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The recession has not only left many Britons worse off financially, it has also damaged their sex lives, according to a survey.
It says the average Briton has sex four times a month, compared with seven in 2008 when the years of economic boom gave way to bust.
And one in three Britons now does not have sex at all in a typical month.

The survey suggests that women are increasingly getting their thrills from erotic literature while men are turning to online porn

This is a significant increase – by eight percentage points – since 2008, says the poll of more than 1,000 adults published yesterday.
The decrease in regularity of having sex may be one of the reasons why the proportion of Britons saying they are satisfied with their sex life – 63 per cent – has decreased considerably since 2008, when 76 per cent were content.



It also seems that the tougher economic times may have had an impact on men’s self-confidence.
In 2008 more than half of the men questioned for the poll, carried out by The Observer, said they rated themselves above average in the bedroom. Today, only a third can claim the same confidence. The survey suggests that women are increasingly getting their thrills from erotic literature while men are turning to online porn.
Some 53 per cent of women admitted to reading erotic novels such as Fifty Shades of Grey, compared with just 36 per cent of men.

Women may turn to fiction but 76 per cent of men surveyed said they had watched pornography online compared with 36 per cent of the opposite sex.
The survey was carried out by Opinium Research which said it interviewed a sample of 1,052 UK adults between July 8 and 14, 2014, via an
online methodology, ensuring absolute anonymity.
It found that 66 per cent of women are satisfied with their sex life, compared with 60 per cent of men.
And satisfaction levels are higher for those in a relationship than singles, but around one in four of those in a stable relationship report being dissatisfied with their sex life.


Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2773035/We-sex-just-week-76-men-said-watched-pornography-half-women-read-erotic-fiction-s-economy-s-fault.html#ixzz3Ei0jenXD

pickabeau1: Saw this article and was wondering with the growth in online channels, erotic literature and life styles occasioned by two working parent households

Any comments?

Odilafta:

Not in Nigeria

pickabeau1: Yes i know its not in nigeria

I asked can it happen in the foreseeable future

We have guys who are getting disinterested in females

same with ladies who dont want to take on the mantle of marriage and be a wife

What do u think

bluelover: mmmm.... Yes it can

It will help in controlling overpopulation in the world

pickabeau1: funny...

bluelover: mmmm.... Yes it can

It will help in controlling overpopulation in the world

bluelover: lol! But on a serious note it would
Change the 'must marry' mentality of nigerians and focus them into other things other than marriage and sex.


Ps: I'm not saying marriage and sex is bad. But its overrated

bellong:

I saw your mention in a post sometime ago but the post was already deleted before I got to read it.

Hope everything is alright with you?

Sorry Pick for derailing this early...

pickabeau1:


Yes you may be right

But it could lead to a soulless sexless society

bluelover: lol!

People are the cause of this, everyone keeps talking about sex sex sex. The more you keep emphaising on it the more it denrates and losses it value.

bluelover: no problem.

Yeah, am a bit okay. Just trying to live normally.
I saw your pm but I forgot the email pasword, I guess you didn't see your mention in my diary

Thanks for your concern.

pansophist: I am not surprised about this in anyway, we are living in an era where you really do not need anyone for sex. I have seen many girls that told me that that they really do not need men in their lives, they prefer to climb higher in their career path and gratify their intimate desires through other means.

I live in a country where many of the young girls have Dildos and different kind of sexual objects in their home. Many of them even prefer it compare to their boys who are predictable in ''action time'', they can have sex with their toys as long as they want until they are satified. They can as well select the colour of toys they want (black or white d!ck), the length, the width, the type (e.g Phalic), the usage (e.g strap on) etc.

We are having more increasing numbers of people coming out as Lesbian, Gays, Pansexual etc and this further enforces the tendency of people sexually gratifying themselves without the need to pass through degradation trying to convince a significant other. More People are watching porn and jerking off with it, more people are beginning to patronize prostitutes, social excluded individuals, shy individuals, lunatics, people with micro penis, physically disabled and disadvantaged mofos are also resorting to other means of having sex.

Not surprised at all.

pickabeau1: Another interesting perspective

a question though.. why will d process of cultivating relationships be seen as degradation

pansophist:

Depends on the individual you ask, the answer will definitely be different. I have a Dwarf friend that confided in me that since he was born, he has not have a girlfriend not to talk of having sex. He told me that nobody wants him, that his height is enough reason to be disqualified, he wont even get a date or even a chance to talk to them and mind you, he is 33.

