your wife in
your arms around the house, attimes carry
the baby on your back too, na two of una
born the pikin together so na two of una go
carry am... Attimes play simple games
together, throw balls at eachother, have a
mini gymnasium in your house where you
train your wife for jihad, teach her how to
fight, carry her and let her carry you if she has
the strength, but don't allow her to knack you
gbam!!!! For ground o.. Watch isllamic
stations together with her, eat pop-corn
together, sleep on the same room and d
same bed, don't have your own separate
room, some men now have their own room
where they run to, after quarelling with their
wife, who are you leaving her for? Even if a
man practices polygyny, he can't have his
own room, he has to be rationing rooms from
one wife to the other and one wife per day..
That's justice!!!!! Attimes, go on a stroll with
your wife and chit-chat with her, go to places
of amuzement or admiration of nature if the
places is free from half naked zombies.....
Don't only buy gifts for your wife when she is
sick in the hospital, but for her often, the best
gift is the one that comes from the bottom of
your heart not the store.. Shop things for her,
there is ntin wrong with you going to the
market with your beards and say "I want to
buy female underwears, pads, dolls,
cosmetics e.t.c.. Brothers if you know how to
plait hair, do it for your wife, be her
hairdresser, it will save u some expenses..
Carry your wife on your back and carry her to
her bed when she sleeps off in the parlour,
make her feel like a baby attimes.. The truth
is, every woman wants to be treated like a
2yrs old girl attimes... That's why women
behave childish or silly attimes... You may
have an arguement with your wife and d next
thing is that you wil see her putting your bags
outside the house, it doesn't mean she is
asking for a divorce, she is just being childish,
she simply wants you to hold her, look her in
the eyes and say "I am sorry for the
arguement"... That's women for you.. Every
broda needs to study the university of women
before getting married, read books about
them, learn wht the prophet said about them
and what Allah said about them, and u will
hardly have a problem wit them... Though u
will stil have problem o, because a woman is
always a woman and her imperfections are
there... Even the wives of the prophet were
like that despite their ilm, heekmah and
understandin of d deen..... Except khadija
bint khuwaylid, she was the best among
them, she was knownn as taheraah(d pure),
she doesn't even know how to commit sin,
she never shouted on the prophet even
though she was old enough to give birth to
him, she was the best wife material, a home
maker, a sealed nectar, pepperisticcally
beautifull, the creme of quraysh, sweet
scented musk, stainless and untainted.. To
the extent that Allah even sent angell jibrael
to greet her (as salamu alllaykum)......
SubhanAllah....So brodaz, read books about
marriage, an ideal home, child upbrnging, fiqh
of marriage and the likes.... Don't just jump
into marriage wit an empty head about
matrimony... You will have problems. Even d
wife of umar was once shouting an yellling at
him at the top of her voice, a man wanted to
come and complain of the same issue to him
but was surprised when d same thing was
happeing to umar. Umar callled d man and d
man explained his reason for coming, umar
told him that, my wife takes care of d house,
do d dishes, feed d animalls, bake d bread,
feed my chilldren and takes care of me even
though alll these are not binding on her, why
shoulldnt I also ignore her imperfections? My
broda, go and do d same to your wife, and be
patient and kind to her for there is no
perfection in dis world, and rely on Allah,
these world is very short!!!!!! SubhanAlllah..
How many men can tollerate their wives
nagging let alone shouting? Umar said, you
should be quiet when your spouse is angry,
when one person is fire, the other person
should be water...... Brodaz, when ur wife
steps on your feet intentionally or
mistakenlly, don't let your eyes turn red, just
smile at her, if she did it intentionaly, she is
just playin wit you, if she did it mistakenly, its
not her fault.... So why shout at her over
every small mistake? As a man learn to
ignore some things, don't be petty... Some
men are so feminish.. Do hide and seek with
ur wife, sing poems for your wife in the garden
or inside d house, even if she is yabbing
you... Assist her in house chores, pound yam,
fetch water, don't just be commanding her
everyday.. Bath together with her, wake her
up for tahajud, swim wit her if its available,
cook together, teach her how to cook if she
doesn't know it.. Cooking is not the ticket to
jannah.. Its not only a feminine duty.. Use
blind folds to cover her eyes and tickle her,
scare her attimes, call her from work, text her,
write "I love you" in a small note and put it
under her pillor or in her purse or in her
bathroom or in her cosmetics box or inside
her cupboard... All these are part of being
romantic. When a woman tellls you that you
are not romantic... It means you are nt doing
all these things, its not d romance of d
bedroom she is talking about...... That's why
u brothers have to study "women's
language" its a 10 years course.. Lol... Now
sisters, its also part of ur duty to be
romanticc too. Shyness doesn't mean u shud
be shy to express ur love for ur hubby, some
women think dat haya means u shud be
tough even to ur hubby, ur husband is now ur
mahram by virtue of marriage. There are 3
forms of mahram: by blood, by kinship and by
marriage.. Send sweet text to ur husband at
work, sometimes even if u r in d room
discusin wit ur husband, stilll be chattin wit
him on social network, even though he is
right there in ur front, its fun!!!!!!!!! U shud be
chattin wit ur husband, not non'mahrms on
sociall ntwork.. Buy flowers for him, when
eatin, give him d bigger meat, attimes bake
cake for him to surprise him.. Sisters, use ur
soft voice to sing for him, be creative, a poem
like (((twinklle twinkle lovely spouse, how I
wonder what you are, up above my world so
high, like a diamond in my heart))). Sing
poems for him, no shyness there. Al khansaa
nd khawlaa bint azwar used to sing, ibn
qayyim and imam shafi used to compose
poems. Its sunnah... One day, when your
husband has gone to work, quickly clean the
house and do d chores, cook his favourite
dish, arrange it in the dining table, clean d
cleanable and dust d dustable, then go to the
bedroom, love-vendor it and make it romantic, make
it dim and freshen it up, switch on a very
sweet and halal nasheed, then take ur bath
and prepare yourself for action, then sit gall...

