Kanwulia:


MEANING. . . . .you have invested much valuable time explaining how to use common sense, which has never been common by the way!

Thank you

If you feel he's not supportive of your business dreams, do not marry him.

Unless you are willing to compromise, adapt and accommodate, marrying this dude is going to hurt...him and thus you.

I would have taken u seriously if u were already working and in business and his ambition doesn't meet yours. For now u are still a student who sees everything in rose coloured glasses.

100K may not look like much now but he wouldn't earn that forever.

Op viewing the world from the eyes of a student.So much enthusiasm .Its good to have plans,best to want to carry them out accordingly but I do not think your boyfriend is the way you see him.he's probably been there and done all that and now jst wants to chill,take life as it is and settle.talk to him about your concern and listen to what he has to say.from there you can make your decisions.you love him,he does to.what gives?

I don't see you being underachieved if indeed you are innately how you described yourself to be. Not all husbands will be fast and active. And his passiveness has not made him underachieved either. Some men need to be pushed to do certain things while you remain respectful to them.

tomatoJos:
I have a little working experience,and I already have a ready network. That's why I would rather marry someone with capital and drive. He wants me to be a civil servant.

Thanks for the response

Did he tell you clearly that he wants you to be a civil servant/a wife that is a civil servant or are you just assuming that is what he wants?

@salary, less than hundred is not much however you both will survive. This again depends on your area. 80k in Ibadan or Ilorin is different from 80k in Lagos or Abuja. Again, 80K in Lekki is different from 80K in Mushin (both in Lagos)

Op life is not always as it seems. I was like u when I was in school I had so many million ideas, infact when I started I blew 3m in a biz that produced no result. From then on my eyes opened, I had to take things slow and steady. I would advise you as a sister to marry this guy if you really love him and build from there. No condition is permanent. Am telling you reality is different from fantasy.