The above line's wat struck my mind after I returned to my lonely apartment once again yesternyt....

After a seemingly brk up some yrs back dat later turned out to have ravaged my quest for a new relatnship, now like neva b4, I feel a gr8 sense of loneliness...

A brief intro..
My lyf in d university days was very rosy, talkin about affairs with with 'em even though one could hardly survive d never endin hunger..hehe. I was liked by so many. 28yrs,Not handsome, 5.10ft tall (na small I jus raise head ), very dark(like papa suwe).
But ultimately, I was liked o. How I did it, I don't know.

It's 3yrs now since d brk up (a story I will probably share some day) or sell as a movie script..lol. Recently I was transfered from lag to benin as requested. Well, needless to echo dat am doing well by God's grace. I rented an apartment in GRA and now am living life to its fullest. But I jus can't make a lady say "yes"

But I should have a gal! Am always at my best, gat d cash, don't want to play but jus a serious gal is enof. Or have I been approachin d wrong ones? I luv pretty and advanced ladies(not a major criteria though) even though am not very handsome..

I guess I need some help as to d best approach to apply. I decided to post dis here for all u matured minds. PLS HELP!!

Fück you,go see a therapist

Don't go after a girl because u are lonely, do dat because u genuinely love her.

Do the needful afterall u arnt a novice in d first place

You can always get a lady anytime if you set your mind to it. It shouldn't be a big deal. Go out more and mix with people. Don't be selfish and talk about yourself. Radiate your inner good self to the people you relate with. A matured lady will see this and dive in.

kozaic:
Don't go after a girl because u are lonely, do dat because u genuinely love her.

What a stüpid advice

chinziaski:
You can always get a lady anytime if you set your mind to it. It shouldn't be a big deal. Go out more and mix with people. Don't be selfish and talk about yourself. Radiate your inner good self to the people you relate with. A matured lady will see this and dive in.

Tnx a lot y'all.... but am very humble oo

More comments pls

kaya09:
Fück you,go see a therapist

Tnx alot... more pls

I like it when men are @ d mercy of women. Goodluck in ur search!

chinziaski:
You can always get a lady anytime if you set your mind to it. It shouldn't be a big deal. Go out more and mix with people. Don't be selfish and talk about yourself. Radiate your inner good self to the people you relate with. A matured lady will see this and dive in.

I keep hearing go out and mix up with other people. Pls, I need to understand this, will someone just dress up and be going out looking for people to mix up with? And where exactly is this "out" that people go to and meet people?

sparklie:



I keep hearing go out and mix up with other people. Pls, I need to understand this, will someone just dress up and be going out looking for people to mix up with? And where exactly is this "out" that people go to and meet people?

My tots also.... where do guys go to mix up rili?

sparklie:



I keep hearing go out and mix up with other people. Pls, I need to understand this, will someone just dress up and be going out looking for people to mix up with? And where exactly is this "out" that people go to and meet people?

If i may come in?

What she meant was that you should improve on your social life.

Attend birthday parties, cocktail dinners, seminars, inaugural lectures (for the nerds), conferences, watch a musical concert (gospel or secular artiste), attend anniversary (your place of work or that of a colleague), watch a movie/drama night, go on tour/sight seeing of places you fantasies as a child, chill out n enjoy being single for the time being, for the spiritually minded, you can meet with people at a convention or any church programme.

kaya09:
Fück you,go see a therapist

You need to reduce the intake of that weed Mehn.

iebanehita:


If i may come in?

What she meant was that you should improve on your social life.

Attend birthday parties, cocktail dinners, seminars, inaugural lectures (for the nerds), conferences, watch a musical concert (gospel or secular artiste), attend anniversary (your place of work or that of a colleague), watch a movie/drama night, go on tour/sight seeing of places you fantasies as a child, chill out n enjoy being single for the time being, for the spiritually minded, you can meet with people at a convention or any church programme.

Thanks but it could be really difficult attending all these. How many colleagues really celebrate birthdays and anniversaries in a year? Movie or drama night? This is naija jare! How many of those do we have? Asides d cinemas, where mostly "kids" evade!

Well, tour and sight seeing is a good idea tho'. The church is really not a "safe" place to meet people!!!
I'll try the "tour and sight seeing part" and see what it looks and feels like.

sparklie:



I keep hearing go out and mix up with other people. Pls, I need to understand this, will someone just dress up and be going out looking for people to mix up with? And where exactly is this "out" that people go to and meet people?