Take Nigeria for example, a country where LGBT rights are not recognized, a country where coming out as homosexual can lead to mass beating and eventually roasting, how will they be able to satisfy their intimate need? Like I said earlier, depends on the individual.

People in such circumstances will just prefer to buy a toy, watch porn and have fun in the comfort of their home without having going to pass the stress of society.

pickabeau1: Ok.. i see your point

Let me call another philosopher/writer/i dont even know ...

Miz MyColi

Before I say anything, the underlying cause of the issue raised @Topic is pure, unadulterated SELFISHNESS

Well Beau, Pansophist is right in his own rights.
The opinions I'm about to express are solely mine and isn't intended to disrupt anyone's thought process in this regard.

I'm prolly the president of the school of thought that there is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty gives him understanding - of what is right, of what is wrong, of what should be, of what shouldn't be.

Without being bigoted nor patronizing, I have to state that it irks me and everyone whose conscience is still alive, the spate at which right is suddenly becoming wrong, at a geometrical rate and wrong's suddenly becoming right, at what I'd call speed of light.

Excuse me,
That people no longer have the time for sex/fulfilling their marital obligation, hence turning to _erotic literatures, intimacy gadgets, online __Pronography and their likes doesn't make it the right thing!

That's Selfish!

I mean, I hate to sound insensitive, but hey, the fact that things aren't the way I'd ideally expect them to be in my place of work for example, doesn't mean I should stop putting in my best or become so complacent, there'll be consequences, the same can be said of a marriage situation.

Marriage is an institution........
You never graduate from it.
Ideally, no one hates marriage.
People who do must have had battering experiences.

And whether we accept it or not, true love, in its truest and unadulterated form will continue to be in fashion as the innermost yearning all, even of the best men and women haters ever liveth/walked planet earth.
The reason is simple, Love is our nature, Love is our default setting.
Ask Indian Movies Producers

What am I saying in essence? That something has become a trend doesn't mean we should form a bandwagon and consciously/subconsciously go along with it.
Let the ideals of marriage as we know it be upheld.
Let there be mutual partnership/benefits ESPECIALLY mutually rewarding sex between human beings, not toy and human being or human being and electronics.
Where there are storms (like this topic), let's stay together in the marriage and weather it. Let's throw out other options.

Let love and compassion prevail, in all our dealings.
You can never go wrong following this path.

MizMyColi:



Before I say anything, the underlying cause of the issue raised @Topic is pure, unadulterated SELFISHNESS

Well Beau, Pansophist is right in his own rights.
The opinions I'm about to express are solely mine and isn't intended to disrupt anyone's thought process in this regard.

I'm prolly the president of the school of thought that there is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty gives him understanding - of what is right, of what is wrong, of what should be, of what shouldn't be.

Without being bigoted nor patronizing, I have to state that it irks me and everyone whose conscience is still alive, the spate at which right is suddenly becoming wrong, at a geometrical rate and wrong's suddenly becoming right, at what I'd call speed of light.

Excuse me,
That people no longer have the time for sex/fulfilling their marital obligation, hence turning to _erotic literatures, intimacy gadgets, online __Pronography and their likes doesn't make it the right thing!

That's Selfish!

I mean, I hate to sound insensitive, but hey, the fact that things aren't the way I'd ideally expect them to be in my place of work for example, doesn't mean I should stop putting in my best or become so complacent, there'll be consequences, the same can be said of a marriage situation.

Marriage is an institution........
You never graduate from it.
Ideally, no one hates marriage.
People who do must have had battering experiences.

And whether we accept it or not, true love, in its truest and unadulterated form will continue to be in fashion as the innermost yearning all, even of the best men and women haters ever liveth/walked planet earth.
The reason is simple, Love is our nature, Love is our default setting.
Ask Indian Movies Producers

What am I saying in essence? That something has become a trend doesn't mean we should form a bandwagon and consciously/subconsciously go along with it.
Let the ideals of marriage as we know it be upheld.
Let there be mutual partnership/benefits ESPECIALLY mutually rewarding sex between human beings, not toy and human being or human being and electronics.
Where there are storms (like this topic), let's stay together in the marriage and weather it. Let's throw out other options.

Let love and compassion prevail, in all our dealings.
You can never go wrong following this path.

pickabeau1:

I agree it all comes down to Self
Iniqiuty shall abound and love wax cold...