Op, walahi with these things wrote here, you are romantic than Muhammed. Oh! Come o are you doing all these things to your wife/wives or you are just a teacher?

Ayomivic: Op, walahi with these things wrote here, you are romantic than Muhammed. Oh! Come o are you doing all these things to your wife/wives or you are just a teacher?

You sound so funny. Are you a muslim to start with ? Am sure you are not cos if you are a muslim you won't be comparing with Seyidi Uhjud. PBUH

Op I dnt tink u ar resident here; from ur name , den abeg u don marry?

Ok OP thanks. I wil be romantic wen I marry

Maclatunji, Tbaba1234, shey you af hear?

ameenahz: Maclatunji, Tbaba1234, shey you af hear?

So you think I am bland abi? There is God O... Do not get it twisted O, I am very sweet with those that I love even when there is no romance attached sef.

The fact that one is firm does not mean you cannot be romantic, they are 2 different things.

maclatunji:

So you think I am bland abi? There is God O... Do not get it twisted O, I am very sweet with those that I love even when there is no romance attached sef.

The fact that one is firm does not mean you cannot be romantic, they are 2 different things.

@Bland, lol.

Yes, you actually sound uptight sometimes.

ameenahz:

@Bland, lol.

Yes, you actually sound uptight sometimes.

Is there anything wrong with the bolded?

Let me guess: female readers be like:"The one that marries this one will be fed on dry bread and water whilst slaving with house chores 25/7". Gifted are the ones that see beyond this.

maclatunji:

Is there anything wrong with the bolded?

Let me guess: female readers be like:"The one that marries this one will be fed on dry bread and water whilst slaving with house chores 25/7". Gifted are the ones that see beyond this.

Add this......and will be forced to learn computer programming and read 3metres high textbooks every month.

No blame me o. It is what you have made us (me) think.

ameenahz:

Add this......and will be forced to learn computer programming and read 3metres high textbooks every month.

No blame me o. It is what you have made us (me) think.

ameenahz:

Add this......and will be forced to learn computer programming and read 3metres high textbooks every month.

No blame me o. It is what you have made us (me) think.

I only need one person (I do not know who) out of women to think the reverse na. Hopefully, when I figure and sort myself out, I will make a deliberate attempt to reverse this perception if need be although I would prefer someone smart enough to decode my true persona...that would be a lot more satisfying.

maclatunji:

I only need one person (I do not know who) out of women to think the reverse na. Hopefully, when I figure and sort myself out, I will make a deliberate attempt to reverse this perception if need be although I would prefer someone smart enough to decode my true persona...that would be a lot more satisfying.

see now...he has started blowing grammar again. Diaris godu o

simbiatadesomi: Op I dnt tink u ar resident here; from ur name , den abeg u don marry?

Why do you ask if I reside here or not ? Well, I be naija guy based here in Lagos and am very much single and available.

madridguy:

Why do you ask if I reside here or not ? Well, I be naija guy based here in Lagos and am very much single and available.

Well..... I asked cos it is generallly blived dat naija men ar not romantic & ur rite-up seeMs like somtin written by a dream hubby. U mite b a madrid fan mayb dats y ur name is wat it is.
Finally tellin me u ar single wud suffice addin hints on ur availability seems lik u might b hitin on moi

make i comment first before them go occupy my space

Too long to read

maclatunji:

Is there anything wrong with the bolded?

Let me guess: female readers be like:"The one that marries this one will be fed on dry bread and water whilst slaving with house chores 25/7". Gifted are the ones that see beyond this.

I think the Ahlu sunnah are being romantic these days too, no fear frm sisters anymore

Alright.

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simbiatadesomi:

Well..... I asked cos it is generallly blived dat naija men ar not romantic & ur rite-up seeMs like somtin written by a dream hubby. U mite b a madrid fan mayb dats y ur name is wat it is.
Finally tellin me u ar single wud suffice addin hints on ur availability seems lik u might b hitin on moi

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Just make it halal.lols

Summary oooo

simbiatadesomi:

Well..... I asked cos it is generallly blived dat naija men ar not romantic & ur rite-up seeMs like somtin written by a dream hubby. U mite b a madrid fan mayb dats y ur name is wat it is.
Finally tellin me u ar single wud suffice addin hints on ur availability seems lik u might b hitin on moi

OMG!!! WON TIN TAAGE LORI NAIRALAND FAAH.......TOH #IlorinAccent

simbiatadesomi:

Well..... I asked cos it is generallly blived dat naija men ar not romantic & ur rite-up seeMs like somtin written by a dream hubby. U mite b a madrid fan mayb dats y ur name is wat it is.
Finally tellin me u ar single wud suffice addin hints on ur availability seems lik u might b hitin on moi

see as dis sister dey chyke .......just passing bye

op, very nice write up. though too lengthy, when writing something this much, try use bullets to highlight diff issues so it will be more interesting to read. alsi u cld make some bold, post it in more dan 1 post. my opinion though.

Brb

am sorry my future wife I don't think I will be so romantic dis way ooo

Jazakallah Kairan

With dis write-up, mehn, I need 2 marry in oda 2 knw if I will be romantic also....cos dis one I'm doing no be romantic oo na 2 just chop nd clean mouf....lol





N.B. Nobody should quote me ooooo

NawaO1:

OMG!!! WON TIN TAAGE LORI NAIRALAND FAAH.......TOH #IlorinAccent

. I tot na only me dey reason lyk dat ni.lolz. Are u an emirate ni?