You know when u become an adult, you'll invitations to differents. You'll have friends to hangout with. Sometimes you can go watch movies. When you're in those events, you blend with the you see.

iebanehita:


If i may come in?

What she meant was that you should improve on your social life.

Attend birthday parties, cocktail dinners, seminars, inaugural lectures (for the nerds), conferences, watch a musical concert (gospel or secular artiste), attend anniversary (your place of work or that of a colleague), watch a movie/drama night, go on tour/sight seeing of places you fantasies as a child, chill out n enjoy being single for the time being, for the spiritually minded, you can meet with people at a convention or any church programme.

Bros all this to get a lady. It appears so stresdful.

I really dont know why some guys find it so hard to have a girl, maybe it is caused by their lives style

sparklie:



Thanks but it could be really difficult attending all these. How many colleagues really celebrate birthdays and anniversaries in a year? Movie or drama night? This is naija jare! How many of those do we have? Asides d cinemas, where mostly "kids" evade!

Well, tour and sight seeing is a good idea tho'. The church is really not a "safe" place to meet people!!!
I'll try the "tour and sight seeing part" and see what it looks and feels like.

Am not suggesting you attend all. You can select your preference out of the list (which you already did)

The national theatre could suffice for a good drama night (A friend once suggested we go there bcz she went there as a teenager)

All the best!

amtheone:


Bros all this to get a lady. It appears so stresdful.

I really dont know why some guys find it so hard to have a girl, maybe it is caused by their lives style

Its crazy doing all those I listed. You can selected your preferred leisure centre

(different strokes for different folks)@ bolded

iebanehita:

Please kindly edit your quote on the present thread you just quoted my name from that liar of a guy. Edit your quote and remove our names, we have reported him to the Mods and the thread has been removed. Thank you

justi4jesu:


Please kindly edit your quote on the present thread you just quoted my name from that liar of a guy. Edit your quote and remove our names, we have reported him to the Mods and the thread has been removed. Thank you

The thread has been deleted already.

iebanehita:


The thread has been deleted already.

Yes i know but can't you modify your post or its not possible.

justi4jesu:


Yes i know but can't you modify your post or its not possible.

Okt. let me go edit it..

have seen it

***modified***

I tried modifying my post but it says 'The thread has been deleted or removed'

Sorry.

Build house,buy car,invest a llittle den tink abt marriage,if u hav all I have mentiontioned,especially d "build house"part my broda u r good to go

Post your bank statement and see the wonders NL can do for you

Lol.... having fun already wif u guys posts. I fink I lyk d "sight seeing" idea. But will my quest be altimately met if it happens there jus no much folks to chat with. And again, if ur in benin pls do well to suggest nice locations for dat... Tanx y'all

^^^Ogba zoo

luvluvluv:
The above line's wat struck my mind after I returned to my lonely apartment once again yesternyt....

After a seemingly brk up some yrs back dat later turned out to have ravaged my quest for a new relatnship, now like neva b4, I feel a gr8 sense of loneliness...

A brief intro..
My lyf in d university days was very rosy, talkin about affairs with with 'em even though one could hardly survive d never endin hunger..hehe. I was liked by so many. 28yrs,Not handsome, 5.10ft tall (na small I jus raise head ), very dark(like papa suwe).
But ultimately, I was liked o. How I did it, I don't know.

It's 3yrs now since d brk up (a story I will probably share some day) or sell as a movie script..lol. Recently I was transfered from lag to benin as requested. Well, needless to echo dat am doing well by God's grace. I rented an apartment in GRA and now am living life to its fullest. But I jus can't make a lady say "yes"

But I should have a gal! Am always at my best, gat d cash, don't want to play but jus a serious gal is enof. Or have I been approachin d wrong ones? I luv pretty and advanced ladies(not a major criteria though) even though am not very handsome..

I guess I need some help as to d best approach to apply. I decided to post dis here for all u matured minds. PLS HELP!!

Until you get comfortable with being alone to create your inner self. you will never know if your choosing someone out of love or loneliness

Be that as it may, what you need at this point in time is DIVINE GUIDANCE. Divine guidance is an invaluable resource. Without it, you are like a sailor at sea unable to find his way because he has no compass.