Learn to Love Your Alone Time
There’s no two ways about it: Being in a relationship is time-
consuming. However, for the man who has a sweetheart who
is hundreds or even thousands of miles away, there’s less
time being consumed. Sure, you still have to put time into
the relationship to nurture and sustain it. However, you also
have a lot of time that guys in more local relationships
would kill for. Take classes, read books, learn new skills,
meet new people out on your own. Do all the things that
your guy friends with local girlfriends wish they had time
for. Not only is it going to make you a better man, it’s going
to strengthen your relationship.
Always Plan for the Next Time
If you don’t have some plan to see each other again when
you part, it’s going to drive both of you nuts. So before the
two of you split ways, you need to have some kind of a plan
— no matter how vague or tenuous — to see each other
again. It’s also good to have some kind of a rule in place for
how long the two of you can go without seeing one another.
Whether it’s a week or four months, having this in place can
make the time that the two of you are apart a lot easier to
deal with.
Put Your Jealousy in Check
When the two of you live very far apart it’s easy to succumb
to the natural tendency to get jealous. However, if you let
that eat at your or if you express it too much or in
inappropriate and passive-aggressive ways that’s not going
to bring the two of you closer. On the contrary, it’s going to
drive the two of you apart. Understand that she’s going to
have a life when she’s away from you, just as you have one
away from here. There’s little point in being in a relationship
with someone if you’re not going to stay true to them —
especially if they live so far away that you’d never see them
otherwise.
The Most Important Long-Distance Relationship Advice:
Make Time For Her
You might think that this particular piece of long-distance
relationship advice is in conflict with the first piece.
However, nothing could be further from the truth. When it
comes to being in any kind of relationship, you need to put
energy into it to get stuff out of it. So make time for her. Try
to make a little bit of time for her every day. As with any
relationship, it’s mostly the thought that counts; She wants
to know that she’s important to you and there are a thousand
different ways you can do that every day the two of you are apart