At the bolded....Yes in some cases
Others.. people just stop trying


I agree with the bolded
Thanks for taking time out

[size=4pt]You can share this post but not the laughing smileys you were sharing over d weekend..dia is god ooo[/size]

Done.
and
Noted @TheEmbodened.

pansophist: MizMyColi

Your post makes a whole lot of sense, but it exclude individuals that are not ''normal'' in the social definition of normality. I gave previously an example about the plights of homosexuals living in Nigeria or even dwarfs, or people with some kind of deformity that makes them unwanted by the majority, what hope are there for them?

In as much as it is not illegal and hurts no one, let them do their thing, its not our job to define morality on their behalf.

I've always maintained that no truth is absolute.
Which is why I clearly stated that those were my opinion.
What I consider right may be wrong to another and viceversa.

Besides, except I missed the memo here, the topic seemed to be addressing the majority of married/cohabiting males & females.


Different Strokes
Different folks

Ultimately, it is what it is.

bellong:

alright... but a bit okay? Seems some of your worries are still unresolved?

Didn't see mention in your diary. Will check out your diary....

Take care

pickabeau1:
interesting perspective
Dont u think that is the end game of all th 'talk' as u put it
once sex is demystified and it means nothing especially within the context of a dedicated relationship or marriage say,
why do we need to commit to anyone at all
What do u think

pansophist: MizMyColi
Your post makes a whole lot of sense, but it exclude individuals that are not ''normal'' in the social definition of normality. I gave previously an example about the plights of homosexuals living in Nigeria or even dwarfs, or people with some kind of deformity that makes them unwanted by the majority, what hope are there for them?
In as much as it is not illegal and hurts no one, let them do their thing, its not our job to define morality on their behalf.

pickabeau1: Saw this article and was wondering with the growth in online channels, erotic literature and life styles occasioned by two working parent households

Any comments?

bluelover: yeah something of that sort
Alright thanks you too

pickabeau1: Yes i know its not in nigeria

I asked can it happen in the foreseeable future

We have guys who are getting disinterested in females

same with ladies who dont want to take on the mantle of marriage and be a wife

What do u think

MizMyColi:



Before I say anything, the underlying cause of the issue raised @Topic is pure, unadulterated SELFISHNESS

Well Beau, Pansophist is right in his own rights.
The opinions I'm about to express are solely mine and isn't intended to disrupt anyone's thought process in this regard.

I'm prolly the president of the school of thought that there is a spirit in man, the inspiration of the almighty gives him understanding - of what is right, of what is wrong, of what should be, of what shouldn't be.

Without being bigoted nor patronizing, I have to state that it irks me and everyone whose conscience is still alive, the spate at which right is suddenly becoming wrong, at a geometrical rate and wrong's suddenly becoming right, at what I'd call speed of light.

Excuse me,
That people no longer have the time for sex/fulfilling their marital obligation, hence turning to _erotic literatures, intimacy gadgets, online __Pronography and their likes doesn't make it the right thing!

That's Selfish!

I mean, I hate to sound insensitive, but hey, the fact that things aren't the way I'd ideally expect them to be in my place of work for example, doesn't mean I should stop putting in my best or become so complacent, there'll be consequences, the same can be said of a marriage situation.

Marriage is an institution........
You never graduate from it.
Ideally, no one hates marriage.
People who do must have had battering experiences.

And whether we accept it or not, true love, in its truest and unadulterated form will continue to be in fashion as the innermost yearning all, even of the best men and women haters ever liveth/walked planet earth.
The reason is simple, Love is our nature, Love is our default setting.
Ask Indian Movies Producers

What am I saying in essence? That something has become a trend doesn't mean we should form a bandwagon and consciously/subconsciously go along with it.
Let the ideals of marriage as we know it be upheld.
Let there be mutual partnership/benefits ESPECIALLY mutually rewarding sex between human beings, not toy and human being or human being and electronics.
Where there are storms (like this topic), let's stay together in the marriage and weather it. Let's throw out other options.

Let love and compassion prevail, in all our dealings.
You can never go wrong following this path.

5minsmadness:
I love you.


But this your font is....eissshh

Oh! Really?!
That's good news.

I thought you didn't like me

bellong:

I sent you a mail...

MizMyColi:


Done.
and
Noted @TheEmbodened.

MizMyColi:

Oh! Really?!
That's good news.

I thought you didn't like me