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8 Causes Of Marriage Failure by bamac(m): 10:56pm On Jan 30, 2015
So many marriages will/has failed due to so many reasons. Some of the cogent reasons are as follows:

1. Not knowing the partner properly: Knowing one's partner is the purpose of courtship, but to some certain religion there is limit to courtship which doesn't give those that wish to be together for the rest of their life the room to know each other properly. Within there so called "censored courtship"  so many things could be hidden by any of the two parties just to make sure the other doesn't go away,and it will definitely come to play after they are married which might not be bearable for the other party. For example, the chances of a woman whom due to the "censored courtship" couldn't establish her kitchen abilities in the man's house for him to examine and be satisfied with the ability of his wife-to-be is shaky because she might not be able to prepare good meals for the man not forgetting that stomach is the way to a man's heart, if a woman cannot cook such marriage is determined.

2. Poverty : This is a very important issue when it comes to marriage, no matter the level of love, money is essential for its maintenance. There must be money for food, to give the children quality education and to take care of other essential needs in the family.

3. Lack of Wife's financial support : many women are the cause of their own family failure when the only thing they do is to sit down, sleep, wake, cook and not engage in fetching income for the family. It is a most for the wife to financially engage herself in the running of the family. Full house wife is a big home breaker, not even in this century should a woman sit at home without doing something to fetch the family more income. A family that the wife waits for the husband to give money for matches, maggi or salt will break at any moment. A man will always be happy when he is assured that his back is covered.

4. Lack of proper communication : Communication is essential in marriage. Proper communication makes the two parties to know what they lack at the appropriate time. Proper communication makes differences to be very easy to resolve.

5. Not doing what you used to do when courting: This is common among men, they tend to change immediately after marriage forgetting that most of the things they did while courting(plays, assistance, was responsible for the lady to have said "yes"  to their proposal. Ladies too are guilty of this offence. They tend to endure during the period of courting but immediately after marriage they bring out the beast in them, this attitude will never develop any marriage but destroy it.

6. Sex: This is one of the major reasons of marriage failures. In some cases the husband might be very active sexually while the opposite is the case for the wife or vice versa. One might look for other means If that person is not properly satisfied sexually not considering the other person. This is very dangerous to do since sexual Intercourse brings about intimacy between the couple, sharing this intimacy with another person is deadly especially when the true partner get to know.

7. Time : Most men/women are so particular about the financial status of the home forgetting that their wife/husband is another currency that needs time to be explored. No matter how much the money is been sort after there must be enough and reasonable time to be spared to spend with the wife/husband or perhaps with the kids. Leaving the woman/man for a long period of time may bring other destroying thought into her/his mind which will be detrimental to the home.

8. Not contented: Any marriage will break if one of the couple isn't contented with whatever he/she derives from the house. For example, the man must be contented with the meals even when something is wrong with it not forgetting that the wife is a human who is bound to be imperfect. Sorting for a better meal due to the error committed by the wife might lead the husband to eat from the pot of the enemy which the result will definitely be against the marriage. And the couple must be contented with the sexual desire of the other or else such marriage is bound to break.


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Re: 8 Causes Of Marriage Failure by mgbeketoto: 12:16am On Jan 31, 2015
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Re: 8 Causes Of Marriage Failure by bamac(m): 7:08pm On Jan 31, 2015
mgbeketoto:
#1. BOREDOM!!! kiss
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Re: 8 Causes Of Marriage Failure by Nobody: 7:29pm On Jan 31, 2015
bamac:
    So many marriages will/has failed due to so many reasons. Some of the cogent reasons are as follows:

2. Poverty : This is a very important issue when it comes to marriage, no matter the level of love, money is essential for its maintenance. There must be money for food, to give the children quality education and to take care of other essential needs in the family.

6. Sex: This is one of the major reasons of marriage failures. In some cases the husband might be very active sexually while the opposite is the case for the wife or vice versa. One might look for other means If that person is not properly satisfied sexually not considering the other person. This is very dangerous to do since sexual Intercourse brings about intimacy between the couple, sharing this intimacy with another person is deadly especially when the true partner get to know.

Source :
bamisepeters..com/2015/01/8-causes-of-marriage-failure.html

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Re: 8 Causes Of Marriage Failure by greatgod2012(f): 10:00pm On Feb 01, 2015
@op, you're right, but let me help you compress it to just 4 that will be easy to remember and generally acceptable. The acronym is MISS. If you decide and determine to, you can MISS these factors/points in your marriage and enjoy your marriage the way it is to be enjoyed.
M for money.
I for in-laws influence.
S for sex.
S for sentiment.
May God help us all.
Re: 8 Causes Of Marriage Failure by Ewuro4: 10:49pm On Feb 01, 2015
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greatgod2012:
@op, you're right, but let me help you compress it to just 4 that will be easy to remember and generally acceptable. The acronym is MISS. If you decide and determine to, you can MISS these factors/points in your marriage and enjoy your marriage the way it is to be enjoyed.
M for money.
I for in-laws influence.
S for sex.
S for sentiment.
May God help us all.

aka ultimate compressor grin
Re: 8 Causes Of Marriage Failure by Nobody: 11:57pm On Feb 01, 2015
What I mostly come accross as dealbeakers are problems with
Sex
Finance
Communication
Respect
Outside influences . . .
Re: 8 Causes Of Marriage Failure by IceSplash(f): 10:13am On Feb 02, 2015
Nice writeup
Re: 8 Causes Of Marriage Failure by greatgod2012(f): 10:23am On Feb 05, 2015
Ewuro4:
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aka ultimate compressor grin



abi o!
What do i know!
How are you my sis?
Re: 8 Causes Of Marriage Failure by Ewuro4: 5:51pm On Feb 05, 2015
greatgod2012:




abi o!
What do i know!
How are you my sis?

I'm great sis, how are you and fam doing too?

Happy Belated Xmas
Happy 2015
And Happy Val's day in Advance. grin

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