LADIES ARE NO LIABILITIES
This statement, as absolute as it sounds is a statement of intent and purpose rather than of experience. Every lady is meant to be an asset to her husband and her world, to live short of this is to not fulfill purpose.
First a charge to all men to treat our girls, ladies and women with dignity and honour, whether they be our daughters, wives, mothers or just a lady out there. Let's be real men to them- pillars of strength and radar for direction; your woman's heart should be at rest because of you. The abuse of a woman is an exposure of the weakness in the man.
Every woman was made with beauty inherent in her, even if it is yet unexpressed. Right handling and or right response to life would bring out the best in a woman.
Having said that, it is important to also charge every lady (young or old) to build up her capacity to really support her husband in marriage. Please do not be a liability to your man; don't be a thorn in his flesh. Rather help him to be what he is meant to be, he really won't make it without you. Let your life make meaning in and to the purpose of your man, he will handle you like a treasure if you really make yourself indispensable to his vision, because men (correct men) are driven by vision.
As almighty as your man seems to be, he has his weak points, your job is not to expose them but to compliment him, so he becomes a better man.
Even when you're married, please do not limit your contribution to his life to only food and emotional or sexual pleasure(though these are very important and must not be overlooked) but give him more.
Every man is needy, just like every lady too. We easily love those who meet our needs, and we tend to stay in love with them if they keep meeting our needs (Note I didn't say wants).
So assess your relationship, are you really meeting any need in your spouse? How important are the things you give him and do for him to his destiny now and in the future? If you are not meeting any need, very soon you would not be needed. Also note that needs grow and change with time, hence you need to be aware of your spouse's current needs and keep building capacity to meet those needs meant for you to meet.
The only way you remain relevant in a relationship is to keep meeting needs, even when he does not ask. Trust God to show you areas you need to be of help to your spouse, build capacity and keep meeting his needs. Remain an asset that you are to him.
This is not an exhaustive message on keeping a successful relationship, but a word for somebody today, may it profit you. Amen._PEACE!